A few weeks ago I bought my step son a personalised jacket to wear for his 8th birthday party that he's having at his mother's who he lives.
I found out yesterday that she didn't put it on him because apparently it wasn't spelt correctly so he wore something else.
AIBU to call her disrespectful by not putting it on him to wear? She didn't even let us know he wouldn't be wearing it or say thank you for us buying it for him or anything. She said she didn't ask us to buy it and because my step son already said thank you she doesn't think she needs to.
What annoyed me most is she didn't even give it back to us until I had to ASK for it back.
My OH thinks I'm overreacting but I can't help but feel so offended.
AIBU?
Who is in the wrong here????
WorriedWelshy · 27/04/2022 09:46
Am I being unreasonable?
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POLLWorriedWelshy · 27/04/2022 17:59
I will admit that I didnt think about the name being on clothes as being a potential safety thing, thats fair enough.
I did let SS know I bought him a jacket for his birthday about a week before hand and I just assumed he would of told his mother about it. But again I'm not trying to dictate what he wears of course not.
I think its best if we leave it there now.
Lovemusic33 · 27/04/2022 18:27
I wouldn’t want my child wearing something with his name spelt wrong in it either 😬, how do you manage to get your child’s name wrong, surely your dh knows how to spell his own sons name?
YABU
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womaninatightspot · 27/04/2022 12:50
I'd be mortified to put my child in that in case people thought it was me who couldn't spell TBH. Other people would of noticed even if the child didn't and then laughed or pointed it out. I would of quietly tucked it away and not mentioned it to you as I wouldn't of wanted to embarrass you or get you upset.
Obviously now you are upset regardless of any intentions. I'd be a bit twitchy about sending the jacket round to you in case you made him wear it regardless of spelling errors and not being his birthday anymore so it doesn't go to waste.
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WoodenClock · 27/04/2022 15:13
I think it's probable this personalisation was done by someone/somewhere where Engkiah isn't the first language and they'll just carefully transpose what's asked for without knowing what it says.
Wheniruletheworld · 28/04/2022 07:22
wrong assumption. Many, many English people cannot spell -read through some of the responses on this thread about common spelling/grammar errors or go to the pedants thread. Indeed, many who have been taught English as a second language are better speakers/writers than natives.
WoodenClock · 27/04/2022 15:13
I think it's probable this personalisation was done by someone/somewhere where Engkiah isn't the first language and they'll just carefully transpose what's asked for without knowing what it says.
TolkiensFallow · 27/04/2022 22:22
I get that you think you were being nice but Yabu
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QuirkyTurtle · 28/04/2022 07:39
True! English is my second language and I'm often the grammar checker at work for my English colleagues. My English grammar is better than my native language's.
To be fair I learned English at a young age so most people can't tell I'm not English unless I tell them.
Wheniruletheworld · 28/04/2022 07:22
wrong assumption. Many, many English people cannot spell -read through some of the responses on this thread about common spelling/grammar errors or go to the pedants thread. Indeed, many who have been taught English as a second language are better speakers/writers than natives.
WoodenClock · 27/04/2022 15:13
I think it's probable this personalisation was done by someone/somewhere where Engkiah isn't the first language and they'll just carefully transpose what's asked for without knowing what it says.
grapehyacinthisactuallyblue · 28/04/2022 07:49
I am not native English speaker and my English isn't perfect. But one thing I never do is confuse the use of of and have.
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