Too many holidays?

[HuntyGirl]

I love to holiday. DH does too but thinks we do too many abroad and staycations. I like to go abroad about 4 times a year and the same amount of staycations if not more.

AIBU to want to holiday so much?

Can you afford them? Have enough annual leave for them?

This is something of a ‘how long is a piece of string’ question as it stands.

If you’re flying abroad you’re going to have quite a big carbon footprint. But can’t see any issue with taking that many breaks unless you’re leaving him with the kids each time!

This is going to sound like sour grapes but I honestly couldn't cope with taking that many holidays abroad a year. Unless I was retired of course.

Is that you Kate?

How? Are you talking proper holidays 1-2 weeks, or mini breaks? Are you retired? If you manage that whilst working full time I would love to know how😁

Go away as much as you please. Staycation is so bloody irritating.

We can afford them and have enough annual leave. DH gets more than me, about 28 plus BH. I don't see the issue!

Next year we have 4 planned. Each one week long. 3 are Europe and one is Further flung.

Staycations are easier as just long weekends and I can wfh.

A staycation is when you stay at home isnt it?
Anyhoo holiday as much as you want really 🤷🏻‍♀️

Boring stealth boast alert

Is he saying he’d prefer to have more time where he just gets to be at home relaxing as opposed to always off somewhere and feeling obliged to be out and about exploring’ and adventurin’ etc? Because no, that’s not unreasonable. If all your annual leave time is still spent being on the go just in a different location, I can see why he’d prefer to do less of it.

You can never have enough holidays !

I love going on holidays

However, I stay within my budget

A holiday in the UK is a holiday, not a staycation.
Have as many holidays as you like, nobody cares

There's nothing like having a week off slobbing around at home doing nothing but recharge your batteries imo.

Do what you want/can afford, why would that be unreasonable? Unless you just wanted to brag about all your holidays of course

Staycation means taking time off work and staying at home. If you’re holidaying in the U.K. you’re still going on holiday.

It is where I live (US). It seems like in the UK people use it to mean a holiday in their own country. But here in the US a staycation is taking time off work but staying in your own home and going to museums, national parks, etc close by.

Why does he think it's too many?

Compromising is normal and necessary in relationships. YABU if you are refusing to compromise.

If the issue is he’s rather have more down time just staying at home then you’ll obviously have to compromise.

Could you do city breaks with a friend?

Do you have any AL you both take off and just stay home? That’s not too much to ask if it’s not all the time. It’s difficult though if you’ll fee that’s a wasted holiday.

There will definitely be a compromise to be found.

Only 4 holidays?! You poor thing - we manage at least 6, two weeks at a time. Plus at least twice as many staycations. Looking forward to checking into Soho Farmhouse again this weekend.

No, a staycation is when you take time off work and go out for days etc.
A holiday in your own country is just that. Not your own bed. Your own country.

My dp doesn't like going away. We live in quite a touristy place by the sea, he's happy to stay here. So I travel with DD. I don't buy shoes, or go to the hairdresser's. I prefer spending money on travel. Everyone decides for themselves what to spend their money on and how often to holiday if they do go on holiday.

I have a friend who goes abroad about every two months. She flies lo cost, books months in advance and stays in 2 star b&bs. Her choice so she can afford to go more often.

I go once and spend more on hotels. I go abroad because doing the "package" myself it works out much cheaper than a UK holiday would.

It depends totally on his reason he feels it's too much.

What's his reason? You left that out.

Otherwise how could anyone possibly say whether it's "too" much? It's more than usual for the average person that's for sure. Probably not for the wealthy.

He'd prefer to save more or overpay the mortgage more rather than go on more hols. We already save and overpay so I would rather leave it as it is

And it doesn't even sound real. I don't know how you can stretch 8 vacations in a year with 36 days of annual leave. Unless they like short trips or travelling around Christmas and Easter where they take away from you few days.