MIL not happy I share pictures of baby online.

[ReginaPhalangeIsMyTwin]

When I found out I was pregnant with DD, I created a Facebook account and added only family. No work colleagues, no friends of friends etc. I'm a very private person who is very close to my family.

I share pictures of my DD on Facebook so that my family are seeing updates of my DD and that way no one is missed out - it's how my family are as we are all very close. One of my best friends is my cousin (for context).

Anyway, today, I posted pictures up of DD at a baby sensory class from the other day. Within 5 minutes, my mil had messaged me saying she would prefer I sent the pictures to her first before I uploaded them on Facebook as she feels that she's "not important enough in her granddaughters life". This annoyed me as she knows my family are all close. The Facebook page is purely for family (I feel I've said that enough lol).

So AIBU by not sending her the pictures first? My own parents think the page is a great idea and they've not complained once.

This is why I normally stay off social media as I don't really like the drama that can ensue from it, but the Facebook page was better as not all my family use WhatsApp etc.

This is perfection.

😂 concise and to the point.

Don't send some first. Don't give in. Unless she can't use Facebook then it would be nice if you also sent her some by text.

^^
This

Why do mils keep doing this stuff? What happens if o make them go batshit crazy?

I suspect that the batcrap crazy MILs were already batcrap crazy before they became MILs - or at least, the tendency was there.

I am a very new MIL (ds1 got married in February) and will become a grandmother in the summer, and I’m being the best MIL I can be - I had the best example from my own MIL who was wonderful and supportive (and is deeply, deeply missed).

Don't allow your husband treat you like his PA.

Tell HiM to send her some photos.

Just a thought, but is it actually as restricted as OP thinks? She may only have a few selected FB friends, but depending on how she shares the photos, is it possible that the photos are posted to the friends pages, and then their friends can see them? The only way I can see them being restricted is if OP uses FB messenger.

"Well I was posting pics to the group so all family could see them at the same time, but I suppose I could do it individually. You'll receive yours right after DM."

😆 Ofc don't say that but it's a fun thought!
I agree with the pp saying don't pander to the demand. Stand firm!

Never negotiate with terrorists. Ignore.

They like the drama, the more you give them the happier they are.

Dorry to tell you but Dc is number one in this household, so all family are on the fB group so they can all see what the little princess is up too. Glad you like them please shut up moaning As I’m in charge of general family photos if you want anything more your son would love to help. Btw dgc is loving her baby group will put photos on group !
if she doesn’t stop tell dh you will aquantaince her in fB and he can tell her why if she notices

Sorry to tell you even

You genius!!! I'm doing this!!

1. Your mil is insane. 2. Stop putting pictures of your kid on facefuck.

Not sure what the relevance of this comment is but happy to get involved...

... What a load of billy bollox. Negotiating with terrorists is pretty much how the Good Friday agreement came about.

But you keep sticking to your absolute assurance that you and only you are right. Lol.

@ReginaPhalangeIsMyTwin make sure you have your photos set to ‘friends only’ if it’s set to ‘friends of friends’ they still might catch the odd one. Good luck!! 👍🏻👍🏻

@ReginaPhalangeIsMyTwin sorry photos set to ‘friends except acquaintances’. Sorry!!! So tired! 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️