Yes I'm afraid it's a MIL one but imo it's more of a terrible dh one too. Sorry it's long. Maybe just because I need to get things off my chest a bit.
Since I met dh I have been responsible for all birthdays Christmas etc in his family.
Last year I felt he as a grown adult could possibly lift a finger. But when push came to shove he forgot to send his mum a birthday card so I end up doing it albeit late.
I'm lucky if I hear from his family. No one ever asks about our dc. Not even to dh.
If his siblings need anything because they've run out of money we help. We have given things to MIL that would have helped us too but wanted to be nice but she acts like it never happened.
We always seem to be doing all the helping and giving. Anyway, his mum used to text me alone and sort things like when we'd see her or dh birthday and she said she was going to ask dh. I said she'd be lucky if her son got back to her because he's so lazy.
Since i said this, and maybe to her credit, she's set up a group chat with me and dh to involve him (personally I think she wanted to prove something when I called her son lazy). In the group chat she's now asked if we are we coming to see her for Easter. I don't like going to her. Every time we go we buy lunch for her. Every time she comes to us we buy food. Again seems we do all the giving and she never returns any of it. She has a lot of money and it all annoys me so much. I find it rude.
She's never once offered even a snack when we're there but we'll get a cup of tea. She has offered a cheese sandwich for dc though. But made me make the sandwich while there 😂
Aibu to leave dh to text back? I'm feeling awkward but I think this is finally the time where it's up to him to sort these things out, I've got enough in my own plate.
MIL set this group chat up I'm sure in the hope he gets back to her and I think I'm going to sit back and stay out of it. Personally I wish she'd just text him and am wondering if I am just the backup plan if she doesn't text back here.