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Part 4 AIBU to keep this discussion on Amber and Jonny going?

988 replies

ENoeuf · 22/05/2022 18:39

Just in case we run out on part 3

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ENoeuf · 25/05/2022 15:41

https://www.iadclaw.org/assets/1/19/TrialTechniquesTacticsDecemberr_2018.pdf

I also read this - the end of it explains tactics

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Aspiringmatriarch · 25/05/2022 15:45

Miscfeminista · 25/05/2022 14:22

Ok I'm a bit shocked with Kate Moss voice, I don't think I ever heard her before. Had no idea she's from UK either

She's from Croydon if I remember correctly.

ObjectionHearsay · 25/05/2022 15:46

IrisVersicolor · 25/05/2022 15:40

Indeed it does fall under domestic abuse.

A man who smashes places up regularly is violent.

It’s only a matter of time before the stuff being hurled hits another person accidentally or on purpose.

If there were a child in the mix, that type of violence alone would be grounds for SS investigation in the U.K. as a safeguarding issue.

So this is where hair splitting in legality becomes important.

I'd say, his behaviour of destruction of property is aggressive and psychologically abusive.

I wouldn't class it as "violent". You can't be violent towards an object. A violent crime is when someone physically hurts or threatens to hurt someone, this is then aggrivated when a weapon is used.

So, classification for me. Violent man, no. Abusive man. Yes.

And I agree, with such abuse going on in the house a child safeguarding would definitely be warranted.

vegang · 25/05/2022 15:46

Thank you and thanks @Menora

unctuousunicorns1 · 25/05/2022 15:53

"A man or woman who smashes places up regularly is violent."

Fixed that for you. For all we know they're both as bad as each other at chucking stuff about. The Australia tape seems to suggest that.

Again I wonder with all this that they're not unwittingly seeking over and again the adrenaline rush from a childhood filled with regular chaos, rowing/screaming and throwing objects about. If you've never known what a "normal", "quiet" life is, then I imagine it must be difficult to replicate in adulthood. #armchair psychology.

adriftabroad · 25/05/2022 15:57

@unctuousunicorns1 good point. It must be hard to imagine calm.

Boulshired · 25/05/2022 15:57

Dr Curry maybe is talking a load of rubbish (I don’t know), but she presents that rubbish very well

ObjectionHearsay · 25/05/2022 16:01

Like I've said, I haven't got a dog in this fight.

I am now nearing the end of this and the testimony. And I think I'm willing to rest my case that both parties are abusive.

I can't tell you who started this circle:

abuse-reactionary violence- reconciliation. And round and round we go.

However on the actual cases, that is monetary damage. I do not believe AH has a proven counter claim of 100million of losses.

But...this is where I am going to get flamed by some.

With regards to the op-ed. I do believe that some defamation has taken place against JD. I believe this because AH has attempted to portray herself as a sole victim, negating all her negative behaviour in the relationship. She has not inferred her abusive behaviour, only that she was ever the victim. This has then cast JD out to be the "sole abuser" "the sole aggressor" when in fact, some of the violence that occured could have been retaliatory, self defence, and also JD has been a victim himself.

I'd award damages to JD but not the full 50million. Circa 5million.

jeffgoldblum · 25/05/2022 16:01

Can someone tell me what Kate miss said? ( pretty please)

jeffgoldblum · 25/05/2022 16:01

Moss (sorry autocorrect!)

garlicandsapphires · 25/05/2022 16:04

jeffgoldblum · 25/05/2022 16:01

Can someone tell me what Kate miss said? ( pretty please)

you know you can scroll back?

ENoeuf · 25/05/2022 16:04

They were on holiday in Jamaica, he left the room before her, she the followed and fell down the stairs, screamed out in pain and bewilderment, he came back and carried her to the room and sought first aid.

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Legrandsophie · 25/05/2022 16:04

jeffgoldblum · 25/05/2022 16:01

Can someone tell me what Kate miss said? ( pretty please)

She said he didn’t push her down the stairs in Jamaica. She tried to say more but was cut off.

ENoeuf · 25/05/2022 16:09

I'd love to hear the discussions really. Dying to know why all of them go up and what they are asking for

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Miscfeminista · 25/05/2022 16:11

I would like to see inside the judge head and what she personally thinks about this case

unctuousunicorns1 · 25/05/2022 16:12

JD seems to be always looking down with his hands in his lap when he's not being addressed. I reckon he's got his phone under the desk, checking out YouTube and Twitter comments. 😅

jeffgoldblum · 25/05/2022 16:13

@garlicandsapphires
I've been reading this whole thread and those before , it wasn't mentioned, only that she did a good job!
Thanks to posters who replied 😊

ENoeuf · 25/05/2022 16:13

They've called JD?

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unctuousunicorns1 · 25/05/2022 16:13

"I'd love to hear the discussions really. Dying to know why all of them go up and what they are asking for"

Oh, indeed!

Boulshired · 25/05/2022 16:15

From the DUI guy in the court room

”The jury appears to be eating out of Curry's hands they are very alert and focused about her every word. Number five is tilting her head again”

garlicandsapphires · 25/05/2022 16:16

jeffgoldblum · 25/05/2022 16:13

@garlicandsapphires
I've been reading this whole thread and those before , it wasn't mentioned, only that she did a good job!
Thanks to posters who replied 😊

Oh I meant you can scroll back on YouTube, at least you can on the one I’m watching (SkyNews) but I think on other channels you can’t.
Kate Moss was very brief, less than 3 minutes. It must’ve been so strange for her to be there, from what I’ve read she adored him. She looked nervous.

ENoeuf · 25/05/2022 16:17

Boulshired · 25/05/2022 16:15

From the DUI guy in the court room

”The jury appears to be eating out of Curry's hands they are very alert and focused about her every word. Number five is tilting her head again”

Is he a depp fan? I just don't really trust much second hand stuff. I tried to watch Emily baker and all the sniggering was just weird. I know theres a market for it but it seems so weird to get your reactions spoon fed to you

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ENoeuf · 25/05/2022 16:18

I can't scroll back on any, it's so frustrating.

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jeffgoldblum · 25/05/2022 16:18

@garlicandsapphires
Apologies thought you meant the thread! 😉

unctuousunicorns1 · 25/05/2022 16:19

Agreed, I've just been watching Fox or LACNW, I said earlier I can't be doing with punditry, just give me it straight.