AIBU to be infuriated by a giant teddy

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Currently 5 months with number 4, spending a large amount of my free time (of which there isn't much due to the 2 week easter hols!) ruthlessly decluttering and cleaning, a whole house deep clean is overdue plus I've always been an early and extreme nester!

Husband begrudgingly took the older 2 out to an event today as I didn't fancy watching 3 under 8 amongst huge crowds on a hot day and being the desi driver while he got pissed and chatted to his mates. I could see myself standing in the queue for the 12th trip to ladies bathroom with kids extra hyper full of Easter morning's chocolate fuel. Between recently potty trained toddler and my lazy ass never doing pelvic floor exercises, outings are just a tour or public toilets these days... I digress. Despite worrying about his competence to chat and mind children simultaneously, I waved them off.

Four hours later I was sent a photo of my kids cuddling a 5ft nasty looking stuffed teddy bear. To which I replied 'that fcker better not be coming home, I'll set it on fire'.

Bearing in mind (no pun intended) he knows I just did a huge toy cull and we are already room-sharing for the foreseeable to fit the actual living breathing human beings into our house... what the frig was he thinking?

I realise its JUST a giant teddy but I instantly wanted to cry when it came through the front door in DD1s hands while DS1 proudly showed off his tube of slime (also giant, also not allowed in house following ruined sofa/carpet/clothing incidents, live and learn). I didn't cry, I wanted to, but my nature won't let me so I silently rage cleaned bathrooms and toilets... really punished myself 😅 until 1am.

Do I talk to children about the value of space and plead to donate teddy before any attachment can be made, or let the motherfudger hang around for 4 months first. I want to offload to the first charity shop that opens in the morning, but also feel like a w-anchor for being cruel when the kids were thrilled with the demonic thing.

Also irritated that DH spent so much money on winning it when I'm wearing tights with holes in the big toes to save money... grr.

I think I'm just wound up and need to vent but really, 5ft of totally pointless fire hazard, which I will have to drag back up the stairs every day in attempt to hide the thing?

Feeling overwhelmed with housework and to-dos and being told 'dont do so much' but getting no offer whatsoever of help in order for me to do less... and DH keeps suggesting we have people over, i want to hibernate...argh! Maybe the teddy is symbolic of a bigger problem 😂 therapise me.

If you stuck with me through all that, well done. I'll read it back in the morning and want to turn back time and delete, I'm sure. Dont think 6.30pm coffee helped, accidentally picked the caffeine.

Next time he annoys you, please do come and rage clean my bathroom and toilet.

...but seriously, I got rid of ours when a local lady on Facebook asked for one she could dress up as Santa for her grandchildren (she had the costume) and I said she was welcome to keep it...

I won a giant Teddy when I was 8. It was bigger then me. We called him Horace.
We threw him away when I was 20. I can still see him in the back of the skip going up the road with his arm raised as if in farewell. I regret throwing him away and miss him every day!

Sorry for your loss. #Triggerwarning 🧸👋

I hate giant toys. I would be triggered too. Keep it for a little while, though I feel the agony of that.

@ilovepixie

I won a giant Teddy when I was 8. It was bigger then me. We called him Horace. We threw him away when I was 20. I can still see him in the back of the skip going up the road with his arm raised as if in farewell. I regret throwing him away and miss him every day!

Oh don’t. I had a giant panda that my grandma won in a raffle. Getting him was such a lovely childhood memory and I cosied up to him every night. But at some point after moving out, my parents chucked out a bunch of old toys and he must have been among them as I’ve never seen him again. I’m missing him now.

DS won a giant fist in an arcade last year but got bored of carrying it around so offered it to some kid who was delighted (as was I). His mum less so

And yes that is not a typo and I did mean mean fist and not fish 🤣

Is it about the giant teddy or about the unhelpful husband? Sometimes I find when I am stressed about a bit thing that’s hard to fix (husband who only grudgingly takes the kids out and is happy to see you do all cleaning and childcare while he gets pissed with his mates and invites people over) I can project it onto a relatively small thing (tube of slime).

My godparents gave my a giant purple and pink dragon when I was 6, I loved it. My mum threw it away a couple of months later as I "wasn't taking care of it properly"???? I miss my dragon

Inexplicably bought a HUGE life-like Panda from London Zoo when 6 months pregnant… sat with it on my knee for the long journey home.
It’s almost 37 years old now… and still lives with me😱
DS never showed much interest in it and so the Panda and I live together.
Still have no idea why I bought it, but couldn’t imagine it being taken away in a skip!🐼

I'd be furious he brought that home. Great big dust collectors.

Could you say the teddy is visiting your house and will have to return to another family soon?

How gullible are your children?

We’ve acquired several ugly great giant teddies over the year. I have tried throwing these things out numerous times, and whenever I’ve put them in the pile of death, they’ve mysteriously made their way back to the seats in the room where I keep taking them from. I’d blame my teenage kids, but of course, I know full well they must do it theirselves.

I’ve given up.

I can't believe all the people suggesting she keep it. You must live in palaces.

You have my sympathies. I had a miniscule little apartment, the type that would have needed especially small furniture if I could have afforded it and my SIL gave my dd a giant bear. Grrrrrr

I'd be furious. Such needless landfill. What is wrong with some people? Do they not understand what the climate crisis entails for the lives of our children and what they are going to have to be dealing with?

I don't know what you should do, but I felt a fiery burning rage reading your post OP. I'd kill the bear, then my husband.

Your op made me chuckle… sorry but thanks for that

Are you really that cluttered that you are all sharing a room currently?

Can’t the teddy take a “trip”? Or perhaps he can have a horrific accident (involving rage cleaning) and only his head will survive (which can be made into a cushion or one of those hunting glory heads that hang on the wall)?

Failing that … a house fire would be far too drastic or LTB (bear then becomes his issue- unless you end up sharing custody!)

Your husband is a selfish inconsiderate arsehole.

Get him doing cleaning and tidying op. Pisses me off these men not lifting a finger.

Sounds like you need a good neutral but honest chat woth your husband about tbe domestic burden and how it's shared, and household finances. If you're too hard up to replace your tights then I'd expect him to have a budget limit for a day out, for example.

I love teddies and would be claiming it for myself!

Why do so many women have kids over and over again with shit incompetent men

As an adult I would hate one of those giant things in my house. As a child I remember the utter joy of winning one at the school Christmas fair! Hopefully they’ll get bored of it quickly. If they got it on a carnival game they’re often poorly made and start falling apart quickly which will work in your favour!