Kids playing outside at 9.40pm

[Jas5mum]

Do you think its acceptable for primary school aged kids to be playing outside at this time of night??
My kids can't settle as they can hear them out there shouting and bouncing a basketball. They often kick the ball at my house and I have to tell them to move on. Why do their parents think its acceptable to be out there past 9pm?
They have 2 babies living next door, they also have a baby.
I let my kids in the garden from 10am until 7pm.

Would to you prefer the kids to be indoors sat in front of screens?

Not a thing wrong with playing outside before school or playing out until dark in the summer.

@WhiteCatmas Good point.

Children are strongly criticised no matter what they do.

As long as they're not shouting or kicking a ball, they've a right to enjoy their weekend like anyone else.

On a summer holidays it's absolutely normal to be out until 9 even for the little ones, the parents are watching too.

I lived in an apartment block where DC didn't play out until DD was 6, she is introverted and anti social DS OTOH whose 6 years younger has a much better childhood out every day, the benefits are huge.

Or maybe the parents want them outside making the most of the nice weather rather than stuck indoors staring at a screen.

If you told us to shut up, I’d tell you to go away, So.....There We Are Then.

You could let yours out to play too?

I live in a neighbourhood with loads of kids who are out and playing all the time and I think it's so lovely. I grew up more rurally and we didn't play out because we were on a main road with no other kids just next door and I'm honestly kind of envious of the fun my children have after school and in the evenings.

Even though mine are in bed by 9 as they get tired by then, there are others who are out til 10 or later and I like to hear them. It's summer. The sound of children being active and having fun is beautiful in my opinion.

I'm sure the parents haven't chucked them out against their will so YABU to say they want them out of the way. Are they standing around looking miserable or having a lot of fun? Bet it's the latter, they asked to go out and could go in if they preferred.

YABU the parents have a right to parent as they want. They've probably had a long gruelling week of work and looking after a baby so getting the older ones out of their hair for a couple hours so they can eat dinner or watch some TV or sneak in a shag whilst the weather is okay and the evenings are light must be a godsend.

Your kids sound delightful, glad you’re not my neighbours. Kids shouldn’t be disturbing the peace at 9:40pm & the kids that invariably do are always chav kids

As long as they are safe, then it's perfectly reasonable.
I used to let mine out all day, every day when they were younger.
They loved being out during the summer months and it's much better for them to be out, than stuck staring at screens for hours!

Plus, we've just been through a pandemic, where kids have been shut away for months.

You are being unreasonable I'm afraid.

Kids shouldn’t be disturbing the peace at 9:40pm & the kids that invariably do are always chav kids

So ugly, you not embarrassed?

Chav kids? As in council housed and violent.....aren’t you lovely? With you as a mum saying things like that, I can be absolutely sure that my children are far more delightful and respectful than you and yours.

If you tell people to ‘shut up’, you can’t seriously expect a good response. Try using your proper words to communicate.

We don’t have close neighbours now, we live in a house in the countryside. Im very glad of that based on some of these replies. My children never lived in a council house or been violent but your attitude towards people that may live in council housing is disgusting. Your poor children, having a parent that thinks it’s appropriate to tell people to ‘shut up’ and refers to children as chavs, hardly a great example.

I did grow up on a council estate and one of the best things about it was that it was safe for us to play outside with friends when it was light.

Parents were strict about bedtimes, though, so there were always people still playing when we were called in 😞

(And none of my siblings were violent, either then or now)

Playing in the street is uncouth my children would never & have never asked to play in the street & thankfully we don’t live near anyone who allows their children to do so.

Is the problem that you feel like they are too young to be outside that late because of their age? Or that they shouldn't be making that much noise when your kids are trying to sleep? And are they actually disturbingly noisy or just making noise like human beings do?

playing in the street is uncouth?? I despair of this.
Playing in the street is good for friendships, good exercise, fun, gets kids away from screens and is part of being a child. My happiest memories from childhood are of playing in the street.
For what it’s worth, I’m now a highly educated, highly paid member of society. Not that there would be anything wrong if I wasn’t

I've noticed that kids in the UK go to sleep very early. So I'd say that it is late for UK standards but to me it's not super late on a Friday night. But it is not outrageously late for neighbours to make noise in their garden (kids or not) assuming it is not obnoxiously loud.

But 10pm-7am is nine hours sleep @Valhalla17 , and many primary children don't start until 9am so probably don't need to get up until as late as 8am.

You haven’t actually addressed any of what I’ve said. With your chav references, saying you would tell neighbours to shut up instead of speaking to them politely, and now your latest post, I can only assume you’re trolling. I actually hope you are because the alternative is you are actually bringing up children with these values.

Playing in the street is uncouth

Eh?

God people are so fucking miserable.

It was a sunny Friday night. No school in the morning. Kids are people too. You can’t just make them go away when it doesn’t suit.

Yup. She hasn’t gone to bed before 9pm unless ill ever. And that was only once she started full time school at almost-4. Before that it was closer to 11am.

Until she started school she didn’t need to be up to do anything before 9am so it worked for us. Now she has 2 gymnastics sessions a week that don’t finish until 9pm. By the time she’s home, eaten and got ready for bed it’s 9:45pm at least.

Both DH and I can regularly be working till 8pm so an earlier bedtime would mean less time as a family.

Obviously I wouldn’t say ‘shut up’! It’s a figure of speech. Goodness is everything taken literally?! The point I was making was that I would tell them to be quiet & that I don’t think that kids disrupting the peace at 9:40pm is ok 🙄

This must be a wind up response...

We are all up at 6am, nursery begins at 8.45, school 9am here. Laughable getting up at 8am 🤣🤣🤣

Me?