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To dress DD(2) in white-ish dress for wedding?

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KarenOLantern · 30/03/2022 09:43

We're going to a wedding later this year. We were given a lovely handmade dress for our 2 year-old DD as a gift but still haven't had an opportunity to wear it so I was thinking she could wear it to this wedding but I'm unsure if it's "too" white". It's a white background, but with bright multicoloured floral and leaf prints on it, very similar to this one.

My MIL insists it's absolutely fine as 1. it's not completely white and the brighter colours dominate, and 2. the "no white" rule doesn't count for little kids anyway because they're hardly going to be mistaken for the bride. But I just wanted to see if others agree.

I'm keen to use it if I can because money's pretty tight at the mo so can't afford to buy a new dress, although obvs if people do think it's a massive no-no then we'll just have to think of something.

(I've never actually met the bride so I can't really ask her.)

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Frazzled2207 · 30/03/2022 15:27

a dress like that is totally fine and appropriate.

What is not appropriate is what a friend's cousin did and being peeved that her daughters were not flower girls (friend didn't want any flower girls or bridesmaids) put them in what was quite blatantly a flower girl costume complete with bouquet!

nokidshere · 30/03/2022 15:40

What is not appropriate is what a friend's cousin did and being peeved that her daughters were not flower girls (friend didn't want any flower girls or bridesmaids) put them in what was quite blatantly a flower girl costume complete with bouquet!

No one cares though. Why would it matter to anyone? No need to explain, I'll never get it anyway. Grown women behaving like children because someone has a nice outfit on is ridiculous in the extreme and there isn't really any justification for it.

DappledThings · 30/03/2022 15:52

No one cares though. Why would it matter to anyone? No need to explain, I'll never get it anyway. Grown women behaving like children because someone has a nice outfit on is ridiculous in the extreme and there isn't really any justification for it.
Absolutely. I'll never get it either. So a kid wore a nice dress and carried some flowers. Beyond me that anyone would be remotely bothered by that.

KarenOLantern · 30/03/2022 15:59

Oh wow, that's pretty unanimous then! Thanks everyone for sharing your opinions, I will be able to put her in the dress without stressing over it Grin

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NatM15588 · 30/03/2022 16:04

I wouldnt see a problem with that. My Dd5 wore a white dress with gold sequins to my cousins wedding a few months back and nobody said anything.

Whatalovelydaffodil · 30/03/2022 18:21

@DappledThings

No one cares though. Why would it matter to anyone? No need to explain, I'll never get it anyway. Grown women behaving like children because someone has a nice outfit on is ridiculous in the extreme and there isn't really any justification for it. Absolutely. I'll never get it either. So a kid wore a nice dress and carried some flowers. Beyond me that anyone would be remotely bothered by that.
Of course that's a problem and on a different thread it definitely would be! It's just inconsiderate.
DappledThings · 30/03/2022 18:35

Of course that's a problem and on a different thread it definitely would be! It's just inconsiderate
Oh I don't doubt some bridezillas would choose to find it a problem. Doesn't mean I find the mindset any less bizarre. And if anyone came moaning to me that a child looked a bit like a flower girl when they weren't actually a flower girl I would find it hard not to laugh in their face. It's such a ludicrous thing to care about.

Hummingbirdcake · 30/03/2022 18:37

It’s fine.

Ellmau · 30/03/2022 19:15

I think it's fine - a lot of colour, she's a toddler, and it doesn't even look like you're pretending she's a flower girl. Perfectly OK, and I'm sure your DD will look adorable in it.

MrsSkylerWhite · 30/03/2022 19:17

Lovely
(does anyone really care about this stuff?)

Porkbuttsandtaters · 30/03/2022 21:09

Yes my point earlier in the thread was so what if they do get mistaken for a flower girl. The little girl is happy she’s all dressed up. The actual flower girls probably won’t be thinking oh she’s in a similar dress to us so she must be a flower girl too. Literally the only people who would even notice are the adults who know for a fact random dressed up little girl is in fact not a flower girl. These people who are guests at a wedding are the bride and grooms friends and family, surely they’d want the little girls to be happy (and most little girls love flower girl type dresses!!)

ZoyaTheDestroyer · 30/03/2022 21:11

Absolutely fine. Don’t put a floral headband on her but the dress itself is lovely.

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