Do you know anyone who moved out at 18 (which wasn't for uni)

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I was recently at my friends house and she said that her DD wanted to get a job and rent a flat with some friends . To be honest I was really shocked as although I know 18 is legally an adult in reality it seems like nowadays you are still more of a kid until your early 20s. Does anyone else know anyone who's dc moved out at 18 which wasn't for uni but actually moved 'properly' out and lives independently.

MrRinky did, but that was 30 years ago and I agree that current 18 year olds seem younger - but then in my parents generation when working class kids left school at 14 to work full time, they thought we were coddled and immature at 18 as well...

Yeah me, nearly 30 years ago, went abroad myself to work. 18 is old enough if you're not daft.

Me. Bought a house with my then bf and moved out.

My DD & SIL did with their newborn. Had another child a year later. Both are incredibly grown up and mature many years on where their friends are still fairly childish

I was 17 and moved in with a boyfriend for a few years. Was a bit of a disaster to be honest: but we live and learn eh.

this was in 1998 though: so different time

I did when I was 17 which was 13 years ago. I had a ft job and saved hard whilst paying rent so that I could afford uni the year after. After uni I bought a house with my now husband.
I had been paying rent at home since 15 and had worked as much as I could since before that as well.

I left home at 17 back in 1999.

DS is 18 and seems so much younger than I was at that age.

I did, 10 years ago. I had a friend the same age who moved to her own flat not long after me. Another friend moved out with her older sister. Others moved out over the next couple of years, but we all started work young, rather than uni

I left home at 17 and h at 15. But that was the 90s. In h’s case he went to find work and help his family - his first wage he bought his mum a washing machine. In my case I was an argumentative idiot with mental health issues. University is like boarding school for most teenagers now …. I’m sure many could do what my h did for example 🤣

i was actually 19 and moved away to the big city

I left home at 17, had a live I job in a hotel though.
My eldest dd moved out at 18. Got herself a little flat in the same village as us, she loved it.

Both of my older sisters, well one was 18 the other 19, neither went to university. But this is 30+ years ago.

My friend moved out at 17 and her mum immediately downsized so she couldn't move back in.

I’ve lived alone since 16 as my mum threw me out 🤷‍♀️ I know loads of people that happened to

I moved in with my boyfriend a few months after I turned 17 but that was over 30 years ago. It was a steep learning curve but I survived.

Me many years ago and now my older kids who are in their early twenties. They still live locally - just wanted to live with friends and were able to secure a large old flat (that is probably not quite up to standard for most proper adults and/or families) . They have jobs that cover the rent and enjoy it.
They also did both lockdowns there in their household (with their friends) with the odd request for larger shops to be dropped round and supplies during isolation periods.
When we had to isolate they went to get our shopping.
When I was 18 or 19 I did not know anyone who still lived at home. And my kids were always quite independant in their outlook and ability to organise themselves.

I was kicked out at 17, nearly 18. It was scary, spent a night on the seafront then moved in with my then boyfriend's family. Got a bedsit of my own and eventually saved enough to buy a studio apartment of my own. I think the worst thing that came out of the situation was that I stayed with that boyfriend for much longer than I would've done as I felt indebted to him and his family for putting a roof over my head when I needed it.

I left my parents as soon as I turned 18,rent was a lot cheaper then though!it would of been 1998.

Yes but they’re in their 30s and 40s now. I don’t know anyone younger who has (although that’s probably because of the average age of people I know).

Yes me moved abroad on my own.

Me, age 17 in 2008 so not a terribly long time ago. I was working full time and moved into a shared house. The rent cost half my wages but it included bills.

I was made to feel very unwelcome at home by my step parent which is why I did it. My then boyfriend moved in with me when I was 18 and we moved into our own rented place a couple of years later. Went on to marry and have DS, then split up. I bought my first home 2 years ago at 29, on my own on a single wage.

I hope DS will live at home as long as he needs to save up for a house deposit, because it's been a long sodding hard road for me. At least he won't ever feel unwelcome at home like I did.

Me! On my 16th birthday my mum kicked me out (1998). Pretty rough going tbh. Married at 18. Still with him and I'm 40 now. Prob wouldn't advise it really. Found myself in some pretty dodgy situations.

I was 16, can't imagine my 16 year old ever being able to move out 😆

One of my DDs did. She moved abroad at 18 to Central Asia and worked and rented her own place. She lived there for two years. But there was a sense that she could could come “home” if it didn’t work out. If you don’t have a safety net of a parent’s home, I think it would feel different.

My parents kicked me out at 18-I had barely blown the candles out on my cake
(my brothers all stayed until late 20’s and one just keeps bouncing back even tho he’s almost 40)
I ended up in a grotty b&b,bounced round friends places until my luck ran out and I slept on the streets for a while (my parents knew this and still refused to have me back)
i managed to find somewhere to live when I fell pregnant unexpectedly
I firmly believe I would have moved out aged about 20 if I’d been ‘allowed’ to go to college (girls don’t deserve an education if you listen to my family)

I now own my own home