to want to shove my portfolio etc up a certain teachers nose?

[Joash]

Never thought I'd post on an AIBU - but this has been annoying me since 3.15.
I am qualified to postgrad level (and beyond). I have managed youth centres, advice centres, worked as part of the legal community service partnership, developed area wide projects for the NHS, educaton services, I have developed support packages for pHD students and university professionals, I have had training projects, had projects and traning packeges published and disseminated across red brick uiversities, I have Worked with MP's on projects, and worked nationally in various roles, etc, etc, etc.
Why do people automatically lump me in with certain groups of people?

My Grandsons teacher has put me forward to join a bloody family learning course (almost identical to one that I was active in developing in South Yorkshire a few years ago) in the belief that I might learn something from it.

I asked her "why me?" - her reply - She felt that I might learn something from it and explained that many of the who started at this level have gone on to atend college and gain some qualifications after never before having had the advantage of a decent education!!!!

SO I asked her "On what did you base your assumption about me?"
Her; "Err, you are part of the group who come from a certain part of town, and have not had the advantages in life that some of the people from other areas have had. WHo knows, you might even be able to get a well paid job earning about £10,000 a year eventually, once you've worked your way up."

CHEEKY COW - I have just printed off a copy of my CV, all my certificates and awards, and photocopied my portfolio from my freelance work as well as my own and DH's P60's for our final years work (totalling £76,000 in earnings) and they will be 'shoved' under her nose in the morning along with the residence ordeer for GS and the court order which clearly stated that my DH and I gave up our jobs and moved to the other end of the country to ensure GS's safety away from the father that beat him up when he was five months old!!
Perhaps I should include the training package that I developed for the CAB around not making assumptions about people.

And quite clearly can't spell on the PC(sorry)

ooooo how annoying - I'm no where NEAR as clever or as educated as you are - but I hate it when people treat me/talk to me as if I'm completely social/educationally disadvantaged because of my age/where I live etc etc. If I was you I'd definitely be shoving it all under her nose tomorrow!

I'm sorry you feel offended, and maybe she was being tactless, but she was only doing her job.

I am not clever - was just obsessed with all the career progression stuff until my priorities changed. Just bloody annoyed that people see me in a particular way.

PP - I doubt grouping everyone that lives in a certain area of town into one "disadvantaged" group is part of her job

Sorry Joash - but I have to disagree - doing all that stuff takes brains

and I did notice from her list that she hasn't invited any of the mums who arrive at school looking immaculate everyday, only the 'normal' looking ones (ie. slept in hair, not dolled up to the nines, etc).

Walk away

Just doing her job, my arse.. I would actually present her with your complete work history, including the bit about the CAB study. Tell her you think she could learn something from it, cheeky mare!

I've added some testimonials and piccy's of certain bits of my work LOL

Cheeky mare send it in and watch her squirm .

YANBU make sure that she knows how well qualified you are-it might make her stop and think in future.

Not that it has anything to do with it - but it doesn't help that I have kids older than her

She made an assumption and got it wrong. I'm at a loss as to why this has got under your skin - with all of the amazing sounding things you've done, I don't understand why you're feeling teh need to prove yourself to her -what's that about? Not trying to be cheeky, just genuinely wondering.

I can see why it has got under your skin-it would mine.People are far too quick to make judgements.

Joash: you have nothing to prove; she has lots to learn. Tell her you couldn't possibly accept her kind invitation because it would be simply too intimidating for the courses' leaders to have someone with your qualifications and experience present .

Vent and breathe, vent and breathe ....

I think I'd have found it amusing and I would have had a quiet word to the wise with her. She thought she was being helpful, she seriously misjudged and kept digging herself a bigger hole by the sound of it.
I would have thought that with all your training you would have been able to handle this without feeling the rage you seem to be feeling or the need to completely crush someone.

I can sympathise with your feelings, I would feel the same in your situation, but for me I think it is as much about the judgement tapping into my insecurities as it is about the rage of being judged.

Could you perhaps go to her and let her know that you are not interested in the course itself but that perhaps you could contribute to the course in a supporting role, given that you have worked to develop similar courses in the past. It would get the point across without the rage, and would show what a well educated and confident woman you are.

Good luck

I like liger's idea, dont make an enemy of her, teach her gently not to make such daft assumptions and help her out. Your clearly in a better position to help and it sounds like she might need it. How long will she be your Grandsons teacher? Will word of your forthright declaration spread threw out the school and make it hard to get along with any of the teachers? Will they all be afraid to speak to you?

I would still give her your cv, maybe minus some of the other gubbins, and offer to help

I feel your rage, I also live in the wrong part of town but am well educated. Its a chip I try to shake off my shoulder as it does me no good!

Are you knew to the area? Could you do with a few local friends? Maybe helping out with this sort of thing would be good for you.

I also spell badly when typing...

i would sort her out! she is also making assumptions about the upbringing you are able to provide for your gs, god knows what sort of bloody rubbish she could be righting down for all the other staff to see!

Joash -YANBU - not at all ! it made me laugh, but I'd be seething too !!! cheeky cow...

I think liger is right, all it would take is to have said to her "well, I've written courses like this so while I wouldn't like to take it again, I'd be happy to contribute". I think printing off your CV is going a bit far TBH.

And I honestly think that being open minded about learning is very worthwhile. I have written training courses in my career and when I started my new job I was still expected to undergo the in-house basic training - it was useful, I enjoyed the debates we had and I learned something. We can always learn.

Liger's comments are excellent, much the best way to handle it.

Hi again - funny thing is, I decided to not go with the venting my spleen bit and took an option very similar to what Liger has suggested further down. Bad day yesterday - harassed by Simplebullying (simplybe), 18 year old DS being an 18 year old male (idle bugger). And then today, just been turned down for a job that I had applied for as they felt I was far too over-qualified and would become bored very quickly in the role - WTF!!!