Do happy relationships actually exist???

[Pinkorchid23]

Long term user here. Just overwhelmed and really swamped down with the vast amount of
"Dh cheating on me with ow"
"Dh messaging work colleague"
"Dh hit me/choked me"
"Dh does nothing around the house"
"Dh says he is unattracted to me"
"Dh doesnt love me/isnt happy anymore"

And to be honest it isnt even the mens appalling horrific behaviour that is the most depressing shocking of it all. Its how many women are out there living these real miserable lives and who are constantly lacking any self worth or allowing it to be belittled by these by men.

Its not just online, in real life all hetero relationships I know are like this including my own parents (now seperated). I try to stay optimistic as I want to prove to myself good love does exist and I have my own relationship. However when ever I go ons mns (alot) sometimes I think whats the point of getting married? That my relationship is doomed to end in an affair/betrayal or abuse. Reading about so many women that swore blind they could trust their "dps" whole heartedly to then ne crushed, homeless and jobless after the man ruins the relationship is so scary to me.

What is the point of it all then? I know no relationship is perfect but some of the things I read on here are criminal and my heart breaks for the user on the other side of the screen.

Yes i know people dont generally tend to post happy things which is why im making this thread. Its gotten so bad I have alot of nightmares on my partner cheating/leaving me.

Please enlighten me as to whether real love and happy endings arent just fairy tales

Yabu - of course happy healthy love/relationship exists

Yanbu - i dont believe in them either

DH and I have been together for 18 years, have 2 teenaged DDs and are the happiest couple we know! He's still my favourite person to spend time with after all these years and he makes me laugh every single day.

I never wanted to get married - each of my parents has been divorced 3 times, so I never had a positive view of marriage, but DH convinced me and I'm incredibly glad he did!

My DH and I will be celebrating our 19th wedding anniversary on Tuesday. He is truly my best friend, if he wasn’t I don’t think we’d have come through what we have the last few years, with my MH issues resulting from CSA and more recently Long Covid and on top of that coping with the issues involved with raising 2 adopted DDs of 13 and 10, particularly DD1 who has SEN.

My DH has been brilliant through it all, despite ending up with burn out a couple of years ago and having to take 2 months sick leave from work.

So yes, we are happy together, though it certainly isn’t all hearts and flowers right now!! (Though he does still give me flowers sometimes!)

I see plenty of happy relationships among my friends and family, too. There have been bad ones, too, particularly my DSis’s first marriage, which was abusive. (Thankfully, her second marriage has been very happy, despite it being a blended family with all the challenges discussed regularly on Mumsnet.)

I think those PPs are right, that we simply don’t hear about happy relationships on here, because people come on here when they need advice.