As per subject line. I feel that he should be doing more to stick up for me with this stupid situation I have found myself in.
In our village, there is currently a very controversial project potentially going to be taking place. Essentially, the parish council would need to take out a loan towards this which they would be asking residents to fund for the next 30 years, in the form of a council tax increase. It’s a completely non-essential project, especially considering the current state of the economy and the cost of living having increased so greatly recently. This has turned out to -unsurprisingly- be controversial locally, with the vast majority of residents being very much against it.
My husband and I are both on the village community Facebook page. Hubby is reluctant to be on this as he does not like Facebook at all, but we both joined it when we moved here so that we could keep up-to-date with any villagey related issues/news and the like.
Recently there had been a lot of posts on the group relates to the above project. As I said, it seems that most residents are greatly against it taking place, apart from the odd few. One guy in particular is very “passionate” about it. He is of course entitled to that opinion, but it is the way that he is going about it… extremely aggressively. I made the mistake of getting into a discussion with him around a week ago, but he has pushed and pushed and goaded me into replying each time, and has now got to the stage of being absolutely vile with me. Normally my reaction would be to block anybody like this, however he has REALLY got to me.. he’s a smart a* with an answer to everything and he’s one of these people that you keep feeling like you have GOT to reply to to get your point across.
The problem is, he has started to get extremely personal with me. He has now run out of arguments and has started insulting me on my physical appearance, based on my profile pic.
I told my husband, and I said to him that it would be nice if he commented, defending me, seeing as I’m his wife. Hubby’s reply was to tell me that he does not see the point in getting involved, that we don’t want to give somebody like this idiot guy the satisfaction of seeing us upset, and that I should just block him and move on.
But, why won’t he defend me?! I’m his wife and it upsets me that he won’t!
Would anybody else feel like this in the same situation?
Hubby says that the absolute best thing to do is not rise to it, that this guy on Facebook is just looking for a reaction from me, which he is clearly getting, and it is fuelling him to make further comments.
I just feel that hubby should defend me - AIBU?