To feel fuming at neighbour

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We have lived in the same street for 8 years and always gotten along fine with neighbours on both sides.
Recently one of the neighbours has had her adult son come to live with her and there has been more noise later at night than normal. We've ignored this as it's not that disruptive and we dont want to fall out.
Yesterday was neighbours birthday and a hot tub turned up in the back garden. She told us it was for a party so we were forewarned it may be a little noisy.
We were woken at 1am with a load of noise directly under our bedroom window. The neighour had moved the hot tub/lazy spa so all we could hear was a load of drunken swearing and shouting .
This carried on until 4am! I'm fuming as so tired and we have a young DC.
Am I right to go and say something? As I really dont want a repeat of this.

Got any darts?

Calm down, if it happens again say something. If not let them live!!

If you’re planning to sell your house soon, I wouldn’t say anything. She was being unreasonable, but it’s not worth any tension if you’re selling in a few months.

I think it's horrible to make so much noise where neighbours have to hear you at that time of night (morning, really). Warning you they were having a party doesn't do you much good and honestly seems to be a tactic to make you feel you can't or shouldn't complain. 😡

However, I think I'd wait until it happens again. Maybe it won't, but if they keep you up past midnight again, that's when I'd complain. You're planning to move soon, so keep your eye on the prize!

They will soon get fed up with it. This was my neighbours and their first outings with it. They have to shout as they can't hear for the noise. They stink as well. Now it is no longer to be seen!

We used to have a lesbian couple living next door and once a year on Mardi Gras night (I live in Sydney) they’d have a HUGE party. Dance music all night, apparently near-naked women wandering around (according to neighbour on other side who must have been peering over the hedge). Our kids were 1 and 2 when we moved in. Rest of the year they were good neighbours apart from occasional yapping dog. So we just put up with it and figured them hearing our kids whinging for 365 days was probably a fair trade.

I agree that this will only be a permanent fixture until either the electric bill comes in or the second lot of chemicals need to be added, then it will be shoved in the shed to rot.

I think you should say something, though at least you were warned. You could start the conversation by asking when the hot tub is going, perhaps.

Our neighbours had one of those blow up hot tubs and I don’t think people realise when they are in there how much they are having shout to be heard by people around them, if we had our windows open we could hear there conversation in the house. Hopefully one of the only benefits of the rising cost of fuel is that people won’t be able to heat their hot tubs

I agree with this.

At that time of night the party should have been indoors, selfish twats

Agreed.
Hot tubs plus booze= A load of shrieking and splashing.
Ghastly things.

What a strange thread!

Shouting and swearing outside until 4am and everyone is saying the OP is unreasonable to be annoyed!!!!!!! None of my neighbours have ever had parties where this happens and we've been here 15years so don't see why it ever has to be acceptable.

Could you not have leaned out of your window and shouted at him to shut the f up? It's dealt with there and then on the spot and you get to move on without any resentment?

They moved the hot tub? You can’t move a hot tub without draining it. It would take nigh on 24 hours to drain, refill and heat a hot tub back up.

If you get on well just ask if they could move the hot tub somewhere else.

24 hrs to drain and refill a hot tub?? It's not a swimming pool 😂

"Vulnerable"?

A woman neighbour, who you have known for 8 years & "always gotten along fine with", has some friends she is comfortable enough with to invite to her party (& into a tub), makes you feel too vulnerable to poke your head out of the aforementioned bedroom window & say "hoy, keep the noise down"?

So you stayed awake until 4am, seething, instead?

Of course OP isn't unreasonable to be annoyed.
She's unreasonable to have lain awake in silent fury until 4am, & not even attempting to let her neighbour know how much the noise she was making was carrying,

I wouldn't ruin a good relationship with a neighbor for a one off party that you were warned of in advance. What's she meant to do, go back in time and not have the party? You'd just be causing tension for the sake of getting it off your chest. If she does it again then I'd maybe say something but politely and also I'd only say something if they became regular.

I would have a quiet word with her about it and say it kept you awake until 4am. But don't talk to her while you are still angry, wait until you have calmed down

But it's alright for the neighbour to ruin the relationship?

OP hasn’t ruined the relationship.

so much victim blaming in here

I always love how chilled everyone on mumsnet is, they're all chill as fuck being kept awake until 4am... because it's 1 time in 8 years it makes 4am okay apparently. Usually the same people who say you shouldn't mow your garden or let your kids on the trampoline before 11am 🙄

If you make an issue of this now you’ll need to declare it when you sell the house.

Yes, it’s massively inconsiderate and in a sleep deprived state I probably wouldn’t have been as considerate as yourself, however if you’re moving I’d just grit your teeth and try get through the next few months.

Or if you’re feeling vindictive, is it an inflatable hot tub? Maybe it can accidentally get a puncture in the middle of the night?