House guest sneakily adding your wifi to their phone is rude yes?

[HDDD]

I mean, I don't mind any guest accessing my wifi BUT at least ask right?

Not giving them the password is rude.

@Quitelikeit

I really can’t understand why you are upset? I’m assuming if you allowed this person in your home that they are a family member or friend?

It’s none of your concern whether they can go without WiFi for one night? Unless you needed or wanted their undivided attention?

Presumably the OP invited them round because she did want their undivided attention. That's quite normal. If you are invited into someone's home you should put your phone away and interact with them.

This is such a complete non-issue.

@VainAbigail

Lol to this - it must be!

Do you expect them to ask permission to use your lavatory? You're being unreasonable.

No. Don’t you like your friends?

Nope - normal.

Presumably the OP invited them round because she did want their undivided attention. That's quite normal. If you are invited into someone's home you should put your phone away and interact with them.

Says who? Sorry, but if I want to check messages and emails, I will!

Ive done this at my fil house-he said he didnt know whereit was-*not really good at tech) so i helped myself

@HoneyFlowers

Do you expect them to ask permission to use your lavatory? You're being unreasonable.

It's weird that you feel that using wifi is just as important as being able to use the toilet! I know some people are addicted to their phones but having someone's wifi code really isn't in the same league as being able to use their loo and soap.

Im baffled you’re petty enough to be peed at this
But close enough to the person in question to have them as a guest

@HELLITHURT

Presumably the OP invited them round because she did want their undivided attention. That's quite normal. If you are invited into someone's home you should put your phone away and interact with them.

Says who? Sorry, but if I want to check messages and emails, I will!

You could use the argument "says who" about most things. But Surely it's obvious that if your friend invites you round for a few hours it's because they want to talk to you? Your messages can wait a few hours.

You sound like you don't actually like this guest very much? If people come to my house one of the first things I do is give them the wifi code. This doesn't result in them not giving me their "undivided attention" - which to be frank I don't want - but it does mean that they can use their phone if I am in the kitchen preparing dinner, getting drinks etc. Given that our mobile signal is dreadful it also means that they can get any important child/elderly parent etc related messages.

DontBuyANewMumCashmere
I'm saying YANBU on the basis that you say it was sneakily done, which implies you didn't give the password but the guest found the router and perhaps got the password off the back of the little key code thingy?

If this is the case I think it's really cheeky. I would always ask if this was OK first!
Yup - this, hence 'sneakily'. Maybe I'm aghast that a grown adult can't live for an evening without their phone, and maybe have I don't know, a conversation.

Lol what. No, not sneaky at all. Why would they imagine your have a problem with them connecting to WiFi? It’s on a par with being upset that they didn’t make a point of asking if it’s ok to pour themselves a glass of tap water. It’d be odd if they just went and read the back of the router while you were in the room with them and didn’t make reference to what they were doing, but if they’ve been left to their own devices then no not at all sneaky.

* Maybe I'm aghast that a grown adult can't live for an evening without their phone, and maybe have I don't know, a conversation.*

They sensed you were judged about phone use
Hence did it without asking

Good on them

YABVU op

This wouldn’t bother me at all. It doesn’t cost you anything extra, so why are you upset?

Weird.
It's just part of being a good host.
Do you ration the water and tea?

Maybe I'm aghast that a grown adult can't live for an evening without their phone, and maybe have I don't know, a conversation

How judgemental, and not what asked in your original post at all!

Maybe I'm aghast that a grown adult can't live for an evening without their phone, and maybe have I don't know, a conversation.

I'm always up for conversation but there are things that come up, when it's entirely reasonable to refer to my phone. What was the name of the place we stayed, or do you remember ... where a picture can really help enrich the conversation.

Why use mobile data when you are surrounded by WiFi? And if they know you disapprove, that's likely why it was done sneakily.

@violetbunny

If they are staying with me (eg overnight) then it wouldn't bother me in the slightest, any more than helping themselves to a glass of water or having a shower.

This exactly.

Did you deliberately not give out the password, to control their internet access?

I am always up for conversation but I keep my phone on because I have a number I of vulnerable people who rely on me .

I think that's the same as running a tap or switching on a light. It's a basic utility you expect someone to provide when in your home.

Unless they rummaged through your bedside drawer or something to get the password (as opposed to just looking on the back of the router) then YABU

It seems very strange to withhold WiFi from a guest. I always offer.