Or do you really fucking hate this

[suzysays]

Lighthearted/daft one

When someone (Namely DH) catches a big spider in the house then on the way to throw it outside pretends to Chuck it at you.

I hate it, DH always does it and I hate it I lock myself in the bathroom until I know it's gone but even then he's kept it in a glass to show me at times. I'm not a huge wimp don't mind small/medium size spiders and can get rid of them around myself but tonight there was a fucking HUGE spider in the house. I'm talking the size of your palm (maybe light exaggeration but you get the idea) and he as always caught it then stood outside the door teasing me to come out as it had 'gone' while he stood there with the fucker in his hand!!

Eurgh, men are so immature at times haha. Before anyone says LTB he's a fab husband and dad haha.

So aibu to find this annoying

Or

Does anyone else's husbands do this and you hate it!

My dp did this ONCE and I cried (absolutely terrified).

Now he has an annoying habit of catching the spooky little pricks when I'm not there and then proceeding to tell me about it. Just don't tell me. I'd rather be none the wiser.

YANBU
I’d kill mine. Huge spider phobia!

No jury would convict.

Honestly if my husband did this regularly and repeatedly despite being asked not to I'd reconsider our relationship. I'm phobic, and I would consider that abusive behaviour. It's not funny to deliberately make someone scared. My DH doesn't even walk near me when he has a spider, he takes it the opposite direction to avoid me.

It's march. The females are coming out to get laid.

He's being mean though.

@zurala

Honestly if my husband did this regularly and repeatedly despite being asked not to I'd reconsider our relationship. I'm phobic, and I would consider that abusive behaviour. It's not funny to deliberately make someone scared. My DH doesn't even walk near me when he has a spider, he takes it the opposite direction to avoid me.

^ this. The fear is irrational and massive. If my dh wasn’t perceptive enough to see this I couldn’t be happy with him.

My dad used to do this to me all the time when I was little and I have the biggest phobia of them now.

DH did it once.

My reaction ensured he never did it again.

Your partner repeatedly doing something that really frightens you even though (or worse, because) he knows that it frightens you is cruel and unkind. It's not just thoughtlessness. I also hate it - you've made yourself vulnerable by asking them to do this task because you're too scared to do it, and instead of being kind about it, they take the piss and deliberately mock that vulnerability.

My husband is scared of spiders and I'd never do this to him. Sounds like bullying to me!

@gamerchick

It's march. The females are coming out to get laid.

He's being mean though.

Knowing that the spiders I encounter over the next few weeks are horny somehow makes it worse 🤣🤣

@zurala

Honestly if my husband did this regularly and repeatedly despite being asked not to I'd reconsider our relationship. I'm phobic, and I would consider that abusive behaviour. It's not funny to deliberately make someone scared. My DH doesn't even walk near me when he has a spider, he takes it the opposite direction to avoid me.

I feel the same as this.

Spiders in our flat tend to end up one molecule thick.

My DH did it once (40 years ago) I told him as seriously as I could manage that if it came anywhere near me I would leave and I absolutely meant it.
He's never done it again because he's not a twat.

Someone chased me with a spider years ago, in blind panic I ran across train tracks and was nearly hit by a train. Literally two seconds later and I wouldn’t be here.

My dad used to do this to me and my sister when we were younger. We’d being crying with hysterical laughter/fear. I don’t think he did it often, maybe just the once, but the memory has stuck with me. I am very phobic of spiders as a result.

He didn’t mean it maliciously, I just think he thought it was funny.

I think you need to sit down with him in a calm moment and explain how upsetting you find this. If he decent, he’ll listen and take it on board.

No mine has never done this as I tend to just put the spiders out myself.

Horney spiders 🤣🤣

Do spiders do it same way as other species? I watched some ducks today on a duck pond and was glad I was not the female duck. Do the spiders really get on top of one another? What on earth attracts them.

Never met anyone who does that. Weird.

Doing this more than once, knowing how scared you are, is bullying IMO.

Sorry, about the question you are asking. I think after having said "I don't like that" to your husband, ideally that should be it and no more of the spider scares/tricks.

DP has very little patience with my spider phobia, but he would never never do this. My blind panic the time he walked towards me with the spider, rather than towards the other outside door was enough for him to realise I was genuinely terrified. He'd have to be a complete arsehole to try to make me that scared.

When he's being particularly eyerolly when yet another of the leggy fuckers has decided to creep up on me I just remind him of the time he got cornered by a slow worm and I rescued him...

@gamerchick

It's march. The females are coming out to get laid.

He's being mean though.

Thought that was September