I think the premise of your argument is that there's a very clear cut link between a named cocktail and the industry. Whilst frustrating, we don't all think so and that this normalisation is particularly valid.
No, this is wrong - the premise of the argument is that there is not a “very clear cut” link but a complex and systemic one. You have mine and others’ “argument” very wrong here.
But the poster clearly states here that you can't have a clear understand of the rape abuse and glorification of porn without seeing it
Again, wrong - you are completely misreading what I said, either through not being able to understand, or by deliberately distorting what I wrote. Which is it?
There are some serious reading comprehension issues going on here which, if deliberate, does not make either of you sound very rational. If you really can’t understand the argument I won’t bother. If you’re just twisting what people are saying for the fun or arguing the wrong point, then it really doesn’t make you look very clever, if that’s the intent.
Why do you think metaphors that are about the use of women’s bodies sexually by men are so easily normalised? Because there are already loads of them buried in our language. Linguists call this “routinization” - the process by which we repeat a metaphor so often that we think of it as “semantically bleached” even though the original implications of the metaphor remain at the unconscious and cultural levels. So uses of phrases that relate to women’s bodies being sold to or commercialised to men quickly become part of the culture - pornstar, food porn whore pimp my ride for example - because we are so culturally conditioned by centuries of misogyny to treat these metaphors as normal and trivial. The link between the normalisation of something and its effects in wider culture is not “easy” or “straightforward”. It’s complex, culture-wide and systemic.
On porn - well yes, obviously it does matter if you know what it involves or not. There is no abstract reason why porn has to be misogynist apart from our culture. We are sexual beings and it’s possible to imagine a type of porn that adult women might enjoy to look at and that wouldn’t be culturally harmful to girls and women. However, that isn’t what is out there. What we are objecting to on this thread is the normalisation of extremely misogynist pornography which portrays women and very young girls as objects to be beaten, abused and used in the current porn culture pervading our society.
And portraying porn as a bit of a cheeky business opportunity for a family restaurant is part of pretending that it’s a harmless industry that’s just a bit naughty and adult, rather than a violent, abusive culture that teaches people who watch it that women and girls are just sexual possessions to destroy.
If you cannot understand the connections, you could do some more reading and thinking - and inform yourself about what it is that you are defending. You aren’t defending a bit of light AO3 fanfic erotica here. You’re defending “smashing my teen stepsister’s ass and she loves it when I choke her” on pornhub being passed around to twelve year old girls who think that’s normal and expected of them even if they hate it.