House guest sneakily adding your wifi to their phone is rude yes?

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I mean, I don't mind any guest accessing my wifi BUT at least ask right?

I wouldn't give a shit if a house guest got the password from the router. It would save me the job of telling them it and it's not like it would cost us any extra money.

Bit impolite of guest not to ask first, very rude of host not to offer it!

@Chimchiminie
It’d be odd if they just went and read the back of the router while you were in the room with them and didn’t make reference to what they were doing, but if they’ve been left to their own devices then no not at all sneaky.

Why is it different if the guest did it while the host was in the room, and if guest waits until the host is out of the room locking all the toilet doors and drinks glasses away until permission is granted and does it anyway?!

OP I still think YANBU and am surprised at the voting.

Still, there we are, we're obviously hideously awful hosts

I'm always up for conversation but there are things that come up, when it's entirely reasonable to refer to my phone. What was the name of the place we stayed, or do you remember ... where a picture can really help enrich the conversation.
A few whatapp messages, should not require the use of someone else's wifi.
And if I had invited someone over for a few hours and they were intending on using a lot of data during the visit, I would wonder what the point of their visit was. My home is not a wifi hotspot for them to download a few films, or watch youtube videos.

Yabu. It's vvv rude not to offer it as you would a drink when they arrive if they staying overnight

I would expect it to be honest. I don't see how it is rude, it's not costing anymore. Friends and family have done it before when I haven't been around to ask.

No it's not rude. I would have liked them to ask me, just so I know they're connected to the WiFi but it wouldn't bother me if they didn't. I think you're making a mountain out of a mole hill.

I think it’s rude to have not to have offered in the first place.

You could have just told them they're not welcome and to not visit again, OP.

Yup - this, hence 'sneakily'. Maybe I'm aghast that a grown adult can't live for an evening without their phone, and maybe have I don't know, a conversation.

That’s an entirely different situation. You sound sneery and mean.

I honestly couldn’t give a shiny shit that someone I cared enough to invite into my home as a guest used my Wi-Fi.

If you are in a place where wifi data is uncapped then I cannot see why it would matter to anyone? My wifi data is "soft capped", ie if I go above a certain level it doesn't turn off but is massively slowed down until the end of the month. So if someone was staying with us for for a few days and streaming all day long it would be likely to affect us, and I might ask them to be a bit careful. Otherwise, I can't see why it would be an issue.

When anyone comes to visit us the first thing my autistic and very tech-involved DS does is tell them the wifi code!

You could use the argument "says who" about most things. But Surely it's obvious that if your friend invites you round for a few hours it's because they want to talk to you? Your messages can wait a few hours.

Friend? I don't think OP sounds at all friendly.

You're being a bit weird, OP. They've used their initiative rather than bothering you for the code. Most people know it's usually written on or near a router. Personally I'd ask, only because we change ours so a guest wouldn't be able to find it themselves, so perhaps other people do too. But if they've found a password and it works, then what IS the problem? It's not like it's costing you anything extra.

YANU as I can’t see what difference it makes? Why wouldn’t guests be able to use your wifi? How did they get the passcode? You either gave it to them or you have it plastered on a wall somewhere (which presumably guests would think for their benefit as it’s odd otherwise), or your wifi is not protected so all of your neighbours are probably using it as well.

Yup - this, hence 'sneakily'. Maybe I'm aghast that a grown adult can't live for an evening without their phone, and maybe have I don't know, a conversation.

Did you find out they had connected when you were trying to have a conversation with them and they ignored you because they were on their phone? If so, they are rude, but not for connecting to your wifi!

Going to someone elses house I would just use my 4G to be honest BUT a guest using my wifi wouldn't bother me whatsoever whether they asked or not. I wouldn't think anything of it

You do realise that it doesn't cost you any extra, don't you?

If they are overnight guests, wouldn't you offer it to them?

If it’s someone who has been before they will automatically link
Who is this visitor?? you decided you did it them v quickly so not a good friend

It’s not rude at all. It doesn’t mean you have to pay any more and also they might not have wanted to hassle you when they can just get the password from the router themselves. Curious as to why you are bothered. Do guests have to ask to use your loo too?

A number of people ask what difference it makes if you give your WiFi code out to people.

Friends is one thing but an acquaintance is quite another thing.

I'm sure this is very extreme, but I've heard about a young who had his friend stopping for a while. The friend was then accessing very inappropriate websites from the homeowners WiFi. The police were involved and all sorts of investigations took place.

Yup - this, hence 'sneakily'. Maybe I'm aghast that a grown adult can't live for an evening without their phone, and maybe have I don't know, a conversation.

Oh grow up. Totally on the guest’s side here.

Why wouldn’t you want to share your WiFi with a guest?

@MrsLegend

A number of people ask what difference it makes if you give your WiFi code out to people.

Friends is one thing but an acquaintance is quite another thing.

I'm sure this is very extreme, but I've heard about a young who had his friend stopping for a while. The friend was then accessing very inappropriate websites from the homeowners WiFi. The police were involved and all sorts of investigations took place.

Well it’s clearly someone she has invited into her home so who cares how close they are. Would you base using the loo on how close the friendship is too? It’s probably very unlikely that this person is looking at illegal websites.