Too many holidays?

[HuntyGirl]

I love to holiday. DH does too but thinks we do too many abroad and staycations. I like to go abroad about 4 times a year and the same amount of staycations if not more.

AIBU to want to holiday so much?

Haha! What a revoltingly wanky post. Who the hell feels the need to extol the virtues of "living a privileged life" on the Internet?

Nobody cares whether you want to spend your time on holidays or not. And nobody likes a stealth brag. Spend your money how you want?

I agree with this actually. I generally think the rich have as much right to moan on MN as the non rich but complaining about only having five foreign holidays a year at the moment is pretty tacky.

There have been a few boasty threads recently and I honestly think people start them simply to get a reaction. Furthermore, people who stealth boast like this are probably hoping their story will be picked up by the tabloids.

I'm not usually one to give a toss about whether a thread is a stealth boast, in bad taste, etc. but Jesus H Christ OP, read the room.

I don't really get these kind of comments. The thread is the 'room' and the title gives a reasonable idea of the content. Nobody has to open it.

He has a decent amount of leave but it sounds like almost all of it is going on these holidays? Maybe he wants to chill at home and relax for one of those weeks?

YANBU.
We like to spread breaks throughout the year. We do 2-3 abroad week/ 2 weeks and 2-3 U.K. (short breaks usually).
I work 2 days and have Monday and Friday off and get a good AL allowance. DH is FT but also gets a decent allowance and he will buy an extra week next year.
Go for it! Life is for living - Covid taught me that.

Of course you're not being unreasonable wanting to go on holiday a lot. I'm sure most people do! The issue is whether you have the time and money, and whether you and your husband are on the same page about it.

I'm confused when you say you take about 4 staycations a year. That's just taking time off work and visiting local attractions. Why would that be an issue, if you have the time you can take?

Each to his own. I have been on some lovely holidays in my time, but always come home and look at the wonderful view of the Welsh mountains from my windows and wonder why I went - I have yet to find anywhere more beautiful - warmer yes, but not more beautiful.

At a time when the cost of living is going through the roof, the country needs money, redundancies are ramping up (90,000 CS jobs to go) and the environment is under pressure, you choose to go on 4 foreign holidays a year.

"We're all in this together.... " hahaha...

I think there’s a good chance they’re the same person using different user names.

I love going on holiday and if I could afford it I would absolutely go more than I do now.

However I probably wouldn’t go as often as you do as it seems you don’t get much time to do stuff at home?
Are you going on holiday almost every holiday you have from work?

We only use annual leave to go on holiday. Sometimes we get back and go back into work the next day!

To be honest if my "D"H tried to restrict me to less than 8 holidays a year, I'd LTB!

Get your ducks in a row op!

I only get out of bed for a holiday.

There's no universal "too much" or right amount; if you have the time and can afford to travel, the remaining issue (and it can be a big one) for a couple is working things out so you're both happy with the amount of your budget that goes to leisure travel vs other things and the amount of time.

It sounds like you're happy with the situation now/in recent years and your husband wants to cut back. What does he propose to change, and why? What's important to him, and to you? Can you compromise? His saying it's too much travel is a starting point for a discussion but only that.

Isn't that what everyone does?

I’m with you OP
i like to have at least 3 abroad holidays

I’ve did two weeks in Oct last year , 2 weeks in Feb this year have a week in June and two weeks in Sept all abroad
Also have a weekend in London over the bank holiday weekend in August and a Planning a 2 night weekend away but within 2hrs drive

Well this is the the most blatant humble brag I’ve seen this week so congrats on that! 🤣

Why not, enjoy it! Soon as my youngest is off to Uni (4yrs) I intend to do the same. I’ve spent 28yrs parenting so far and 24yrs of school holiday only breaks. I plan to make up for it

Just in response to the comment that the thread is the 'room', and people know what to expect opening it from the title. I actually thought this was going to be about climate change and people going on holiday too much, so I was actually slightly surprised to see it was someone fretting whether they go on too many holidays.

Honestly what does that even mean ? If you enjoy doing it and can do it, and the concern isn't environmental or financial, then what is too many holidays?

It isn't really a problem is it, its just something you and your OH discuss whether you want to carry on or not, I don't see how our comments can influence that.

Last week me and my OH discussed that we have pasta too much for tea, we concluded that we both like pasta and can't be bothered thinking of something else for tea. I don't see how asking others if we have too much pasta would influence our decision.

Unless you were asking to start a general discussion on other people's opinions whether they would personally stop enjoying holidays after a certain point. If that's the case then I feel for me 2/3 holidays per year abroad would be max (theoretically) as I feel it would feel less special if I overdid it and I like time at home to build up the excitement.

I take six abroad a year, so I would say no

Well done Op you are just about complying with the MN law on the minimum number of compulsory holidays per year.

And THAT is a staycation. Bloody media...

DH is hod, he doesn't work in the holidays.