I'm 15 weeks pregnant with dc 2. I still have bad sickness that's all day. I can't stand alot of food smells, especially cooking smells and it can make me instantly need to run to bathroom to be sick. My diet is terrible. I weigh less now than before I was pregnant with dc 1. At the last scan the baby was smaller than expected so I'm really worried about my diet and if I'm getting enough vitamins/ minerals/ protein etc. I'm also exhausted (no doubt the bad diet isn't helping) and a sahm to dc1 who is 4 (not yet at school) and autistic and a handful. Before my pregnancy sickness I did all the from scratch cooking (fresh meat and vegetables) and cleaning. My husband can't cook anything other than frozen ready meals and the house is a tip at the moment. The living room gets covered with toys and books and gets worse until I tidy it up. AIBU to think it's not that hard to cook and make something like a bolognese and my husband should be cooking some non ready meal foods while I am pregnant and can't stomach alot of cooking smells and I'm exhausted. He is 36 years old and can't cook (other than heating ready meal food in oven), clean (over than something like hoover but he can't clean bathroom, kitchen, windows etc. I had to scrub bathrub at 8 and a half months pregnant. Once I asked him to clean sink and he wiped it down with toilet paper), do DIY (I have to ask my dad for help especially if it requires 2 people) or drive. He has dyspraxia. Yes I'm a sahm but surely at his age he should be able to do these things for occasions when I am unable due to bad pregnancy sickness or illness. Last year I was bed ridden for a week with the worse stomach bug I have ever had. I couldn't keep anything down for 2 days (was dehydrated) and barely ate for a week. I slept and woke up every few hours to use bathroom for a week. My DH and son lived on ready meals and pizza for a week. No fresh vegetables at all. The house was a complete tip as well.
AIBU?
To think my DH should be able to cook while I have bad pregnancy sickness
UsernameA1B2 · 06/05/2022 01:30
Am I being unreasonable?
318 votes. Final results.
POLLdoingitforthegirls · 06/05/2022 05:19
Also, he is a selfish, self-absorbed, lazy dick and you need to sit him down and tell him that in the loudest and most angry way possible.
That's a bit harsh. He does go out to work to enable the OP to be a STAHM
Lots of people can't cook
DangerouslyBored · 06/05/2022 07:07
I’ve just looked up dyspraxia and cooking and cleaning can be a real challenge for someone suffering from this condition. Nothing in life is ever as black and white as it seems.
PurassicJark · 06/05/2022 07:30
Difficult but not impossible. Just take longer to get it sometimes. He just can't be arsed and does it badly so he doesn't have to.
DangerouslyBored · 06/05/2022 07:07
I’ve just looked up dyspraxia and cooking and cleaning can be a real challenge for someone suffering from this condition. Nothing in life is ever as black and white as it seems.
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ShirleyPhallus · 06/05/2022 07:34
I can’t believe how aggressive and rude some posters are being to the OP. Yes the husband sounds lazy but that’s entirely his fault. Why do so many women blame other women for men’s behaviour.
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