Dh pretty much only looks after 18 month old ds while he is asleep. He will frame in such a way "I know you've had a rough night so I'll let you have a couple of hours to yourself this afternoon", and this will be while ds has his nap. During this time, dh can do what he wants and he can also do what he wants for a couple of hours after ds wakes up, because I've already had a couple of hours to myself. Which I would get anyway if ds was asleep and dh wasn't there...
I'm sick of being told how grateful I should be, I get he could be a lot worse but he boasts all the time about what a great father and husband he is.
He turned down a night out recently which I'd told him to go on as didn't want to stop him doing stuff and didn't want him going on about it, and he keeps going on about how he did this for me because I'm not allowed to go out so it's in solidarity, isn't he great... Yet he goes on holiday with mates without me! (twice since ds birth) and often goes out for a few hours to see his mate/do his hobby.
I do all the nights and work ft, apart from work the longest I've had away from ds is a 4 hour shopping trip.
I'm just getting a bit tired of constantly being told how grateful I should be. I don't tell him he is lucky he gets to go away for a week/sleep all night /go out in the evening, it's just a given.