To feel fuming at neighbour

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We have lived in the same street for 8 years and always gotten along fine with neighbours on both sides.
Recently one of the neighbours has had her adult son come to live with her and there has been more noise later at night than normal. We've ignored this as it's not that disruptive and we dont want to fall out.
Yesterday was neighbours birthday and a hot tub turned up in the back garden. She told us it was for a party so we were forewarned it may be a little noisy.
We were woken at 1am with a load of noise directly under our bedroom window. The neighour had moved the hot tub/lazy spa so all we could hear was a load of drunken swearing and shouting .
This carried on until 4am! I'm fuming as so tired and we have a young DC.
Am I right to go and say something? As I really dont want a repeat of this.

YABU, she told you they were having a party and there would be noise

Given this seems to have been a one off and no other problems in 8 years I'd let it go. If it happens again I'd be round.

Yeah and I get that but until 4am? Weve had partys etc but have been respectful of the people around us.

Why didn't you contact them last night and ask them to quieten down? i wouldn't have suffered that until 4am.

Exactly. One party in eight years isn't worth falling out over.

No, you're not right. One party in eight years..get a hold of yourself!

There was her and a lot of men ,no other women so didnt want to be put in a vulnerable position if I'm honest.
My main worry is this isnt a one of now the hot tub has appeared. I have no problem with parties etc , but 4am under someone's bedroom window seems selfish.

One day out of almost 3000 is not worth falling out over.

Not the first party ,including lockdown which we let go. Parties went on until around midnight -1am.
Should of said that initially.

YABU OP. As others have said, one party in four years is pretty good going.

If this was to become a regular occurrence then I’d say something but if it’s once every 8 years and I got on well with them then I’d seethe inwardly and put a massive smile on my face and ask her if she had a good time.

YANBU. I don't see why 'party' has to mean shouting and swearing until 4 am. Some music, loud talking, laughter - yes.

Having said that, I agree with pps that this one event is not worth spoiling what has been a good relationship until now. But if it becomes a regular occurrence - that's a different matter. If asked, though, by the neighbour, I would say that I didn't appreciate the loud swearing at that hour (or any really - when IS it justified - just antisocial).

(I have no experience of hot tubs, spas, jacuzzis or whatever they are now called but just from reading Mumsnet I think I would despair if I saw one in either of my neighbours' gardens. They seem to cause a lot of trouble when most people are trying to rest or sleep.)

I wouldn’t have been happy being kept awake past 4am, regardless of previous good neighbourly relations.

Not sure what would be achieved by saying anything in this occasion. I think the time to have said anything would have been during the early hours when they were still being noisy, although understandable given your reasons.

Fingers crossed through hot tub isn’t a permanent fixture under your bedroom window! If so you will have to say something.

Like I say shes had many parties over the years but none like this. We've never said anything ,but I feel like 4am with loads of swearing and screaming is a bit much .

@CulturePigeon also despairing over hot tub ,especially since we are trying to sell our house in a few months.

I wouldnt have been impressed with the noise until 4am but would have said something at the time.

No point saying it now as the party is over and it will be a needless argument with no good result. If it happens again and you can't sleep then say it. As for selling your house doubt viewers will be coming around at 4 am so you will be grand

Wait until 10 minutes after it has gone quiet and get the lawnmower out, as near to the fence and windows as possible. After all if you have been kept awake all night you may as well have an early start...although it may not help neighbourly relationships 😉

Mentioning anything to your neighbour will not prevent it happening again and will only create tension. Hopefully it was a one off.

Don't start an argument if you're trying to sell your house. It's just not worth it.
Fingers crossed the hot tub is a rental.

Definitely let it go, it's annoying but it's also once in eight years. Don't ruin a good neighbourly relationship over this.

they won't do anything retrospectively, but check your council website - ours has an out of hours noise/ASB patrol operating late weekend nights.
At least then you'll have an expectation of what's available if it does happen again.
Depending on the nature/seriousness of the incident, our local service either send out council officers, or refers it to the police.

I’d be unimpressed but wouldn’t say anything as an occasional occurrence on a bank holiday. Fortnightly it more then yes. Most people I know live incident free with hot tubs but mn hates them. I prefer it to football being kicked into the garden.

There are classed as noise nuisance and have become a big problem with neighbour disputes in built up areas. Ideally you need alot of private space.
Fun for the family enjoying it, not so much for neighbours, esp if late at night and alcohol also involved.

I wouldn’t say anything. The last thing you want is a dispute if you want to sell up.