To be annoyed by happy people?

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I don’t know what it is about me, but when somebody says “Oh X person is wonderful, so happy and positive all the time, always smiling, what a joy” I feel stirrings of annoyance.

Take Sam Ryder for example. Loved Space Man,. But Graham Norton (and others) laid it on thick what an absolutely delightful person he is, and immediately I began to be irritated by the smiles and peace signs, when I hadn’t been before.

I think I know that IABU about this, and miserable and jealous to boot! Maybe I secretly wish people could / would say the same of me, except that I can’t just make myself be happy and smiley all the time way without feeling fake and insincere?

Anyway. How alone am I in feeling this way?

Doesn't bother me one bit. Also, maybe some people force themselves to be positive and happy - who knows how they feel underneath. Of course we should be sensitive towards people who are clearly presenting as unhappy but equally if someone is doing their best to be happy and positive, it's not exactly nice to piss on their chips either. The world is lacking tolerance at times.

Nobody can be happy 100% of the time, and given that Sam is on television, we only get to see the positive, shiny side of him.

Happy people don't bother me, but those who moan about happy people being smug or rubbing it in, annoy me more. It's not about you.

I really dislike people who are too happy or jolly. Or those that "exude genuine energy and curiosity." I am and always have been very content. My mum says I was content as a child, but that is very different to people being too positive and jolly which makes me cringe.

You are being unreasonable but when you're talking about media personalities talking about other media I think there is room to be irritated whatever they say!

It's such a false set up - they meet them in very limited circumstances. There is pressure for both parties to play along with a PR view etc. In many ways the unreasonable bit is in taking anything any of them say as some kind of truth anyway.

I see you quoted me there Oblomov but didn't bother to read the very next sentence which was , "I think everyone can tell though when the positivity is forced or false".

I don't understand the need to cringe at others either. Just ignore and move on if someone or something is not to your taste.

Ime people who sneer at enthusiasm, usually wear their cynicism and world weariness like a cloak of superiority and use it to put others down.

As a happy person, I don't mind you tend to not like us. It's fine. One job I left, I was given a lovely thoughtful present and my card said
"Thank god you are leaving, no one should be that happy at 7am" (we started at 7am) 25 years later it still make me laugh, I actually annoy myself with how happy I am, the relentless upbeat for some of us is just that, it not deliberate. I can have a really awful bad week and make jokes and down play it... but I don't want to... part of my brain takes over and it means people never feel I need help or support... and I do.
Anyway the good thing is I do make others feel better and that make me feel better.

This is basically every woman though. There's only a few people you can ever open up to and cry because every day mums suck it up, we are all distressed at some point but can't be because of the kids you have to constantly be strong for them

I'm pretty sure both my DC's first words were FFS because of my inability to be 'positive' on the nursery run.

I'm a pretty happy person and when I am not I turn it on because I think it helps raise the mood of people around me.

Honestly, I get annoyed by miserable, turgid folks who never crack a smile, they have the potential to drain the lifeblood out of the peppiest folk so I avoid them when I can. Love me some fellow happy people and I gravitate to them at work and avoid the ones that remind me of those American people who pose with their pitchforks.miserable folk with pitchfork

My dad was one of them and my poor mum had to suffer his crushing of the happy ones her entire life so I think the miserable people should all marry each other, it is much better that way. Leave us happy folk to pair off with each other and voila you never need be around us. It is a win win for everyone. Misery loves company so please pitchfork people, be annoyed enough to stay clear of our happy path.

This. Me too.

If it helps OP people say I’m always smiling and happy but really I’ve struggled with depression and anxiety since I was a child. Masking it is all I know.

So I’m just as miserable as you!

Think there is a real difference between those who are genuinely happy and those who are just putting on a facade. You can usually spot the difference right away. The latter are also those who tend to have a carefully curated social media profile, full of personal propaganda posts about how fortunate or blessed they are.

The ones who are genuinely happy are a joy to be with. Those who are putting on a facade are a bit nauseating.

I hate fun sponges more, miserable people often just want to bring down everyone else around them and resent others who aren’t on a constant downer.

Sorry if us miserable people can't be all singing and dancing and happy maybe we have had a shit hand in life and are struggling. Happy people irritate me for this reason they have it all no wonder they are happy !!!!!

For some people its just who they are. That's not to say they dont show all the other emotions too, they just do it more so in private.

It's like those really shy kids/adults who dont talk a lot in public and look miserable, we all know one ..but at home they're chatty and happy etc

I've always been a naturally smiley and happy person. Theres not a day that goes by where I dont bounce into work with a huge smile and it stays there all day.

I still cry, sob and get angry.. just not in public.

Sorry if us miserable people can't be all singing and dancing and happy maybe we have had a shit hand in life and are struggling. Happy people irritate me for this reason they have it all no wonder they are happy!!!!!

Cant tell if this is sarcasm or not.

If it's not, you couldn't be more wrong about how happy people "have it all" 🤣

If someone is described as 'bubbly' I dislike them before I've even met them. It's just a personality type I don't get along with. It's always a youngish female. No middle aged man would be described as 'bubbly'. I just find girls like that quite fake and flirty and I can't be doing with it. Give me someone I can bitch and moan and laugh with instead please.

It's just different personality types though - I'm not sure many people are actually faking happiness/positivity?

I'm one of those people and am a Myers Briggs ENFP or Sunshine Yellow (as per a previous poster) - I always recognise others and I would put money on Sam Ryder also being one. I've been through quite a lot of shit in my life but I can't help being positive/generally happy - it's just who I am and most people respond really well to it.

There's no doubt that being this way has also been very advantageous for my career. Give me a lacklustre, uninspired and underperforming team and I will turn it around within six months. And I can do the same for a moribund social event within 10 minutes. But as a counterpoint I get bored very easily, am not very good with detail or process, rubbish at organising social stuff and will never be a completer-finisher. Horses for courses!