To be pissed off with DW?

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DS is 3 and tends to wake up at around 06:00. Monday to Friday I get up with him. DW has to get up early on Mondays and Thursdays anyway so she dresses him, she also dresses him on Tuesdays as I have an early start at work (she tends to get up at around 07:00 to dress him just before I need to leave). Wednesday and Friday I don't work and DW works from home, so I get up with DS and she gets up at around 07:30/08:00.
So I get up at around 06:00 Monday - Friday. I am also the one who takes him to CM before I go to work, whilst DW dresses him and that is helpful I do everything else that is required in the morning Monday-Friday.
We cut a deal when DS was 9MO - I would have a lie in on Saturdays and DW would on Sundays. The trouble is that DW has to make a load of passive aggressive comments when she gets up - usually around how she'll be too tired for whatever we have planned later in the day. Then DS cries outside of our bedroom door because he wants me....then there is pretty much no hope of me getting back to sleep! I feel wound up and no matter how tired I am sleep will not come.
On Sunday mornings I get up and take DS downstairs quickly and quietly so DW can sleep.
AIBU to be pissed off? As I lie here awake typing away at 06:30 OR should I let it slide / change our routine because I work less hours in the week?

Regardless of our schedules, dh and I always took it in turns to sleep on at the weekend. She needs to take him down quietly when its her turn to get up, if she doesn't I would do the same on her turn, to make a point.

OP, did you bear the child? Was it your egg? Is there any sense that she doesn’t feel it is “really” her son/as much her responsibility? I am bi and most of my friends are lesbians, many of whom have children, and none of them have this sort of couple problem, except one who split with her wife. It turned out that the wife hadn’t really wanted to have children and chuntered along for a couple of years before admitting she didn’t think their child was “really” hers as she hadn’t borne her.

I am the birth and biological parent, but we had been together for over ten years before we started the fertility treatment and were both fully invested in having a child.

She's never been a morning person and I think it's probably unreasonable to expect her to become one just because we have a toddler. We deal with nighttime and daytime stuff fairly equally, it's just the early morning stuff that's an issue.

I am trying not to just take over situations unless it is absolutely necessary. Yesterday when I went to help with the bath DS was screaming blue murder for about 15 minutes and I could hear that DW was about to lose her rag massively. She had managed to wash him but he wouldn't get out of the bath. It turned out that he was upset she had taken his dummy away (he has them for sleeping but would like them all the time) so I just endorsed that I would have done the same. He wasn't very happy with me either then! I got him out, fry and dressed and then left them to it. I feel like I was actually backing DW up by doing this (and giving her five minutes to calm down) not taking over or or stopping her from parenting?

I’m not a morning person at all. Never have been. My DH left me sleeping until midday yesterday because after a week of early mornings plus a chronic pain condition flaring up I was exhausted.

As soon as DS woke today I was up to return the favour.

If she came wake to do her hair she can wake with your child.

Shes not bothered about family life. That’s the issue.