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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Should I be honest?

108 replies

OohCadburyBoost · 28/03/2022 12:25

Name change because - I know you are on here Leslie!!

I am going to be as specific as I can without giving Leslie (her work nick name - well the nicest one!) the ability to identify me. However I am kind of over it now!

I just need to know if I am being unreasonable here. I warn you that on the scale of 1-10 of pettiness this is a 10 so not a an issue that is going to have a global impact!

Leslie smells - it is a mixture of cats, rice cakes and that damp smell where you haven't let your clothes dry properly. I am currently 37 weeks pregnant and I sit next to Leslie. I admit I have HORMONES and also vomit at least twice a day regularly due to my inability to deal with the smell of coffee, tuna and ...Leslie.

Now I don't purposely like hurting anyone's feelings - I am very aware that these are my issues but I had a quiet word with the office manager and she took pity on me and let me move to the other side of the office in a corner mostly used for hot desking.

This happened last Thursday and today in the kitchen I was cornered by Leslie (who by the way had a piece of flaky pastry from her croissant on the side of her mouth) demanding to know why I moved!

Now 2 things here - firstly this pregnancy has gifted me with sickness from 6 weeks and secondly I also I currently have a very weak stomach because I had to run away and be sick as the smell and then the food on the mouth triggered the first chunder of the day.

I did politely excuse myself but when I returned she was crying and some co-workers were consoling her (from a distance!).

I apologised and said that I was having morning sickness and then Leslie screamed at me that I was discriminating against her. I stayed calm (secretly hoping my waters might break so I could leave) and asked her to explain how I discriminated against her. Then she said I moved desks because she is old and it is age discrimination.

Now my dilemma is - would it be unreasonable to tell her that I am actually really fond of older people (she is actually on 65 so not old in my view) and that my real issue is that she had an aroma that in my current condition is really not appealing to me.

Or is it nicer for her think that I don't like her because of her age.

See petty!! I spoke to a colleague and she said she couldn't get close enough to cuddle her when she was crying because she thought she would gag. She says IANBU but I feel like a bitchy bitch - should I just move back to the desk and put vicks under my nose?

I told my husband and he nervously laughed then put his rice cakes in the car to take to work to eat!!

OP posts:
Mayhemmumma · 28/03/2022 16:04

I remember being furious, really raging about the washing powder my brother in law uses because it made me puke when he visited - this was pregnancy related obviously and I realise my fury towards him was unfair (despite still not liking the smell).

Leave Leslie alone, she'll not do anything different she'll just be embarrassed.

thatsgotit · 28/03/2022 17:35

Jfc, is there literally no thread and no scenario where some mumsnetter won't turn up and announce it must be autism.

That's because sometimes it is.

SevenWaystoLeave · 28/03/2022 17:48

@thatsgotit

Jfc, is there literally no thread and no scenario where some mumsnetter won't turn up and announce it must be autism.

That's because sometimes it is.

Well yes a stopped clock is right once a day. But absolutely no evidence whatsoever in this case and people shouldn't be trying to diagnose people they've only heard of through a biased secondhand account on the internet anyway.
MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 28/03/2022 18:37

Well,at least @LottyD32 found it funny

Blossomtoes · 28/03/2022 18:39

MN adores labels and diagnosing clinical conditions. Any mention of anyone over 60 and it takes about three posts for someone to enquire if they have dementia.

kittensinthekitchen · 28/03/2022 22:49

If this were real, which I doubt it is, I bet OP is a "I tell it like it is, me!" type, whilst bitching about everyone behind their backs.
But really, everyone knows she's a cow.

HollowTalk · 29/03/2022 13:43

a stopped clock is right once a day

It's actually right twice a day Grin

123becauseicouldntthinkofone · 29/03/2022 14:59

Sorry you are doing nothing wrong but i couldnt help but chuckle at hubbys face ha ha ha

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