Landlords assistant fuming that I’ve had 3 parcels…

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I live in a flat complex with just 4 flats in it. I’m on the first floor and an elderly lady lives with her daughter (my landlords assistant) downstairs.

In the week I had two parcels delivered when I was at work, and there is no safe place apart from tiny postboxes. I’m assuming that they called their flat and they left them outside my door.

I then had another parcel come today, which I was in for- they buzzed my buzzer as usual (no one else’s) and I went down and collected it. The man said that apparently my neighbours were pissed that I’ve had “so many” parcels.
Anyway I took my parcel and went back up the stairs. As I went up, I heard their door open, the landlords assistant looked up at me angrily, turned around and shouted “fuck sake”.

This hasn’t affected her at all- it was my parcel, my buzzer went off and I went to collect it. Why was she fuming about that?! Our buzzers are quite loud and we can hear each other’s but that isn’t my problem and I hear theirs too and never complain. Especially in the middle of the day.

I just feel like I’m being made to feel extremely uncomfortable and can’t even order things to my own house where I live. I had 3 parcels this week and have rarely had any other deliveries.

I’m tempted to say something as I feel uncomfortable in my own flat… surely it’s down to them to get quieter buzzers or bigger postboxes, or a safe place - not my problem?

So the landlord's assistant has a proposal for how a person with disabilities who cannot drive or carry things any distance gets normal goods?

Point out their discriminatory opinions.

@ComDummings

I’m petty as fuck so I would be ordering stuff every single day.

But if OP isn't in and she's reliant on neighbours to take delivery, they'll just refuse? Not let the delivery driver have access to the building? So what would that achieve!

OP, when you took delivery they were unreasonable but whilst it's neighbourly to let your delivery company have access, they don't have to.

You should not expect others to take in your parcels when you’re not at home. Can you pay extra for Saturday delivery to avoid this in future?

[quote HaveringWavering]@melj1213 have you said to your neighbour clearly that her taking your parcels is very inconvenient and asked her to stop?[/quote]
Yep, repeatedly and still she does it!

Obviously I can't stop couriers from asking around if I'm not in, as even if you put in the delivery notes "don't leave with neighbours" half the time they don't read the note and ask them anyway, but the other neighbours and I are all on the same page and have a great system - we either say no if we have an awkward schedule and it's a big item that really can't be left blocking the hallway; or say yes, take the parcel and then when we go out for the day we just leave it outside the recipient's door/somewhere discreet in the communal hallway to collect when they get home - it's just martyr neighbour that insists on taking everything in and then personally handing it over.

I have told her that if she sees a parcel outside my door, as long as it isn't in the way (my front door is directly up the first main staircase and there's a little alcove that things can be left in but I think some couriers come halfway up the stairs and just chuck my parcels towards the door) then I would prefer it if she left them where they were as it is inconvenient for me to have to chase her for my parcels. Regardless of this she still insists on taking them in because "Its safer" and "I don't want them getting stolen from you" or "#3 upstairs had a few visitors and I didn't want it to just disappear" or "I don't mind helping out by taking them" or "Oh, I didn't want you to have to make a special trip all the way out the the depot for it" (the local RM depot is literally a 3 minute walk away)

She's a total busybody nosy neighbour who will do something that nobody has asked her to do or isn't her responsibility and then be put out that people aren't bending over backwards to thank her. This infuriates me, but at the same time she is my NDN so I don't want to go nuclear over the odd parcel because I don't want to make my daily life harder.

@Mummyoflittledragon

You should not expect others to take in your parcels when you’re not at home. Can you pay extra for Saturday delivery to avoid this in future?

The OP isn't expecting anyone to take her parcels in though @Mummyoflittledragon, she just can't help it if the courier chooses to knock on a neighbours door and then the neighbour says yes when asked to take it.

@melj1213
I was talking about during the week. Not yesterday’s delivery.

Couriers only get paid for completing a delivery and will therefore attempt to find someone to take it. If a neighbour takes in the parcel, they are inconvenienced (albeit no biggie for me personally to do so from time to time). If the courier finds no one, they are inconvenienced.

Either way someone is inconvenienced. My take therefore is to attempt to get deliveries at weekends. If only a non specified / week day delivery is possible, when living in flats, I think it would be courteous to speak to a neighbour asking if they will take the parcel.

I dont think it's a problem if you are there when the parcels come. But if they are turning up when you are at work and it relies on someone else to take them in, then I think you need to send them to a parcel shop.

@oioimatey

Would you like to combine these items for fewer deliveries? Checks the "no" box.

absolutely this!

@Tasteslikeregret

It’s not down to them to get bigger boxes or safe spaces. Have them delivered to a parcel shop & collect, delivered to your work address or a pay for a named delivery day when you are in.

Are you the landlord? This is bizarre. Clearly having parcels delivered to your home is normal, and being sworn at in your own home by your landlord isn't normal.

Honestly, you sound like perfect neighbours. Few years back when i lived in a flat, I had these awful morons under me who didn't think, didn't have the brains, to think "oh maybe when we order take out we should tell the driver which button to press/to call when outside". I was constantly getting woken up late by their takeaway drivers. Likewise with parcels in the day. People delivering would just randomly mash the doorbells to deliver. It got to the point where I stopped answering and their stuff would go back to the depot instead.

You sound like a dream. If your buzzers are loud what's the big deal. in fact, if you think about it, that means if god forbid something happens and someone is trying to get in and pressing buzzer over and over, your neighbours will be alerted. Sounds like a good safety measure to be honest.

Wish you'd been my neighbours, haha. You sound like a dream.

I would be ordering free samples of everything I could. Flooring, blinds, kitchen worktops, all come in nice large free parcels. Fuck her that’s why.