What age did your looks start to fade?

[SalJ90]

Do we really become less desirable as we get older? Why is this?

I'm 54 and I'm happy with my looks. Recently lost a lot of weight and have made an effort to defrump. I don't look 20 anymore obviously, but I still think I look good.

A few people have mentioned stress or stress related things. I was just thinking of how in my 20s I had so little pressure (and I remember knowing it and basically skipping through life!!) and stress and took regular naps, slept full nights of sleep, wasn't hooked to a phone , exercised daily and would have really really looked after myself diet wise and pampering wise. Putting the me of then next to me of now is like a whole different person

@mrsmolks

About 47. When i was younger i was very beautiful. Now i look good for my age but i am no longer very beautiful. Age does that. The only people who genuinely look great over 50 ie still youthful and could compete with a 30 year okd in the looks departmenthave had work done. Not just botox and filler but facelifts and eye lifts.

Why would someone who is 50 even want to compete with someone 20 years younger? That's ridiculous and weird.

I'm watching The Split Nicola Walker late 40's looks amazing and doesn't look like she's had any work. Being comfortable with yourself is so much more appealing than chasing lost youth.

Also, someone who is 30's will have a natural glow that comes with youth. No amount of "help" can give you that in your 50's.

I'm surprisingly enjoying this thread on the whole some amazing women on here. I'm knocking on 60 I'm not breathtakingly gorgeous as I now realise I was but I still look pretty good. Like others have said a bad breakup and grief aged me in my thirties but a good diet, regular facials and yoga have helped me stay in shape.

45, suddenly look older. Have always looked 10 years younger. People still say I look young but I don't believe them anymore, I can see in the mirror!

37 when I had my daughter, her father left and I lost my job all in a very short space of time. Before that even drink and drugs hadn't done much damage. Now I'm tired, fatter and I'm growing my grey hair out so I look rather like my dad in a dress.

What a ridiculous OP. What a ridiculous mindset.

Your looks don't "fade". You are not becoming invisible.

You change as time passes. It's inevitable.

I look exactly how I choose and care nothing for the judgement of anyone else (which is probably how a lot of men think, when I think about it).

I think it shows more in your hands, skin seems to get thinner and looser.

The best thing about gettng older is you give less shits.

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23-24, but I did get pregnant ridiculously young and have multiple mental illnesses that caused me stress. Always had a skin condition that caused me to break out in an abnormally large amount of spots and rashes on my face, so the beauty was never really there to start with

Fifties for me - I’d always been one of those women who looked younger. I think the rapid decrease in collagen makes everything sag and I take collagen supplements and use sunscreen. It’s inevitable and I’m comfortable with it now but I’d be lying if I said it wasn’t a difficult adjustment.

46 exactly - I'm 53 now. I used to be took for 10 years younger. I have been invisible for a couple of years, but to be honest I like it! I can be exact re 46,because I developed an auto immune condition, which, to my eyes, has radically changed my appearance. I find it very liberating that no one looks round when I walk into places etc. I'm at the age where I can wake up looking awful one day and fresh the next. Still waiting for menopause to land, so that will be interesting.

Just before 50, 48 I think.

Never really had looks to lose so that’s lucky! I think I look better than I used to in my 30s or 40s (I’m 50 now) although need to lose a couple of stone at present.

I loved how I looked on my recent wedding day and DH fancies me. So I’m happy.

I would say my looks and body have gone considerably downhill since the start of the pandemic and working from home. Although my kids are still young so there’s always little time for myself anyway etc I have stopped looking after myself as I don’t see work colleagues and I stopped exercising completely, whereas I used to go to the gym 3-5 times a week before, so have gained 2 to 3 stones, a rounder tummy and round face. No wrinkles really but definitely look more haggered, frumpy and middle aged. I’m sure if I started exercising again, I’d look and feel much better all round. I think it would help moats people on this thread feeling the same. Just need to find the motivation now!

@Menora can I ask if you have any tips on how you conquered it? I’m late 30s with adult acne and in second course of antibiotics but doctor said not to expect more than a 50% improvement
Honestly it’s worse now than it was as a teenager!

I’m 52, happy and contented with my life and my looks, I’ve never been an outstanding beauty, I don’t think I’ve aged terribly, but I have changed, I do have a very young outlook on life. I am probably the most contented and the most confident that I have ever been and I think that helps.

@MarySlater

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What?

I am in my late 60's and happy with my looks. I am still desired. I don't think age has anything to do with it. It is a state of mind. I accept my age . When I see photos of me when I was a teenager and in my 20's I wish I knew how lovely I was, but I am still lovely just older.

43/44 for me. I literally felt like I went to bed one night with a defined waist and jaw line, and woke up to a middle aged spread and a face that had slipped an inch down my skull 😌

Early 50s for me. I'm mid fifties now and look dreadful. My face is full of crevices, one side more than the other. I'd always looked younger than my years, but it's definitely caught up with me in the last couple of years. I'm considering botox, but at the same time, wish I could accept the way I am. I avoid looking in mirrors

At about 41 when I went from being my absolute fittest to living with chronic pain. I'm now 44 and I'm overweight and I look rough because I'm fucking miserable.

I'd say 48/49 I notice my looks were fading fast- I ooked my truly best at 40-48 then my looks started to fade. I lost a couple teeth, started to get really dry skin on my face so my face always looked red and I started to get middle aged spread.