To think life is utterly boring

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Please hear me out, my life is actually filed with lots of fun things yet I still find life boring!

I'm not looking for 'life is what you make it' trust me I make an extra effort to do fun extravagant things and keep busy but I still feel...bored.

I'm not suicidal may I add so please don't shift this to the mental health section.

I try to the gym most evenings or watch some good tv but I cannot shake the feeling.

I'm very busy and active person, the busiest I know - but I still feel really, really bored. I'm waiting for the feeling to pass but it's been here couple weeks now.

I'm not really looking for solutions I guess just empathy from others who feel/have felt similar.

Many people would find just gym and tv boring things to do with leisure time, so maybe try other hobbies? Something more creative perhaps?

What are your relationships like? Whenever I've felt like this it's been related to other people. A so so relationship, or not seeing enough of the people whose company I enjoyed, and too much of the ones who didn't particularly inspire, cheer or entertain me. The right people make even the most humdrum lives fun and amusing.

@5128gap I probably should reach out to people I know more but even that bores me.

I just feel like a lost cause and I have to accept my life will be waves of this feeling

You are looking for God. You may not know it. That is why your life feels like it does.

YABU to think "life" is utterly boring.
Y quite possibly ANBU to think that your life is.

I think I would be bored if I went to work, went to the gym, watch TV and went to bed, on repeat.

I'm not looking for 'life is what you make it' trust me I make an extra effort to do fun extravagant things and keep busy but I still feel...bored.

'Fun' things don't necessarily prevent boredom though. What challenges have you got? What really engages you ?

People are happy with different levels of "stuff to do" - lots of people are happy in lives as you describe yours, but it seems that you are looking for more than your life presents to you. So there is an element of you finding how to scratch that itch for you.

I'd be bored if I went to a gym every day - watching paint dry springs to mind.

@lightand it definitely isn't a god I'm looking for. I'm an atheist.

From my experience unless you have some kind of bigger meaning/purpose as to the meaning of your life all those activities just pile into a bottomless void.

onvrci had found a purpose/reason I was here, nothing was boring because everything enhanced my life

@Kite22 your post is true I agree with it all. I think I'm life some people are lucky to find things that make them tick and others not so. Usually my work makes me tick but have lost interest the last couple of weeks in it.

If you're lucky enough to find something that constantly keeps you going then you are fortunate. I struggle to care a enough about any activity.

In my opinion and experience, a lot more atheists become Christians, than people who have never much thought about God.

But I wont keep saying it.
But that is what and who you are searching for. And why you feel as you do.

I used to be similar - almost live in a vacuum. Go to the gym, go shopping, go for lunch….

However, I saw an advert for a local introductory class for team sport. After 18 months I had so many friends and am still loving doing it!

I think it’s good to look at a sport where you are learning something technical as well: e.g sailing, golf, ultimate frisbee!

While horse riding and dance are technical, I have personally found not to be as social - One of the reasons is they don’t generally have a clubhouse / bar that your local sports club will likely have!

I appreciate there may be a cost barrier but what I have spent on my sport, is one of the best investments I have ever made.

Don’t worry about looking silly - no one other than you will notice.

Are you like Moana? Restless, knowing something is out there but you don’t know what it is yet!

Have you read ‘How to do everything and be happy’?

It is very rude to push your own beliefs onto others in this way.

You may want to explore whether the “Mind” website could give you some insights and help.

Interesting question. I feel same as OP. I’d be filled with dread as I don’t know what to do with myself. Nothing seem of any worth or point.

does this help?
I slept and dreamt that life was joy. I awoke and saw that life was service. I acted and behold, service was joy.
sorry if it’s irritating

Many of us find service to God gives life meaning, but perhaps you could find some other cause that you could care enough about to serve?

I have adhd so I am continually finding things to keep me stimulated. New projects, new languages, I have a very busy job which I love but I also volunteer my skills and time to a cause I believe in. I craft, play games, switch my workouts/what i do to exercise. I am continually learning new stuff, often related to my work but not always.

I arrange to see friends, I have my kids, my boyfriend, but I also enjoy my chilled out time reading or watching something.

In short, i am never bored because there is always something I want to do. Life is amazing but you have to be proactive and Taylor it to your needs. It won't just happen.

@Vikinga I completely see where you are coming from but there is a unique category that I would say I fall into whereby I do not sit around waiting for things to happen I'm continuously doing things, staying active, meeting people etc and yet the void isn't filled.

What happens then? What happens when you are trying hard to create fulfill ness and purpose but it just isn't there

Then you embrace emptiness. The fertile void.

Mind you, I don't class boring activities like going to the gym as "trying to create fullness".

Try a dance class, any class, instead.

Why not try an activity that is helping other people or involves other people somehow, instead of focussing on yourself?

Going to the gym and watching TV is quite insular, and yes, it does sound boring.

Hi. I've felt like this a couple of times in my past. The ways I have dealt with it were around making big changes with my career and once (more recently) it was taking up a new hobby I could focus on.
Do you get itchy feet? Just a guess but did you travel a lot and have quite a lot of fun before 'settling down'?

I understand a bit I think. Have you spent life going from challenge to challenge? Uni, working towards promotions, exams etc?

Sometimes people get so used to being a bit stressed that not being stressed feels like boredom.

Alternatively, nothing is giving you an adrenaline or serotonin rush. I sometimes get this when I'm plodding along with nothing exciting coming up. Everything feels a bit flat. A good fantasy book sometimes sorts me out or a new class - most recent is archery. But it can be tough when you feel like you're wasting the days.

I agree OP, it is groundhog day. Monday to Friday I am in a routine of get up, work, exercise, hobbies and wait until the weekend when I feel better because I'm not working. For me it is the horror that we spend so much of our time giving our labour for money so that we can live. We are essentially worker ants who desperately pursue family and hobbies to make it all worthwhile. And on it goes for years till we retire and hope to God we don't drop dead immediately so we actually get to enjoy no commitments. It's madness and part of the reason I don't think I can bring children into the world. It seems cruel.