My coworker is doing my head in!

[cuppateaandabiccie]

Recently, one of my coworkers split up from her boyfriend (they had been with each other for about 2 years )

it was clear that it wasn’t going to work as she was always coming into work with some sort of drama that had happened between them and they were always on and off.

they split up for good (allegedly) about 3 weeks ago and all she does is talk about him in work.

i know him (not personally or all that well) from being out at a work dinner as we brought our OHs with us and I have him on my Facebook lists.

this coworker is constantly talking about him In work and how terrible he is and she’s running around telling people who work in different offices about him. She is constantly getting us to “take sides” and she even asked me to delete him off my Facebook list!

the problem is, the others are joining in and I seem to be the only one who thinks this is all dramatic and not suitable for the workplace!

this is more a WWYD?

Yes it is but it's also weird that you're FB friends with her now ex. You have yet to explain why you feel the need.

You've explained why you don't want to unfriend him, but not why you want to keep him as a friend.

So is yours by the sound of it. Making a big thing about not deleting someone who probably doesn't remember you anyway.

I don’t need to keep him as a friend, I’m only keeping him as a way to send a message to her that she can’t just make me unfriend someone and that I’ll roll over and do it.

there isn’t an actual need for me to delete him, he hasn’t done anything to me but it’s really the thought of being told what to do by her that puts me off

You asked 'WWYD?'

Everyone has told you what they would do, and you've mostly argued with them, so again, still unclear what you actually expect from this conversation other than for everyone to agree with you that your co-worker is annoying. I mean, obviously she is annoying, yes. What more do you want anyone to actually say?

It’s not that, it’s people implying that I’m the one causing the drama or wanting drama that annoys me!

im not the one that brings my relationship problems into work and I’m not one to get involved in her problems and arselick her! I’m trying to stay out of it

me not deleting him is me saying I’m not getting involved

I’m the one causing the drama or wanting drama that annoys me!

Well it's true. You are feeding the drama by having him as a friend for no reason.

It's not 'rolling over' to delete him & then say 'I don't want to discuss this, let's get back to work'.

me not deleting him is me saying I’m not getting involved at this point its not anymore though. It's saying I can see his profile get me involved