To feel fuming at neighbour

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We have lived in the same street for 8 years and always gotten along fine with neighbours on both sides.
Recently one of the neighbours has had her adult son come to live with her and there has been more noise later at night than normal. We've ignored this as it's not that disruptive and we dont want to fall out.
Yesterday was neighbours birthday and a hot tub turned up in the back garden. She told us it was for a party so we were forewarned it may be a little noisy.
We were woken at 1am with a load of noise directly under our bedroom window. The neighour had moved the hot tub/lazy spa so all we could hear was a load of drunken swearing and shouting .
This carried on until 4am! I'm fuming as so tired and we have a young DC.
Am I right to go and say something? As I really dont want a repeat of this.

At 1am you should have shouted out the window to pipe down. If still going at 2am call the police.

The morning after and you've done nothing so let it go unless it happens again then deal with it at the time.

Is there anywhere else that the hot tub can go so it's not disrupting you so much ?

If so I'd talk to her nicely, thank her for the heads up about the party but say the position of the hot tub is a bit of a concern as talking and the hot tub noises come directly up into your property and can it be moved as you're concerned it's an ongoing issue.

If nothing else, she'll be aware that all her conversations are overheard and will hopefully keep the noise down.

I think as long as you don't report it to the police or escalate it doesn't need to be mentioned when selling your property.

May I ask if it was a school night? But no matter what 4am sounds horrible. At least they could let you know ahead of time, or ask permission. Also, has she offered you a cake or desert, chocolate, or a simple thank you card for the inconvenience? It's not just what happened that night, but how she handled the situation in total.

This is now an MN cliche, isn't it?

If anyone suggests anyone is in the wrong in any situation, they're 'victim blaming'. That kind of knee-jerk usage is completely devaluing the phrase.

It's a pretty elastic use of the word 'victim' if it covers 'someone who was kept awake by a party next door'. Though, of course, had she complained, she'd be a 'legend'.

Literally underneath your window and you didn't want to stick your head out and ask them to pipe down it's past 1am? Assume by 'we' you have a partner who could have protected you from the men, when you're inside your own house?

Honestly I know people generally don't like to be confrontational but there's a vast difference between confrontational and being a complete wet lettuce.