To think my 2YO has won

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He’s sat on his little desk and chair that he demanded with a bowl of fucking cereal that he asked for… and the book he couldn’t leave the car without.. but is still screaming/crying/tantruming…

what the hell is This torture

How do you make the noise stop?

If you wait it out they will soon stop and then usually want a cuddle! If you try and get them to stop I find it just makes it worse, or you teach them to bottle up their feelings which ends up coming out in destructive ways.

I'm in Italy so that's a non negotiable! 😂

Following as in similar boat with my DD. I think she doesnt like broken food it has to be cut into cubes.

For a 2yo? Awful parenting.

Hahahah I loved the cutted up pear thread!

I wish this worked on my DD. If I leave the room she ups the ante. The noise she creates is unbelievable.

Also I have no clue why she's paddying 99% of the time. I just can't work it out. I have it all to look forward to again in another 18mths or so with my DS.

So you punished them for... having feelings?

Jeez. I'm sure that taught them an important lesson.

I remember someone saying that their dcs were entitled to a tantrum but not an audience.

I remember my birth son at a similar age being absolutely distraught because he asked for toast and got it. He wanted "Toast, not cooked" aka bread.

Earphones in until daddy comes home. Ignore it,
My dds used to create in supermarkets and shops. We used to step over them and walk off. When we were leaving we’d peel them off the floor and tuck them under our arm kicking and screaming.

Ffs.

I was just reading the Shawn the sheep/broken banana post from the cutted up pear classic to DH and in front of Dd2. She promptly went to the fruit bowl and got a banana. She gave it to DH to open, he handed it back. She took one bite out of it and put it on the floor. He asked her whether she was going to finish it and was greeted with a very firm no, so DH picks up the banana and eats it.

Right on cue she starts hysterically screaming and sobbing saying "mine, mine, mine!"

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Actually taking a toy away for a couple of minutes due to throwing does work
On my toddler, she won't throw it when she gets it back. However, I wouldn't take it longer than a couple of minutes and she knows she gets it back. It's not going in the bin.
And never due to a tantrum, due to misuse of the toy by throwing. A tantrum is just an attempt to verbalise when they don't have the skills yet. I just sit it out and offer hugs (and remember all those memes on fb about 'my toddler is crying because ....)

My 2 year old is about to go in the bin. He's been a nightmare since 5am, after I'd been up all night with the 8 week old. Daddy is due to get home in 30 mins and he's going to get 2 children thrown at him so mummy can have a bath!

I love this!

My DD at 4 still tantrums a lot. I had hoped she'd grow out of it by now. Anything can set her off, I often don't know what. The only way to deal with it is to leave her to it, she inevitably comes back to me within 5 minutes all smiles and wanting to play. Then discusses it with me hours later and often apologises. It's bizarre but I try to remember that something that seems like no big deal to me is huge to her. Plus when she's in it no reasoning helps. She can behave impeccably at preschool and classes but I think the effort exhausts her too much. Tiredness and hunger are definitely triggers.

My DS is 3 and hasn't had a tantrum yet. It really reassures me that it's the child and not the parenting . He's definitely the calm and she's the storm. I'm dreading the teenage years...

This is such a reassuring post to read through when you've got a tantrum child also!! I've actually just tagged out so my OH is outside with dd and for some reason I'm sat rocking back and forth watching peppa pig!

This reminds me of the time I asked the Aldi cashier if he had a bin I could throw her empty banana peel in (I did also pay for it) and she was so outraged she screeched all the way home demanding I go back and get it for her

This is very 80s parenting.

You did well working out it was the chair, OP! And as a bonus, you did it without completely invalidating your toddler’s feelings and helping them reach a happy place without threats 👀

Toys in bin seems deliberately provocative.
I used to try to make DS laugh.
He used to pretend to kick, and I’d say
“ I don’t need to see the underside of your 🦶 foot!”
It sometimes worked.
Distraction also helped.

Oooh passive aggressive much!... That 'generally' boys are harder work and can be utter nightmares. I have had both and worked and also lived with lots.

@MissMaple82 but how PA, girls can be utter nasty nightmares, learned most likely from their mothers!

That 'generally' boys are harder work and can be utter nightmares. I have had both and worked and also lived with lots.

Utter bollocks.

Yes, utter bollocks indeed. Out of my four children, two girls and two boys, I have two reasonably chilled ones and two extremely, erm, FEISTY little firecrackers.

You’ll be surprised to know, @MissMaple82 , that the feistier ones are one girl and one boy.

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Mind you saying that, all four of them packed a punch when they were two years old and tantrumming. Big emotions.

From terrible twos to threenagers...

The good thing is though that the eldest can often identify what is bugging the little one... a 3 or 4yr old would have told you about the chair!

When my DS was 18 months old he had a monster tantrum at school pick up. My lovely friend who has many kids stepped over him and said “don’t worry, it’ll pass by the time he’s 4”. I replied with “4? 4? But that’s 2.5 years away….”.

She was right.