Cancel the whole thing?

[Anon53228]

Having photos done for our house next week so we can get it on the market. Already delayed it twice due to not getting house photo ready. Today I just lost my temper at DH and told him to cancel the whole thing and let’s not move. I’m really overwhelmed. I do 100% of the cleaning, cooking and taking care of our 2 young kids (under 5) and I work full time. He does nothing except go to work. He literally finished his dinner, leaves plate on table and goes to bed leaving me to deal with bedtime for kids abs clean up after dinner.

I’m embarrassed with the estate agent coming next week as house is a tip. Theres clothes everywhere and I’m really depressed which makes anything a huge issue. I’ve told him to just cancel it and we’re going to live here for ever now. I cannot cope. Shall I just leave it or shall I take a breather and spend all night cleaning?

I absolutely hate him. He never understands the pressure on me. I asked him to help me for just one hour this weekend and he hasn’t. It’s just clothes everywhere and dishes piling up.

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Has he always been like this why are you doing everything? you either need a talk or to just leave

You don't have to have immaculate photos to sell a house.

They don’t half help though!

Have a good tidy, then get a cleaner in for a deep clean.

Engage a cleaner on a permanent basis. There is absolutely no excuse in 2022 for any person being a slob. If you keep doing it, nothing will change. He is getting away with it and not stepping up because he has you to do it.

I can see past bad photos and it wouldn’t put me off.
Address your DH issue though- he’s setting a terrible example to your kids and it’s a total lack of respect towards you. And your kids tbh.. if he physically doesn’t contribute to their care, ever, it tells them something about how he feels about them. I’m not surprised your depressed- your living a horrible existence. Get rid op you deserve 10000x better.. and a lovely new house. Good luck xox

just get some washing baskets and clear the clutter before the photos. That's really all you need to do. Houses sell themselves these days! Your husband sounds like an arse tho.

Get a cleaner for a few hours to tidy and clean the house for you. Get the photos done. Sell the house. Rethink your marriage.

ours was a mess.spent 3 full days hiding things/moving things work round a room at a time,declutter a bit/hide it.have you got a garage or a shed you can hide a bit in,we had 82 people want to look round ours after 3 days, just did 1 day viewing estate agent picked top 10 people with cash or a sure bet,sold first day,they all offered over the price,good luck

Omg. Get the house on the market, sell it, split the cost between you and h, and split up. Get your ex to pay CMS for your dc.

What a waste if space your h is.

Told me to make sure it looks presentable before pictures

So EA thinks it’s your job? Are you happy to bring up your DC thinking this is how life should be?

Some people when selling their houses make it a condition that their cat is included in the sale, it happened to a friend of mine......just saying 😉

Don't leave IT
Leave HIM

The man literally doesn't anything to your life. Except for headaches.

We did our own pictures during lockdown. We just piled the crap into one corner of the room and took the picture and then repeated throughout the house. It looked fab and no-one knew our little secret 😂

To be fair, you could fake it but then you’re just going to have the stress of it looking messy for viewings so I think you need to bite the bullet somehow.