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To be finding it so impossible to work FT and lose weight?

137 replies

Fat13 · 19/03/2022 08:01

Of course, this is on some level ridiculous because people do work full time and do lose weight or maintain a healthy weight and lifestyle but for whatever reason I don’t. I had a long period where I wasn’t working as lockdown 1 ran into my maternity leave so I was off for nearly 18 months. I did so much walking and managed gym visits when they started again, lost a lot of weight.

Now back at work and I just … can’t. Just so tired and run down I crave food and the cravings are overwhelming in a way they weren’t when I was off.

Anyone find the same?

OP posts:
Beautiful3 · 19/03/2022 16:48

Could you perhaps fit in a jog before work/bed?

FellWanderer · 19/03/2022 17:01

I'm a teacher and also managed to exercise well in lockdown one and then completely fell off the wagon when school started properly again. I've recently got back into exercise and healthy eating and find short bursts on the exercise bike is what works for me. I'm up at 6 too and also couldn't face getting up any earlier! I get straight on the exercise bike when I get home twice a week and then first thing in the morning on the weekend. I'm only snacking on fruit/veg which isn't an issue when I'm at school anyway as I'm too busy for anything else. I find having a cup of tea after my evening meal stops me from reaching for the biscuits.

Jjjbbbg · 19/03/2022 17:22

I do feel for you OP - i think you enough on your plate right now - a non sleeping toddler & a full time job - Ive been there, being realistic you will not start running or going to gym in this period. I would focus on 2 small realistic habits like a protein and water target. Maybe focus on not putting on more weight rather than losing weight, sometimes when the pressure is off thats when results come. Also rather than no treats to start maybe low cal versions - eg bag of pop chips, a curly wurly and a diet drink in evening (i know i know aspartame is bad!)

OatmilkandCookies · 19/03/2022 17:40

16:8 is really, really good. It's great for weight loss and maintenance, and you pick your 8 hour window. Mine is 2-10 as I work late and rarely get much time to eat while at work anyway so normally its a small lunch and decent dinner for me, and I don't do it on my weekends off work- it works for me, but I only have two in a month anyway!
If you walk now, you could try upping that to a jog/run when you can, even if it's only once or twice a week. Running is amazing for stress management and looking after your mental health as well as great exercise.

ImplementingTheDennisSystem · 19/03/2022 17:56

Check out Heather Robertson on YouTube. I'm loving her home workouts. I do a couple a week, plus other exercise. You only need a yoga mat.

Ghostmooncup · 19/03/2022 18:21

I'm with you @Fat13 I lost weight on mat leave but it piles back on when I'm at work and I have a really active job.

For me it's not having energy to exercise after work ( and I do feel the benefit from exercise), or the time to plan healthy food. So we end up falling back into old habits.

I know low carb works for me but planning family meals in addition to low carb makes twice the work. Paul McKenna - I can make you thin has also worked for me in the past. It's behaviour Change and takes very little effort, but you do have to be mindful when eating and when you are rushing around you forget.

I too am rushing to work and rushing back leaving little option to fit exercise in. It's very difficult with young children - I wish I knew the answer.

What I am trying to do atm is carve out time to give me the headspace and planning space to start again.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 19/03/2022 18:41

@Fat13

So I think what people are maybe missing is I did lose a huge amount of weight when I wasn’t working. I honestly don’t mean this rudely - it’s a shame people keep taking it that way - but when you get a lot of diet advice it can be a bit stressful and overwhelming just because what suits one person doesn’t necessarily get on with another.

Of course I realise exercise isn’t the most important thing with weight loss but activity does matter and there is a subtle difference.

People still keep saying don’t buy it then - like I say if it was that simple literally no one would smoke.

Not really. It's more like having a fully charged vape available instead of running out to the shop to get 20 Marlboro Touch because you have nothing.

It's planning ahead for when you are most vulnerable - by not buying them in the first place, but putting other, more nutritious things in their place that still fulfil the craving for sweet or salty/savoury, it means that you're more likely to be able to deal with the late afternoon/early evening dip in energy and mood in a way that doesn't sabotage all your efforts during the day. And it provides some protein and fat, which means that it's more satisfying -

Whilst a packet of Tesco Triple Chocolate Cookies can easily be eaten in one or two goes in an hour or so, that's 100kcal each cookie and about 1000kcal in a pack. And you still need dinner for the savoury and salty and some actual nutrition.

If you have planned for that dip when you're tired and got the sort of things I suggested in advance, you can go to the fridge and take out two mini Camembert at 70kcal each, four Ryvita chia seed crispbreads at 38kcal each, a handful of grapes at about 33kcal and you've had

Fat
Protein
Carb
Savoury
Salty
Sweet
Crunchy
Creamy
Soft

all for around half the number of calories that those cookies would represent, you wouldn't feel slightly sick and you've made a choice that is not going to result in you castigating yourself and getting into the self hatred narrative again.

The other advantage of doing that is that you might feel less bleurgh without the crash in blood sugar and therefore have a little more energy which could make it possible for you to do some sort of exercise that makes you feel good.

If those triggery foods aren't there when you feel that dip and craving, you have to seriously think about whether you really, really need them as it requires effort to go back out and buy them.

From experience, it's a lot easier to change old habits by planning than it is to tell myself 'I just won't do it' whilst deliberately putting those habits in front of me exactly when I'm feeling more vulnerable.

Hont1986 · 19/03/2022 19:21

I was similar to you, OP. I wanted to lose weight, knew 'how to', but was just too drained from work to make any attempt really stick. I also felt that other people had it easier with more free time, stronger willpower, etc.

In the end, I just had to stop all the excuses and start. The first two or three weeks sucked. And then it gradually gets easier and easier to stick to the new habits, to keep the new routine. It doesn't take strong willpower or free time. It just needs you to tough out the initial few weeks.

Darbs76 · 19/03/2022 19:34

Of course it’s possible. Plan ahead and make lunches to take with you, and get some exercise in after work

SallyAnn32 · 19/03/2022 20:12

I'm in a similar position and struggling. By the time I've got my 2 DD's in bed and finished my evening jobs it's going on for 10pm and I'm exhausted by that point. I'm going to try the 16/8 thing after reading it on this thread. SW and 5:2 proved pointless for me as it didn't help. I have managed to do 9,000 steps a day for the last 2 weeks. The scales haven't changed but it's got to be helping in some way!

NotMeNoNo · 19/03/2022 20:26

I'm in a similar position too. I've never been really thin but a stressful full time job in lockdown (plus high needs DC) meant there was nothing left for me: no time, no willpower. I would cut yourself some slack. As PP said try to keep from putting on any more, eat nice & healthy food and try to make time for yourself. If you are a FT teacher with pre school DC you have a lot to handle every day. From my experience I'd say you might need to reduce your working days to have enough time to follow a fitness/weight loss programme. Don't compare yourself with people who have never put on weight in the first place. Losing and keeping it off is a very different matter and needs a lot of focus.

UnexpectedItemInShaggingArea · 19/03/2022 21:25

People still keep saying don’t buy it then - like I say if it was that simple literally no one would smoke.

Not everyone who smokes wants to give up.

I read a good article recently which said that a motivated, no-stressed you can make good decisions for an unmotivated, stressed future you. There will be times in your stressful week when you do feel compelled to change your lifestyle, if you can harness that when you are doing your weekly shop that will help.

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