Dh and I are working class we manage ok but do not have loads of spare cash. But we are lucky we can afford our bills. We have 3 dc, one is 8, one is 20 and at uni and the eldest is 22 and moved out this year. When we do anything together there's always an assumption that we pay so say we are having a meal out obviously we would pay for our self's and dc8 but the elder two expect us to pay for them which gets expensive. An example we went out for dh bday, both adult dc were drinking alcohol but did not offer to contribute (tbf we didn't ask) so we paid the lot. Next day we all took dc 8 to a soft play and we got everyone drinks. Older dc wanted lunch but we had eaten before (we did tell them we would be so they could too) I said they could get something if they want but we weren't. they didn't want to pay for themselves as not cheap but kept moaning they were Hungary. Dc20 is at uni, course and accom is covered by loan, we pay his food and he has a part time job for socialising etc. Dc22 works full time but is low wage she pays her own bills at her rented flat. They both have expensive tastes re clothes/lifestyle which is why they often don't have much money. When is it reasonable to stop paying for adult dc? If we were rich obviously it wouldn't be issue but we are at a point where we don't do as much as can't afford to take them too.