To be upset husband has booked a ‘novelty’ restaurant?

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It’s my 50th next Saturday. DH told me he’d book a nice restaurant and I was really looking forward to it as we rarely ever eat out. I was expecting to go somewhere nice in central Liverpool, he knows I love the waterfront so I was thinking he’d book somewhere around there.

Today he’s revealed he’s booked a place in Sheffield (which is annoying enough in itself, 90 minute drive for a meal and it won’t be relaxing at all) which is a novelty restaurant where the staff are intentionally rude to you and it’s all part of it. He’s booked it for the teens as well. I asked why on Earth he’d booked that and he said because he was curious about it and thought it’d be fun.

But it’s not me at all. I’m very self-conscious and even though it’ll all be a joke the thought of the staff verbally abusing me makes me anxious. I’ll end up taking something to heart and getting upset.

DH is annoyed I’ve asked him to cancel it and says I’m a spoil sport, but it’s my birthday dinner.

We are going to go for DSS’s birthday in a few months and I’ll suck it up
Why should you have to suck it up though?!
Have you actually TOLD him that it's making you anxious?
I'm a really shy person and not my idea of fun at all as I'd be worried about being singled out/ attention on me.
If you've told him and he doesn't care, then he's a twat.
If you haven't told him, he's not a bloody mind reader so FFS open your gob and say you're not being funny but it's your idea of hell, it's making you feel ill and why don't they go and have a good time and you take DS out for his birthday as well if possible (that way he'll get two celebrations, win win)
If they're still not happy with you after explaining sorry but you've got bigger problems than a meal.

I agree, @GoodJanetBadJanet - why should you have to "suck it up" OP? If you go with the son it'll still be a very unpleasant and stressful experience.
Don't even go to Sheffield. Let the husband and son go by themselves and enjoy the hilarious experience.

Cutting edge journalism right there! Sure that this is exactly the sort of assignment the journo copy pasting off an online forum dreamed of when they embarked upon becoming a member of the illustrious fourth estate. 😂

If I could read and regurgitate MN for a living I would. I'd be brilliant at it.

I hope your husband reads this thread - what a crap idea for someone’s special birthday. He should have cancelled this the minute you let him know it wasn’t your idea of fun. And rebooked somewhere nice (he should have done that in the first place but hey) Your night not his. Selfish twat. Let him go and get abused by Karen with his mates if he thinks that’s a fun night.

If he wants to experience that, why don’t you just troll him over dinner at home tonight. Just keep shouting, ‘yeah, you like stuffing your face with that don’t you? You bald/fat/miserable/thick/emotionally-challenged c*nt!’

That’s unlikely to happen.

The OP can’t even tell her husband she doesn’t want to go to a restaurant.

So basically he has booked somewhere for himself just like buying you some ' sexy' underwear for Christmas. It's a present for him not you, tell him to f off and book where you wat to go.

😂 that sounds fucking awful. Definitely do not accept this as your birthday meal! YANBU

So you're still going to go and pay to be abused against your will. Honestly OP, you do need to take some responsibility for your own decisions here.

If he really wants to go tell him to take his mates. It sounds like they would have a ball. If youbare not enjoying it then I can't see that it will be much fun for him either.

Great for teens yes, but quite possibly extremely inappropriate for a 50th birthday, depending on the person. It sounds like he’s got it very wrong….If it’s any consolation, my DH booked me a (childfree) evening at the zoo where we already have membership. So I’ll be going to somewhere I go regularly with the kids, only without them 😩

I’d love this! But appreciate it wouldn’t be everyone’s cup of tea. Perhaps take him for his birthday instead!

I told in-laws and husband no theatre no shows for mine happy with a meal out

🤣🤣

Shucks you'd think he'd try and book somewhere you like 🙄Why don't you suggest you all try it another time but you'd prefer to book a waterfront venue in Liverpool for your special birthday. I don't think that's an unreasonable request! It's your birthday after all! Happy Birthday!! I hope you end up going somewhere really wonderful 😍

I’ve seen the concept at 50's Prime Time Café in Hollywood Studios, Disney World..not my idea of fun but seems popular.

But they call it loving lectures instead of insults..

well it turned out alright but i still wouldnt go for dss birthday if they want to go fine but youre still the one who will be picked on

YANBU

But why 'suck it up' for a later time. Let OH and DS go to it together - and just refuse to go. You don't HAVE to do anything which makes you feel really uncomfortable you know. Your OH doesn't sound like a kind and caring man, if he knew - or now knows, how it will make you feel if he's still wanting you to go

Your birthday, it should be a restaurant you will enjoy. If he wants to go there for his birthday, fair enough.

Oh this is so funny.

But OP's dick of an H can't even cope with his wife saying no to him, so I suspect he would not see the correlation between such trolling and the restaurant, because I doubt he wants to be insulted himself. I suspect he wants to go to this restaurant to see other people - likely to see women/"Karens" (fucking awful term) - humiliated.

Best thing OP can do for her 50th is to reassess her relationship and whether she really wants to spend the rest of her life with this horrible, thoughtless man and his foul progeny.

I’ve heard about Karen’s diner and I’d love that! But if it’s really not your thing get him to book something else

I’ve just seen the menu and it just isn’t suitable for mature diners who enjoy good food. More appropriate for those whose taste buds are as adolescent as their sense of humour.
Steer well clear
BTW Hope you have a happy birthday anyway OP

Tell him you can verbally abuse him at home for nothing (bet you feel like you want to right now anyway!). Absolutely no. Your birthday. Your rules. End of.