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Deeply concerned about Child Safety in Bristol

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MatthewJTaylor · 07/04/2022 21:28

From May 5th to May 8th 2022, the Tobacco Factory Theatres in Bristol is having performances of "The Family Sex Show".
This show is aimed at children 5 years old and up.
The performers involved get naked.
The discussion with the children is on sex, sexuality and sexual pleasure.

I cannot imagine brining a 5 year old child to a theatre where people will to to her/him about sex and show their naked bodies to her/him.

Am I the crazy one?

Sources:
The Family Sex Show website
Listing at The Tobacco Factory Theatres

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thinkingaboutLangCleg · 08/04/2022 00:20

@FOJN

thinkingaboutLangCleg

I was well educated by your namesake.

Sadly missed ....
Sortilege · 08/04/2022 00:20

The aspect of teaching “pleasure” alongside “privates are private” is particularly sinister.

One of the things child sexual abuse survivors really struggle with is that non-consensual acts (which all child sexual abuse is) can nevertheless cause involuntary sensations of physical pleasure.

This is either conceived by idiots or it has a horrible hidden motivation.

PrelateChuckles · 08/04/2022 00:21

"It’s no secret that talking to children about sex, relationships, and their bodies can draw negative attention. When Birmingham’s Parkfield community school attempted to integrate an inclusive programme teaching their students that families can come in all shapes and sizes, including with same-sex parents, protesters picketed the school gates. Incidents like this have been fairly frequent over recent years. “We know we will get people who don’t want it to happen,” Dale-Jones says. “There aren’t many of them, but they shout loudly. The main thing is looking after the company, the venues, their staff and the audiences.”"

Sorry but it is absolutely disgusting to say that anyone who has a problem with 5yos being taught about masturbation from adults is the same as people who don't want their kids taught about same-sex relationships.

I have kids under 5 and they have grown up being told that couples/families can be male/male and female/female, it's never been a big thing.

To pretend it's all just prudishness and homophobia suggests they know exactly what they are doing and how they can try and throw off any criticism about what they are doing. It's a well-worn tactic.

Flumsnet · 08/04/2022 00:23

In the current curriculum for PSHE does the teacher get naked in front of 5 year olds? I didn’t think so.

shreddednips · 08/04/2022 00:24

@PrelateChuckles

"It’s no secret that talking to children about sex, relationships, and their bodies can draw negative attention. When Birmingham’s Parkfield community school attempted to integrate an inclusive programme teaching their students that families can come in all shapes and sizes, including with same-sex parents, protesters picketed the school gates. Incidents like this have been fairly frequent over recent years. “We know we will get people who don’t want it to happen,” Dale-Jones says. “There aren’t many of them, but they shout loudly. The main thing is looking after the company, the venues, their staff and the audiences.”"

Sorry but it is absolutely disgusting to say that anyone who has a problem with 5yos being taught about masturbation from adults is the same as people who don't want their kids taught about same-sex relationships.

I have kids under 5 and they have grown up being told that couples/families can be male/male and female/female, it's never been a big thing.

To pretend it's all just prudishness and homophobia suggests they know exactly what they are doing and how they can try and throw off any criticism about what they are doing. It's a well-worn tactic.

Exactly, it's suggesting that feeling (correctly) uncomfortable with completely inappropriate sexual content aimed at children is bigotry. It's so, so dangerous.
PrelateChuckles · 08/04/2022 00:28

“I don’t know another subject that we only talk about once and then we tick it off as if it’s done,” Dale-Jones says. “The learning is never over.”

Oxbow lakes?
Adverbs?
Not to put foil in the microwave?

Has this person actually been to school?

And the idea that no-one talks about sex after school is ... contradicted every single day in every corner of the media?

I can't really trust a word she says, let alone pay for her to talk about sex with my child and decide whether adults will get naked in front of them.

Quatrophoenix · 08/04/2022 00:29

alm down people. This is BRISTOL - Kingdom of the Free. You need to understand Bristol and the Bristolian mindset before being so harsh..

  1. Bristolians smell because they use natural deodorants.

  2. When they realise they aren't good at engaging with the outside world they return to the Motherland - they cling on to their fractured Bristolian upbringings.

3)Bristolians smoke shit loads of dope/skunk/coke/heroin. Drink herbal tea mixed with paint thinner or cheap vodka. Do courses in tin mining and restraint therapy. Paint crap paintings and Bristol art galleries do little displays of them. They are happy they live in Bristol because they are insecure.

  1. Herbal treatments - for a Bristolian - top chemo: herbalists in Bristol Land of the Free, argue that chemotherapy is a devilish, destructive pollutant, not a cure, for cancer. They say that a careful combination of wild garlic, cinammon, pangea beans, raspberry flakes, tusk shavings and flared trousers can cure it. They also charge a LOT of money monthly, for little red capsules that stave off Multiple Sclerosis.

  2. Bristolian-bred folk, wherever they are in the world, think they own it. They exploit local people and parade their Bristolian credentials.

  3. They love heritage and history but have no interest in silly building regulations or fire regs. They like planting cannabis farms in their lofts and not bothering with steel joists.

  4. Bristolians LOVE high drama and showing off. But especially when they are high/pissed/coked-up and getting their kits off: they chuck their scrawny bits around to drum n bass, spliff dangling. Bit of posh crockery on a shelf, a tablecloth from a kibbutz circa 1984 and four sandalwood tea-lights.

Bristol is the absolute right place for a piece of theatre like this. And it won't work. Because it's stupid.

sacredfeminina · 08/04/2022 00:29

Fuck picketing it, if its going on its too late. This needs some SUNLIGHT. Any sane adult would see how inappropriate this is, lets contact those people! (Look at previous pages in thread)

sacredfeminina · 08/04/2022 00:31

This show is actually also a few other places...norwich and somewhere else. It looks like it is touring.

Alisae · 08/04/2022 00:31

Oh look.

Another one.

Deeply concerned about Child Safety in Bristol
PrelateChuckles · 08/04/2022 00:32

The argument against sex education for younger ages has repeatedly been that education is indoctrination: the more we tell our children about sex, the more tempted they will be.

THIS IS ABSOLUTE BOLLOCKS

The argument about sex ed for younger ages is that it needs to be AGE-APPROPRIATE to try and arm against future grooming and sexual abuse. Which is far too prevalent and destroys lives.

www.theguardian.com/stage/2022/mar/08/and-now-for-a-song-about-the-clitoris-the-joy-of-sex-education

PrelateChuckles · 08/04/2022 00:34

The Family Sex Show is also being shown at Bath and the Norwich & Norfolk Festival.

CherryBlossomAutumn · 08/04/2022 00:35

This is disturbingly part of the way grooming occurs. Sexualising and introducing nakedness of the predator / child as this description of stages of grooming says
Once emotional dependence and trust have been built, the perpetrator progressively sexualizes the relationship. This occurs through talking, pictures, and creating situations in which both are naked (swimming). The adult exploits the child’s natural curiosity and trust using stimulation to advance the sexual nature of the relationship.

This is from this website
www.d2l.org/child-grooming-signs-behavior-awareness/

Noname99 · 08/04/2022 00:36

Welcome to Bristol! Welcome to the woke, left wing Labour council that MN berate everyone for not following. It’s not about “niche trans rights” The labour left have been taken over by an insane, dangerous fundamentalist ideology that completely disregarded any form of safeguarding. This is why Labour can never ever be allowed to be in charge of anything. They are quite literally dangerous.
Oh additionally, this left wing labour council also has an SEND dept that had been special measures for ever. Complete failure to meet the needs of children with SEND but I’ll m sure it’s the Tories fault somehow

Rainbowshit · 08/04/2022 00:36

@Lockheart

I think you're misreprenting a tad..

This show is aimed at children 5 years old and up.

Not quite, it's aimed at all ages from 5+.

The performers involved get naked.

At one point for a couple of minutes if they feel comfortable (this is explicitly stated, if you'll pardon the pun, in the FAQs).

The discussion with the children is on sex, sexuality and sexual pleasure.

It's a theatre show, there are no sit down chats with the children.

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lemongreentea · 08/04/2022 00:37

I am local to Bristol and had not heard of this. Thank you for highlighting OP.

Quatrophoenix · 08/04/2022 00:48

@Noname99

Welcome to Bristol! Welcome to the woke, left wing Labour council that MN berate everyone for not following. It’s not about “niche trans rights” The labour left have been taken over by an insane, dangerous fundamentalist ideology that completely disregarded any form of safeguarding. This is why Labour can never ever be allowed to be in charge of anything. They are quite literally dangerous. Oh additionally, this left wing labour council also has an SEND dept that had been special measures for ever. Complete failure to meet the needs of children with SEND but I’ll m sure it’s the Tories fault somehow
It's a shithole with a disgusting dark side, that's been masquerading as an enlightened, educated higher plane for years. Can't stand the place. Gives me the creeps.
Ereshkigalangcleg · 08/04/2022 01:06

I'm guessing you'd think that was inappropriate and wrong.

I wouldn't count on it.

MyCatIsAJerk · 08/04/2022 01:13

There is not enough money, nor gold, nor jewels in the universe that could persuade me to go see that.
It’s bad enough I have to look at my own aging self in the mirror.
Thank goodness my kids are grown.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 08/04/2022 01:13

Intriguing that I’m seeing the same names sea-lioning away on this thread as on the thread about the Prime Ministers very sensible statement yesterday regarding the safeguarding of women and children.

Isn't it.

AKASammyScrounge · 08/04/2022 01:13

@NrlySp

This from their website Sexual development and behaviour in children starts from birth. It’s important that children are supported in their exploratory development, safely and comfortably. You can see the common stages of sexual development layed out by the NSPCC here. Dear Lord.
Sounds like the sorts of things paedophile groups to make themselves sound like respectable people who only have the interests of children at heart.
Teesht · 08/04/2022 01:16

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viques · 08/04/2022 01:22

You can tell that these idiots think they are doing something wonderfully kind and of groundbreaking importance designed to lead us ignorant peasants out of our blind ignorance by the way they carefully show us how to pronounce their names . Pretentious twattery.

Viques ( V ee ks) I/my/me/mine

[I feel sorry for their parents , who agreed to fund them through drama college and now have to fend off the questions about what the little thespian is up to these days “ I always say to Brian don’t I dear, we do hope the show transfers somewhere close, it would be so exciting to sit in the stalls knowing we know one of the cast really well!“]

Ddot · 08/04/2022 01:27

🤢!

AKASammyScrounge · 08/04/2022 01:33

"exploring name and functions, boundaries, consent, pleasure, queerness, sex, gender and relationships. "

Copied from their website. Look what is to be explored: queerness, sex, gender, and relationships. Have a guess at who is behind this.
Can't they be stopped?

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