Do you know anyone who moved out at 18 (which wasn't for uni)

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I was recently at my friends house and she said that her DD wanted to get a job and rent a flat with some friends . To be honest I was really shocked as although I know 18 is legally an adult in reality it seems like nowadays you are still more of a kid until your early 20s. Does anyone else know anyone who's dc moved out at 18 which wasn't for uni but actually moved 'properly' out and lives independently.

Me.
I left home at 16. Joined the army, and that was that, never went back to live at my parents house ever since.
Lived in barrack blocks on the various camps I was posted to, then privately rented with my exH before we were married, then lived in military housing, now I’m privately renting again.

Me, I was 17 and working full time. I moved in with my boyfriend and then when I turned 18 I got my own flat.

My son moved out at 17 in to his girlfriends family home (I was moving 70 miles away and they were supposed to rent a place but there wasn't anything available). I was living with my daughter at a variety of Airbnbs waiting for my house purchase to go through at the time. Anyway they broke up and he eventually moved in to a lodge on a really nice park which I was already in the process of buying as a holiday home.
He always said he wanted to move out at 18. I want him to live closer to me but he's liking where he is now for the moment. I don't charge him rent as he has a just above minimum wage job and is getting further qualified for his career. He obviously pays for his food etc.
He is struggling with the transition to adulthood and finding his place in the world. The reality that being a grown up doesn't mean you can do whatever you want has slowly sunk in. I'm glad I can at least provide a comfortable home for him. He comes to visit us or I go down to see him every three weeks or so - I stock his cupboards and just mother him a bit.
So he's not financially independent, but he is in that he cooks, cleans takes care of the domestic things like getting a repair guy in. If I hadn't moved away he would still be at home, mainly due to the lack of rentals. Not going to uni has meant no cushion and forces some kids to be responsible earlier than they may be ready.

Yep, sorted out a job after A levels, moved 6 hours from home. Bit much really, looking back but parents didn't have much interest or input, so just got on with it.

I left home at 16 and moved to a different city at 18 . I still live in a different city to the rest of my family.

I left home at 17 after a row with my step mum. Ended up moving 60 miles away a few months later and bought my first house on my own at 19 in the good old days of 100 percent mortgage

I did
But that was in 2001 when I could easily get a mortgage on my average wage

I can’t imagine my DC doing that now

my first property back then was about 2.5 times my annual salary

Nowadays similar property would be about ten times my wage therefore I wouldn’t get a mortgage

I moved out when I was 16 - had a varity of part time jobs, and the school used to write to my parents at my address; couldn't get their heads around my not living with either parents or a guardian.
I failed every exam in sight, but it was great.

I left a few weeks after my 19th birthday. Moved into a bedsit, had no permanent job, but anything was better than my controlling, overbearing mother.
It was sometimes hard; I had no heating, no fridge for the first year, and no cooker for about three years. I eventually saved up enough for a deposit to buy a flat, met DH, so we bought together and I finally had central heating and a washing machine too. A car took a bit longer!

DH moved out at 16 (although he's 35 now, so a while ago). He had a job, wanted to get going in the world without his mum checking up on him!

Two of my employees moved out at 18 - both went straight into jobs and wanted their own space. They're now 20 and 21 and considerably more grown up and together than the other 21 year old who still lives at home, so maybe it encourages independence and maturity.

Frankly I think it's weird that we infantilise grown adults so much - if they're still like kids in their early 20s, it's my opinion that they haven't been prepared for life well enough (obviously there are lots of situations where this would vary, but a healthy, neurotypical 21/22/23 year old should absolutely be able to live independently).

Me, joined the RAF. Never lived at parents house again.

Yes my daughter moved out at 18, she has a fantastic job and a beautiful apartment. She’s so proud and happy. I moved out at 17 so I guess it seemed pretty normal to me. Her roommate is a school friend who is studying and working.

I think dh left home at 17...late 1980s. Got a job and a room somewhere I think. His mum is not an especially easy going person to put it nicely so I don't blame him.

I was 19, moved 100 miles away. And never went back. I'm 40 this year and still within 15 miles of where I moved to.

Some choices I made weren't the best (generally financial ones), but they were learning experiences and I can't imagine not having my full independence.