To think my 2YO has won

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He’s sat on his little desk and chair that he demanded with a bowl of fucking cereal that he asked for… and the book he couldn’t leave the car without.. but is still screaming/crying/tantruming…

what the hell is This torture

How do you make the noise stop?

Seriously??? I hope not! 😧

Precisely. I've got three boys and they've been no bother at all. One of their teachers said that she'd rather teach a class full of boys as girls are so much more difficult.

Oh my word that is adorable

I used to find tantrums quite restful, at least if we were at home. Once I'd ascertained that there was nothing actually wrong and the child in question was safe, I'd just leave them to it and get on with whatever else I wanted to do. They learnt quite quickly that it achieved nothing.

As for the suggestion that it is only boys who have tantrums - DD was by far the worst culprit. She's absolutely delightful now.

Hmm. Mine didn't tantrum so much as totally catastrophise.

We never had the lying on the floor kicking and screaming but oh boy we had the floods of tears and the Armageddon, end of days, doom about the slightest little thing that was not as it "should" be ...

Now I am getting to peri-menopause I notice I am not dissimilar so I can't blame her ...

DS didn’t have many tantrums, but the worst one I remember was when we were in the car and he insisted, despite my reasoning, that he had 11 fingers! He also used to bang his head on the floor if he was angry, but because we have wooden floorboards downstairs he would move to a rug for his head banging as it was more comfortable! He is now a perfectly sensible 22-year-old, about to finish his Masters.

🤣🙈breeds respect not breads 🤣

I thought I was a great parent ds1 no tantruMs and then ds2 came along and realised it was just luck and who knew you could ruin someones day so easily

I'm not sure I could forgive my coffee time being disturbed if I'm honest 🤣

My friend, a psychologist, mentioned to me once in an unguarded moment that awful parents (like the one above who suggested putting toys in the bin) were good for her as it meant she’d have work for years to come sorting out their future problems arising from their shitty home life.

Tantrums are a pain but imagine being a person, feeling exactly as you are inside now, but unable to convey your thoughts and desires properly, unable to properly do MOST tasks, knocking stuff over, most things are hard, you occasionally wet yourself, you’re just not good at things yet and basically have no choices over what you get to do day in day out, and it’s kind of amazing when they don’t have a tantrum!

Op, be grateful. My 2 yo split in half in my womb and now I have TWO MATCHING TANTRRUMMMING BEASTS WHO ESCALATE EACH OTHER!!!!!

Hahahaa that thread made me snort, I can relate so much !

If mine throw their breakfast on the ground I'd tell them that since they're clearly not hungry breakfast is over. But usually it's not breakfast, it's dinner. Doesn't happen too often though.

Tantrums means they get put in the baby park or in bed until they calm down.

What sucks the most though is the tantrums you can't wait out or ignore. I have to wake up my 3yo at 6h30 to get ready for school, we only have 40 min to get ready, so I can't afford to wait for him to get over any tantrums. But if he gets to bed early enough then he is usually charming in the morning, he only turns into a grinch if he goes to bed later than 20h or 20h30.

Aww these little gremlins. It really does mean something to them though, however crazy or unneeded we feel the problem is. Last night my 3 year old claimed he wasn't tired and wasn't going to school tomorrow. I just said 'ok',and went to the kitchen to finish tidying up, then two minutes later I heard from the kitchen "daddy, will you cawwy me to bed now?" 😀
He also had a tantrum because he wanted to Hoover before bed a couple of days ago. Meh, I picked my battles on that one and let him Hoover. 3 pushes of the Henry round my bedroom and he was done. Thanks mate 😂

This is awful parenting.

Dd3 is two and a half and has started tamtruming recently. She can explode into a tantrum in seconds and it'll be over in seconds as well.
I never had the terrible twos with my others so she's really shocked me!
I find distraction works with her so she'll be mid tantrum and I'll remind her of something funny we did, it's like a switch and she'll stop screaming and start giggling instead.
Don't know how long it'll work but my god it's exhausting

I thought that 2 year old tantrums were bad but I assure you, 3 year old tantrums will have you on your knees begging for the noise to stop. Offering the child, like, 5 cookies even though you know that’s way too much, just to keep them quiet. My 3 year old threw herself down in the supermarket today, screaming at the top of her voice that I am a rubbish mummy and don’t touch me. I was bloody horrified. I walked away and said ok mummy’s going now, bye, see you at home. Most kids would get up and run towards you at that point. Not my kid. Her response was ok bye then mummy 😑 I literally cannot win with this child.

But I love her to death. I love her sassiness. Her bold, confident personality. Just need to learn how to help her channel her emotions better.

Kids, eh? Who’d ‘ave ‘em? 😩

The technique I found and used with DD2 was to say go and get your teddy and lie on the sofa. When you are feeling calmer come back and join us/me. She learned to self calm really fast. DD1 could tantrum for hours -13 hours on her 2nd birthday.

Thankfully my DC are past this stage now, but DD1 (now 14 and generally quite lovely) had the most incredible stamina for tantrums. They were absolutely epic. I found the total absence of logic and rational thought really challenging to deal with. I feel for anyone going through this stage, though take heart: it does eventually end.

But that's a sort of natural consequence, and probably would work on a 2yo.
The PP who says they punish a 2yo for having negative feelings is batshit

YABU

Thoughts and prayers @SleepingStandingUp , thoughts and prayers!

my only hope is that 2YO has out grown it by 3YO when I’ll have another 2YO hahah sendhelp hahah

Haha you'll have a tantruming Terrible Two and a tantruming Terrible Three and it'll serve you right for having sex TWICE. You know what caused it and you STILL did it 😂😂

I have 6 so have been through the tantrums for years

the best one was my dd-she threw one because ‘mummy has horrible boobies’!

over half an hour of screaming due to my terrible knockers…

I currently am peri menopausal, have a partner who is having a midlife crisis and a pre teen who swings between hating me and telling me that I’m the best mum ever.
My toddlers meltdown are the most reasonable behaviour in our house.

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