Teacher comments inappropriate

[venusmay]

My ds is 9 and a quiet boy, he lacks confidence in Maths and has struggled with it. He's never been in trouble and school have always said his behaviour is good.

For a long time ds has been saying his class teacher doesn't like him and ds doesn't know why. He asks for help but she will help others not him and he feels like she's always shouting at him. I've not taken this very seriously as I thought it might be how he's interpreting the situation.

Over the past few weeks he's been having nightmares, stressed with school work about getting it right.I had parents evening last week and explained how he was feeling so anxious and she said they'd try to build his confidence.

Today he's come home very upset as the teacher had shouted at him again.He didn't understand and put his hand up, she came over and told him that he 'should' understand and turned away from him. She helped some of the other children. Ds needed to go to the toilet and the teacher wouldn't let him go, she told him 'it's not like you've done any work for the past two hours'.

I know my ds wouldn't make something like this up, the phrasing stone is completely unlike him. AIBU to complain to the headteacher?

Move schools, once you find a school with a place it could literally be the next day once the school gets the request via the local Ed authority, I did it online on the Wednesday and his last day at the school was the Friday. I would do it now so he has the summer term to settle in.

Thanks, the head at the current school has asked me to have a meeting with her, the current class teacher and ds new class teacher in September who is also the school SENCO. They said it was to help support him at the school. This is planned for next week.

However, my original complaint was about the current class teacher who has not denied telling ds that he 'should know' how to do the Maths despite struggling, refusing toilet access and telling him it's 'not like you've done anything for the past few hours'. She also refused to help ds and this has left him anxious.

Much of my original complaint wasn't addressed and now I am not sure what they new meeting will involve. Ds has problems with Maths but I don't necessarily think this is a special need. I could be wrong but I feel the original point has been lost.

Make sure you have your original complaint in writing when you go so that the points you made can be addressed. You need to find out what they are putting in place to make sure he is learning, and can use the toilet, and how she will keep him motivated and engaged.

I would ask to speak to the teacher . The priority is t remove your son's feelings of anxiety. As for,someone insisting, that he goes to the toilet on request, the school will have a policy in this. It likely your son can go at break(are there two?) And dinner time. Good luck

Any particular reason you're bumping a 10 month old thread about children going to the toilet @BCBird ?

venusmay · 24/03/2022 12:46

I spoke to the class teacher earlier and she was quite dismissive of everything. She didn't deny saying those things to ds and just said she keeps saying his name in class because she wanted to keep him on task. She said she didn't want him to disrupt the session by going to the toilet but the TA had let him go later in the afternoon.

I wonder is he isn't asking to go to the toilet as a legitimate way of getting out of a stressful, unpleasant situation.

I had an awful teacher for maths, when I was 12. It's something I struggled with, in parts. She'd tell us to turn to a page, drone on for a couple of minutes and then sit down to read a novel, or do marking; Heaven help you if you asked for help!

She'd come round after a while and if you were stuck, turn the text book round so she could read it, bang it a few times with her finger, shouting some sort of instruction. If you still didn't understand, you'd get thrown out for being a water, or disruptive. In the end, I stopped going at all.

Why are all these threads being dragged up? Every thread I open is an old one that's been dragged up again

I had a teacher like this OP, only he shamed me in front of the class, calling me thick etc. The truth is, I didn’t try because I had a fear of maths and number and wasn’t helped or encouraged sufficiently. Kids generally don’t ‘’not try’’ for the hell of it. The likelihood is they struggle! I hate this damn attitude of children not trying!

In the end I gave up completely because he would ignore me when I asked for help. I later achieved better at maths when I was older and ready, although I’m still not great at it. Some people just aren’t.

It’s a disgrace and I would definitely take this further if your son’s version of events is true. It’s damaging to kids.

Sorry, realised it’s an old thread. Point still stands 😂

I would raise it with the teacher but via email so you have a paper trail to refer to should this continue to be an issue.

I would be particularly concerned at not letting a LO use the loo, and that a child’s need to urinate somehow correlates with how hard they work.

Worth bearing in mind that old saying “his version, her version and the truth”/“3 sides to every story”

Talk to the teacher, it might make her think twice about how she talks to your DS and may help them both improve the relationship moving forward.

There's a famous troll who bumps random threads when HQ might not be fully staffed. Then of course there's the piss troll who likes threads about children going to the toilet in particular.

Oh really? How annoying.

I dont think this is a colossal waste of their time at all. It's part of their kob and it needs addressing quickly - whatever the rights and wrongs

Bugger! Zombie!

I thjnk the number of zombie threads being reactivated is due to the new feature which brings up a list of similar threads regardless of how old they are.

I don't tend to look at date