Kids playing outside at 9.40pm

[Jas5mum]

Do you think its acceptable for primary school aged kids to be playing outside at this time of night??
My kids can't settle as they can hear them out there shouting and bouncing a basketball. They often kick the ball at my house and I have to tell them to move on. Why do their parents think its acceptable to be out there past 9pm?
They have 2 babies living next door, they also have a baby.
I let my kids in the garden from 10am until 7pm.

they are taking the piss & only out in the garden so they do not disturb the parents

Why some think it is laughable to get up at 6. My primary kid go to bed at 9 during school, and 10 at weekend and school holiday. I get up at 6.30, wake up my primary kid at 7 am and we leave the house at 7.20 as creche open at 7.30 and my work start at 8.00. I usually late from work by 10 mn as traffic can be heavy.

I used to stay out til 10 but only on the weekends or during the summer months. Same with my DD.

And this is why our country is fucked up. Of course its unreasonable. Shit parenting.

Is it a welfare issue? A 6 year old out at 9:30 on a school night - definitely. Out at 9:30 as a on off on a non school night - ok.

@Haveipeedontheircornflakes

Ha. Ha. Ha.

Definitely! I haven’t got up that early in years

No children at any age should be playing outside and disturbing people at that time. Inconsiderate.

I think it's too late - for their sake and for the neighbours. .

Disturbing people doing what? Watching telly? Swear to god some people on here think kids are a subspecies not deserving of their respect.

They are children, playing out, on a sunny evening. I love to hear it. As for playing out in the street being uncouth, absolutely ridiculous. A child playing is uncouth? You're embarrassing yourself with that attitude.

If they are playing out that late, they presumably still have to get bathed, ready for bed and settled before sleep - must be a very late night for such young kids.

This thread is getting very weird, very fast! No, it’s not unreasonable for children to play in the garden on a light summer evening at the weekend. 9.40 is not late. Yes, it’s unreasonable for children to be making an undue amount of noise outside at any time but particularly after 8pm when younger children in the neighbourhood might be in bed. My kids usually play outside very quietly. It’s only DH who seems to struggle with his volume control so I end up having to tell him to be quiet or come in!

Why? Clearly you do a lot of morning faffing or live a long way from your kids' nursery/school if you need to be up 2 hours and 45 minutes before the first drop off. Many, many families go from wake up to drop off in a much shorter time, you must understand that. We get up about 50 minutes before school starts.

It follows that many primary age children are able to get the correct amount of sleep for their age while still going to bed later than 9 pm.

Totally unreasonable

Ok thanks

Kids are so coddled and wrapped up with screens these days I'm delighted to hear some are running around until daylight goes. So much healthier and better for their well-being.

Just wondering how people would feel if it were adults in the garden drinking and making noise until late?

It's not just simply a case of, "it's not a school night".

We're a working family. My DS is up at 6.30 every morning, as are DH and I because our schedules demand it. Our circadian rhythm doesn't switch off on a Friday night when some people can't be arsed to parent their kids and send them outside until late to disturb others.

Yanbu op, it's too late and wouldn't go in our neighbourhood.

That's fair enough, my hubby finishes work at 4pm and I only work very casually and essentially am a SAHM, my kids would drive me batty if they were up that late but I hang out with them all day (excepting school and the three short days my son is at kinder since he started this year.) so have plenty of time with them.

Mine just get so grumpy without lots of sleep.

Careful now.
Down with that sort of thing.

I think it's too late. Mine are slightly older. A late night for them is anything past 8 pm. There is no need for them to be shrieking and shouting though. They could play quietly and be respectful. If mine get loud, they get a warning. If it continues they are called inside. There's no need for a huge amount of noise in play whatever time of day it is. Be respectful of elderly and ill or night workers and teach your kids to play without shrieking.

My DC and NDN DC were out in our garden until 9pm last night. They had made a den and were sitting, having raided the cupboards/fridges of both homes and chatting . The playing was probably louder between 4 and 7 when I think they were playing dodge ball and bulldog. Loved it! Grateful for the evenings they can do this and no more restrictions.

I absolutely agree with you @sessell

Reasonable. At the end of the day, parents have the right to decide on their own children's bedtime. What they should be aware of and be conscious of is how disturbing the noise of their children is after a certain time at night. As long as that noise doesn't disturb others then I can't see the issue. Unfortunately there are people who don't have your awareness and/or care whether their children are noisy after a certain time.