Does anyone else dislike people saying we 'lose our looks' with age

[Mooo111]

I find it sad when I see people say they 'used to be pretty/attractive' etc.
What's even sadder is that some people seem to think that it's all downhill after around 35 and your looks start fading.

Youth is usually associated with attractiveness, but it's certainly possible to look beautiful and be older.

Yes it's true you look older and different, but that doesn't mean any less beautiful, especially if you take care of yourself.

A lot of things can get worse with age. Your gums can recede, your teeth can discolour, you can put on weight, get varicose veins, skin can sag, get funny lumps and moles and scars, lose muscle tone, hair go grey (which may alter the definition of eg your eyebrows or change the balance between skin colour and hair colour).

If you can avoid all those things then you can continue to look “good for your age”. If you were already good-looking, you can continue to be a good-looking older person. (Especially in your thirties and forties. Now I’m older, they all look young to me.)

However, it’s very hard for an older person to be quite as beautiful as they were when they were young. The colouring, the full cheeks, the smoothness - young people are like young animals, at their glossiest and best.

People definitely do lose their looks. It's unfortunate but true.

I'm 44 and have never been attractive.
I look like I've done 10 years on the trawlers, as I really don't look after myself, but I'm just happy to still be alive, after the life I've led!

Can't say it bothers me. I was never one to worry about my looks anyway and of course I look older these days - I'm 47 for goodness sake!

I think it’s sad - and it’s clear on here - that people want to counter it with ‘no, older women can also be beautiful’. The real counter is ‘who the fuck cares? A woman’s value is not based in her looks’.

People can be charismatic and attractive at any age. Helen Mirren is extremely charismatic and the camera loves her, she has had a lot of work done though, I was watching a film with her in it the other day and the camera shot showed her scar under her chin, presumably for a chin lift/lower face lift. The person whose pic was posted has had Botox and their skin is shiny, that's usually a peel. I can spot this stuff a mile off!

Young people are often beautiful in a fresh and lovely way. I don't have a friend who wasn't prettier in their youth, even though I love all their faces now, there are a couple who were stunners at 20 and they look good now, but not in the same way.

I don't feel invisible, I work with beautiful young people all the time, it's lovely for them, I don't feel bad about the fact I'm fatter and wrinklier, I also know more than them, have an established career and have had a lot of exciting adventures, they are starting out. We all have our roles.

This, so much.

I've got a few more problems not even listed there. More cellulite without being much plumper. Drooping eyelids that make my eyes look half closed. Worse texture to my hair even though it's not grey yet. The list goes on and on to be honest....