House guest sneakily adding your wifi to their phone is rude yes?

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I mean, I don't mind any guest accessing my wifi BUT at least ask right?

No. Not rude.

I don't know really - I think it is a bit rude to just go and get the password off the back of the router and log on without asking. Host might have limited data usage per month (though I appreciate most people have unlimited these days).
But on the other hand, when I have guests I just say to them when they arrive "feel free to use the WIFI, password is on the router"

They were probably scared to ask you as you seem so uptight and weird about it.

@Whatisthisthing87

It’s not rude at all. It doesn’t mean you have to pay any more and also they might not have wanted to hassle you when they can just get the password from the router themselves. Curious as to why you are bothered. Do guests have to ask to use your loo too?

As I said before- is having wifi access now regarded as just as vital as access to a toilet? How sad.

Who's the guest? I'm going step son?

@CrazylazyJane

I think it's common decency to ask to take anything in someone else's home - "do you mind if I grab myself a glass of water?" Or "would you mind if I grabbed your WiFi password". However, I also think if you don't offer the WiFi password to someone staying over night, then that's also a bit rude as a host and makes it awkward for your guest.

I agree with this. Its just common courtesy to ask. Or a quick would you mind if….

@hangrylady

They were probably scared to ask you as you seem so uptight and weird about it.

If the guest found the code by snooping around the room loking for the router when the OP was in different room I cam understand why they would feel weird about it.

OP how did you know they were using your wifi? Do you check your wifi for the devices using it on a regular basis?

It would have been polite to ask, but if they needed it in a hurry then no issue with it, as long as they are not downloading dark web porn!

Can't say it would bother me

The polite thing to do would be to ask first, I agree. Surprised by the number of people who routinely offer the password but then, we have always lived in cities (=decent G4/5) and most of our friends have generous data packages, so there is generally no need for it.

If there were something data-intense to access, we would offer, as would our friends and family, but for a social visit that isn't overnight, I am not sure what that would be.

I think it's a bit inhospitable not to offer the password to guests. We have it written on a card in guest bedroom.

Am I missing something here?

I don’t understand why people think it’s rude to use the WiFi in someone’s house?

It doesn’t cost you anything to share it does it, and it’s not like you only have a set amount or anything.

Sorry, no read the whole thread but confused as to why it’s a problem? We have it written on our fridge, don’t care who uses it!

I cannot imagine anyone not giving access to WiFi to their guests. It’s not like it is costing you anything.

Obv I’m sneaky then 😱😂🙄😛

As I have been known to take off the box

Knowing my friends wouldn’t mind

Fir work I obv always ask and they always give to me on the first time I’m there

Some friends ask and when they click on my WiFi it comes up on my phone share code with …….

@Cheshirecatwoman

Am I missing something here?

I don’t understand why people think it’s rude to use the WiFi in someone’s house?

It doesn’t cost you anything to share it does it, and it’s not like you only have a set amount or anything.

Sorry, no read the whole thread but confused as to why it’s a problem? We have it written on our fridge, don’t care who uses it!

As my mum would say, 'manners cost nothing either'. It's good manners to ask before you using something that doesn't belong to you.

Sure @AnnUumellmahaye
But the very fact that the op used the word 'sneakily' implies that they had to go behind her back to get it. That is far ruder from the op.

In any normal situation...
'Can I use your WiFi password?'
'sure'

Clearly this situation would have been
'Can I use your WiFi password?'
' How very dare you?'

Yes I probably would ask, like I’d ask to use the toilet, for politeness but I can’t really see the big debate as to why it’s a problem.

Is it more to do with not thinking people should need the code?

Maybe I'm aghast that a grown adult can't live for an evening without their phone, and maybe have I don't know, a conversation

There’s a certain irony to this comment as you’re spending time on mumsnet rather then having, I don’t know, a conversation!

Maybe they needed it for work, maybe so a family member could contact them - there could be any reason! I think you’ve made a problem where there is none - perhaps they couldn’t find you to ask for the password?

Out of interest how did you know they were using your wifi? Did you check to see who was logged on?

@arethereanyleftatall

Sure *@AnnUumellmahaye* But the very fact that the op used the word 'sneakily' implies that they had to go behind her back to get it. That is far ruder from the op.

In any normal situation...
'Can I use your WiFi password?'
'sure'

Clearly this situation would have been
'Can I use your WiFi password?'
' How very dare you?'

It doesn't necessarily mean they had to go behind her back to get it, just that they actually did. Perhaps the OP hadn't had a chance to offer it yet (perhaps in the kitchen to make a drink) or didn't realise that her guest needed it. The guest should have asked. Tbh when I have guests I assume they are here to see me, not to use the wifi.

Only on mumsnet 😁

I’m so glad I don’t know some of you in real life 😂

I leave the WiFi password next to my spare bed for any guests, because I can never remember it and it's just easier than rooting around each time.

If anyone was popping round just for the evening, I wouldn't think to offer it but also wouldn't be bothered if they asked for/went looking for it (though good luck to them as it's a bit inaccessible!).

@arethereanyleftatall

Sure *@AnnUumellmahaye* But the very fact that the op used the word 'sneakily' implies that they had to go behind her back to get it. That is far ruder from the op.

In any normal situation...
'Can I use your WiFi password?'
'sure'

Clearly this situation would have been
'Can I use your WiFi password?'
' How very dare you?'

If someone doesn't want to share something with you in their home, its quite rude to then go an help yourself to without their consent. It's not comparable to using the toilet, or getting a drink of water. They are basic human needs, using someone's wifi isn't.

I'm honestly so surprised people would find this an issue. I have a guest network, and the password is in view of guests. No need to ask.

As my mum would say, 'manners cost nothing either'.
It's good manners to ask before you using something that doesn't belong to you.

As my mum would say, if you have a guest in your home you ensure they feel welcome.