Kids playing outside at 9.40pm

[Jas5mum]

Do you think its acceptable for primary school aged kids to be playing outside at this time of night??
My kids can't settle as they can hear them out there shouting and bouncing a basketball. They often kick the ball at my house and I have to tell them to move on. Why do their parents think its acceptable to be out there past 9pm?
They have 2 babies living next door, they also have a baby.
I let my kids in the garden from 10am until 7pm.

It's fine, personally not for me as a mum but can't see any actual harm on a weekend

No, I don't faff. I have four children. One leaves at 8am for school, other three out the door to walk to school/nursery at 8.40am.

Lots going on every morning, even at weekends we have morning classes running.

There we go then.

I have 1 child. I have an alarm set for 7:30 6 days a week. DD gets up at 7:50 and we leave at 8:40 for school (slightly later on Saturday but I have to grab gym kit).

Even a 10pm bedtime gets her almost 10 hours of sleep which is plenty for her (she’s 11). I’m usually in bed for midnight giving me at least 7 hours sleep which is plenty for me.

"We've lost sight of a healthy weight"

"Kids are outside playing on a light early summers evening"

Batshit.

The country is fucked because kids are playing out in the light summer evening? Where did you grow up? In borstal?

Well if you're getting up at 6 and first child leaving at 8 I still don't know how it takes 2 hours to get dressed, eat breakfast, brush teeth and hair, put on shoes/coats, but OK. Still it must be obvious to you that not all families would need that long so getting up at 8 to be somewhere at 9 is not 'laughable'.

😂😂😂

Some people, like me, have a shower every morning, so did my children. Hair washed ever day too. That's why some people get up early.

Same here @orangeisthenewpuce showers every morning for five in one bathroom. We leave at 820. Kids asleep by730/8 weekdays and weekends. No one is awake at ten pm in our house.

So because you get up at 6am, you think that must mean everyone else does too?

I don't know anyone who takes that long to get ready for work and school in the mornings. I used to get up at 7.30am and was in the car ready to leave at 8.15am - got to school for 8.30am with no issues at all.

@coffeecupsandfairylights
So because you get up at 6am, you think that must mean everyone else does too?
I don't know anyone who takes that long to get ready for work and school in the mornings. I used to get up at 7.30am and was in the car ready to leave at 8.15am - got to school for 8.30am with no issues at all.

No of course not. My point is that just because you and your children are up and out with having a shower in the morning, not everyone is.

Well, yes, that's kind of my point? lol.

Some posters are saying that children need at least 9 hours of sleep at night - and I'm just pointing how they can get that amount and still go to bed late.

I shower every morning and wash my hair every other……. Still don’t need 2 hours to get out the door.

There is a strangely superior tone to your post about nobody being awake after 10pm.

3 people in this house with 3 showers and 4 toilets. We would all much rather stay up/get up late than have to wait around for others.

If it’s quietish playing I wouldn’t care what time they were out until. Noisy screaming, balls etc should stop by 7. People on my street let their kids scream and shout in the street until that time and it’s very inconsiderate, keeps my children up way past their bed time. I tell them to clear off now and they all hate me 😂

I think it's too late yes. But I struggle so much with noise in gardens. This attitude that your garden is another room of your house. For me it feels intrusive, like I have no space outside that's for me because all the space is used up by my neighbours who are conducting their whole lives outside during the warm months. Very loud grandchildren screeching for hours. Meals that go on until 10 or 11pm at night, not just now and again but every single day. I just give up and stay in because it's an assault on the senses to go outside.

its like the parents want them out of the way so send them out

Well, if they have babies at home too, then chances are they do want them outside, not making noise inside.

But if the kids are disturbing all the neighbours, you need to talk to the parents.

You can't live in close proximity to other people and expect silence or peace and quiet, though. It's just unrealistic.

I know most people can't afford to go and live in the middle of nowhere, but that doesn't mean that people are unreasonable for living and making noise in their own gardens either.

Me and my husband are respected and respectful people but we live in a council area and don’t have friends round oftern they came last night and my nearly 3 year old was running round garden till 10:30 then she wanted bed
neighbors fine no complaints at all
it’s a 1 off in summer times tho as we work very hard

I agree, it is unrealistic. And yes if I was rich I'd be living without neighbours! I think with our neighbours it's just the relentlessness of it. The thing of never being able to go out and just enjoy some time outdoors without hearing every word from them. It feels like they own the outdoors as well as indoors. But I don't disagree with you - it's not unreasonable for them to use their garden. It's just I'm very sensitive to it. I wish I knew how not to be!

@anaa1 Buy yourself some ear pods start enjoying your garden listening to relaxing music or a good podcast.

It's laughable because it's not realistic if you have multiple children. But I understand with one child it's a reasonable time to get up at. Fair do's.

I have washing to put on as well as get children up, dressed, breakfasted, check packed lunches are organised, getting toileting done in plenty time before leaving the house. Teenager often fannies around, so needs to be reminded to get this and that. It would be much easier if everyone just started their day at same time 😂

I also drink tea and take my time with it before all the chaos of the morning - that is also why I get up very early. Luckily I am a morning person and asleep normally before 9pm most nights. Love my sleep 😴

Because if its my turn to sleep in then I aim to stay in bed until 10am! And on a saturday or sunday morning I assume other people will want a lie in too. I put the washing out earlier but leave the kids in the house.

These kids never play in their garden so they're in the street or the green. The housing association are going to put up a no ball games sign on the wall opposite my house(its a road that leads to the parking at the back of the houses). I'm sure it annoys my disabled neighbour too as he finds it difficult to leave the house on foot and can't keep coming down the stairs(1st floor flat) to ask them to stop.

Yes - I really need to do that! And maybe get a very loud water feature 😄