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to find this rude?

102 replies

snackzies · 05/04/2022 14:00

NC for this one. I have a friend who I've always felt was rather nosey. She's the type of person to stop another mum at the school gates to gossip and 'casually' bring up a piece of information phrasing it as a question when she knows the bloody answer but just wanted to talk about it and get more details and gossip.

I was out to dinner with said friend and a couple others. We got talking about our ongoing house search, and I'd mentioned we'd seen one that day we were going to put an offer on. She asked a bit of info about it like location and bedrooms etc, and then right in front of me she whipped out her phone at the dinner table with all our friends, pulls up right move and says to me oh is it this one showing the house and price to everyone and having a nosey through the photos!

I couldn't believe it. In front of me!! I know that type of house info is readily available as are sold prices, and loads of people will look at others homes. But seriously, if she was going to look it up she could have at least have the decency to wait until she got home. I couldn't believe it. But I could as it's so typical her.

Sorry for the rant. This has just really surprised me. The cheek!

OP posts:
Nsky · 05/04/2022 14:03

You gave the info, it’s for sale, not a sin

Finfintytint · 05/04/2022 14:03

Don’t give away any information whatsoever to her in the future.

THNG5 · 05/04/2022 14:04

I've reread this 3 times and still can't see the problem...

incognitoforthisone · 05/04/2022 14:04

Yes, that's really crass behaviour on her part - and I imagine your friends thought so, too. If I'd been one of the other people round the table when she did that, I'd have thought she was being rude and intrusive.

Like you say - of course people can have a look and nose around on RightMove whenever they want, and I'm sure loads of people do exactly this when they're at home. But doing it at the bloody table and waving it under the nose of everyone else, right in front of you, is really bad manners.

Nidan2Sandan · 05/04/2022 14:05

No, it wasnt rude.

ErrolTheDragon · 05/04/2022 14:06

Yes, it was somewhat rude. If you'd wanted to show everyone the details of the house on Rightmove, you would have done it yourself.

Yerroblemom1923 · 05/04/2022 14:06

I don't think it's that odd. If I was looking at a house, considering buying it, I'd probably share pics with my friends anyway as would be nice to know what they think about it.
Is it the money thing you're worried about? People knowing what you can/can't afford?

Toottooot · 05/04/2022 14:07

Not rude in the slightest.

ArmWrestlingWithChasNDave · 05/04/2022 14:07

What a weird overreaction. You, not her.

ladydimitrescu · 05/04/2022 14:08

I don't get the issue

MaudieandMe · 05/04/2022 14:08

Wouldn’t bother me 🤷🏻‍♀️

Briefly · 05/04/2022 14:09

I wouldn't mind this.

Enko · 05/04/2022 14:10

I wouldn't mind this either in fact I'd likely have got it up on right move myself

cherryonthecakes · 05/04/2022 14:11

You shouldn't have told her the details. This is your fault.

girlmom21 · 05/04/2022 14:11

I'm buying a house and if you tell someone about it they want to have a look. It's natural. Don't talk about it if you don't want people to look.

Myfootfeckinghurts · 05/04/2022 14:12

You’re being precious

waterrat · 05/04/2022 14:12

It seems totally normal to me. I'm in the middle of moving and have had friends do exactly the same.

Justcallmebebes · 05/04/2022 14:13

I can't see a problem either. Information out there for anyone to access

Henrycavillslover · 05/04/2022 14:17

I have friends that would do this and it wouldn’t bother me

Gilly12345 · 05/04/2022 14:21

The house details are public information, however perhaps you may choose to not tell your ‘friend’ so much about your personal business if it bothers you so much?

SevenWaystoLeave · 05/04/2022 14:22

What was rude about it? Can't understand at all

JazzHandsYeah · 05/04/2022 14:22

YABU

Lazypuppy · 05/04/2022 14:22

Not rude at all imo, you are over reacting

NoSquirrels · 05/04/2022 14:24

Nope, can’t see the problem.

I mean if she’d got in there first the next day with an offer, yes. But otherwise I honestly couldn’t get worked up about this. Friends usually share this sort of thing.

Mumdiva99 · 05/04/2022 14:25

I would so do this!! Only because I want a look. I wouldn't ask you how much krtgage you are getting or anything personal..... Are you friends or not?