Boyfriend has covid so I'm sleeping in a different room...aibu?

[wetlastfoor]

My boyfriend tested positive for covid Monday and isn't well at all
Temperature/coughing /aches/weak etc (usual symptoms )
So I decided to sleep in the spare room to try not catch it.
He's coughing all over the shop,never covers his mouth.
So I've been cleaning down doors /toilets etc etc to hopefully kill the germs.
Anyway he says I'm being neurotic because 1.I won't kiss him and 2 won't share a bed.
I mean maybe I am being ott but I really don't want to catch it.
He never listens,I bought him anti bac when it all started he refused to use it or wash his hands ..saying I'm stupid blah blah.

Aibu ?
He says I'm gonna catch it anyway
I'm testing daily and lateral flows negative and so far no symptoms and feel fine.
Am I being horrible to him?
He said he feels awful I'm avoiding him like this

He's an inconsiderate idiot. Not covering your mouth when coughing would be grim even with a garden variety cold.

He's being ridiculous. When I had covid DH slept in the spare room and although we didn't completely stay separate we didn't sit next to each other on the sofa of kiss. He didn't catch it, neither did my son so it's not guaranteed that everyone in the household will get it.

Also he is being pretty horrible given he feels so bad, that he doesn't want to try and stop you getting it and feeling so bad

Cleaning toilets and doors is POINTLESS. We are 2 years into the pandemic and it's been extremely well documented for ages that you cannot catch Covid that way.

Not sharing a bed is your decision and he should respect it.

YANBU

His lack of basic hygiene would put me off him too.

Doesn't cover his mouth when he coughs.

Doesn't wash his hands.

Ugh. I wouldn't want to kiss him or sleep next to him either.

Dh had it recently....I didn't. We just carried on as normal, same bed etc. However dh isn't as revolting as your partner.

YANBU. Keep opening the windows too… why would you want to get ill?!

You are not being unreasonable! When my husband had covid he chose to sleep in the spare room and I didn't catch it. When I had it (caught from someone else), he also slept in the spare room!

Your boyfriend doesn't sound particularly nice.

I'd dump him tbh. Not because covid but because I couldn't be with someone who has such appalling hygiene and calls me stupid. Ugh, what a turn off.

YANBU. I tested positive on Sunday and am day 7 of symptoms today. I have stayed well away from my husband, separate rooms, separate towels, dettol sprayed bathroom after using etc. Touch wood he hasn't caught it yet! Carry on as you see fit I would say

Pretty gross he won’t even cover his mouth when coughing. Will say I definitely kissed DH when I had covid and he didn’t catch it. I was asymptomatic so didn’t know I had it, only found out because DD tested positive so we all tested. I will say norovirus is worse for me than covid was, absolutely hate vomiting.

I think I'd have buggered off as soon as he said I was stupid.

YANBU and he sounds selfish and inconsiderate.

@wetlastfoor

I know eventually we will all catch it but I'm trying to avoid it as long as I possibly can.

Why? There’s no logic to that. The sooner you get it the better; you’ll have antibodies that will help with any riskier strains that come along.

If I had still been with my ex when Covid started this is how he would have behaved with me, he would have wanted me to catch it and die.

YANBU, OP.

You are both being a bit unreasonable. He should be more respectful of you wanting to try to avoid it, but you should know by now that the virus is airborne so unless you seal off the air between you in the house, wiping down surfaces is going to do fuck all!

YANBU and he sounds vile

I agree with your husband on this.

People have become so phobic of germs it's ridiculous, What happened to good old immune systems.

he is being stupid.
we did musical beds when we had covid

child 1 positive - send sibling to the sofa bed in the study
mum positive - goes to the lower bunk that sibling had liberated
dad positive - mum goes back to the bed
child 1 finally negative - sibling goes back to the bunk
mum and dad positive - coughing so much we didn't want to disturb the others - alternated sofa bed...
child 2 positive - stays in as sibling was immune...

YANBU. I slept separately from my OH when I got covid, and he didn't catch it.

He's being a total arse. I've had it for a week and as soon as I knew I had been exposed to it I've kept well away from my husband. I sleep in a separate room and we haven't cuddled at all. We are using separate bathrooms and following the 2 metre rule. It's not great but his mum is very old and living in a care home and if he contracts CoVid he won't be able to visit her.

to be honest, with Covid you cannot be sure.
I catched Covid at work (11 Jan tested positive) I am triple jabbed.
My partner didnt catch it, my 7year old didnt catch it.
1 month later my 7year old catch Covid at school (how??)
My partner to this day didn't catch it and funny bit is he is not vaccinated.

But when I had it I was taking steps not to spread it to my family.

Your bf is not a nice person.

@Samarie123

I agree with your husband on this.

People have become so phobic of germs it's ridiculous, What happened to good old immune systems.

Covid a side, even with normal cold or flu I wouldnt want to catch it.

Regardless of it being covid, even if it was just a 'usual' illness involving temperature, productive cough and body aches I would be giving him a wide birth! You do right! And as for not washing hands...... that's basic lack of hygiene - he needs to learn! 😘

He sounds like a right numpty