My miscarriage is inconvenient for a friend

[LittleMrsMama]

I had a miscarriage earlier this year and in my close group of friends one is pregnant a little before I was meant to be due. She was so lovely when I miscarried and sent flowers and a nice message.

Although it's been tough I've continued to join in with her celebrations (like gender reveal) and chat about her pregnancy. However, she said to one of the girls that she wishes I hadn't miscarried and wants me to get pregnant again soon because she feels it's been 'inconvenient' timing with attention on my miscarriage rather than her pregnancy.

I'm not sure why she feels this way. I've never spoken about my miscarriage in person, just when it happened to the group via text (they knew I was pregnant)

AIBU to be upset by this?

Thanks for all the support. I know it'll sound silly when so many people on here posted about my friend that was the 'messenger' but her actions never really crossed my mind until now.

She's said most of typical things you shouldn't say to someone going through a miscarriage 'at least it was early' 'it just wasn't meant to he' 'everything happens for a reason' ' when will you try again?' I know they often come with good intent so tried not to think anything of it and thought she was just being clumsy with her words, but sounds like she may have the problem here or wants to create drama

Thanks for the help, I will carry on trusting my pregnant friend and will be very careful with my other friend

Yeah perhaps the messenger friend was projecting a bit so presented your other friend's words in a way that reflects her own feelings on the matter rather than what your friend actually meant.

On further reflection, I am quite sure that she didn't complain that you were taking attention away from her pregnancy; apart from more empathetic concerns, anyone with half a brain would realize that saying something like that would give others an awful impression of themselves. I am sure that this was the mutual 'friend's' own interpretation.