To be really fed up with "accommodating" colleague

[Ceci03]

So for background - I've been having a problem with my manager being very inflexible around times etc. So today my colleague is in the office by herself - I would usually be in but have covid - and she works 8-4. I've been on email with her a lot of the day and she said she offered to stay until 5pm as "it's only an hour" and she has things to do. It's just pissing me off. As she knows my struggle with the manager, and she's making me look even worse by being so 'flexible' and the manager doesn't care, she just walks all over her and my colleague doesnt even see that. I mean, I've always been very flexible, and have stayed late, come in early, but when I asked for a small flexibility from the manager, she said no, and has been pretty mean about it, so I've started logging my hours, and requesting time off in lieu which I've never ever done before. Colleague knows all this. AH it just annoys me. She is obviously just 'sucking up' to the manager and it's none of my business. It's just when people do this, they make employees who are "just doing their job" look like they're not doing enough. Or something. Anyone else understand what I mean

@Ceci03

Yeah it's not that easy to get another job though is it. Especially considering I'm the worst employee ever according to this thread. Maybe you get what you deserve and this is what I deserve, a shitty job, for a shit employee right. Don't worry I don't say any of this to anyone at work, but keep my head down, smile, do my work and go home.

It can be very hard to interview well, give open responses and not be negative about your current role if you are unhappy and feel that you are being treated unfairly. Do you have any local charities that offer employability services that could assist you with interview practice, or coaching and coping tactics for your current role?

I'm like the colleague. I'm going the extra mile because with all the challenges lately I need to keep my job so I can provide for my children.
I sympathise with you both.

The problem is you and your shitty attitude trying to drag the team down. Why are you such a clock watcher… criticising your colleague for staying back yet complaining that you don’t get thanks when you start early. It’s petty & unprofessional.

Once you are spending this much energy analysing other people's behaviour it becomes a problem. You want to be recognised for your work but are actually self-sabotaging.

Be good at your job. That's what managers want in the end.

You sound horrible. She was offering to help you