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To think we should all sleep in separate rooms?

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Pipsquiggle · 09/03/2022 19:59

Lighthearted thread.

My DH has covid - his 2nd bout in 6 weeks - therefore I am sleeping in the spare room and I am bloody loving it.

Better quality of sleep, having my own bed, not worrying if I am waking up DH when I go to bed, waking up naturally......... I could go on.

Just wondered if anyone else felt the same.

I know mega posh couples who live in castles / palaces have their own bedrooms and I totally get it.

OP posts:
nearlyspringyay · 09/03/2022 21:23

We both snore so one or other of us leaves t nights. I bloody love sleeping by myself.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 09/03/2022 21:24

In an ideal world I'd have the same set up as on The Crown - separate bedrooms opposite one another with a sort of sitting room/dressing area adjoining.

Ohmybod · 09/03/2022 21:24

Completely agree!

I sometimes tell DH that one of the kids is scared and he should sleep in with them (he’s a bit of a softy like that) to get the bedroom to myself. I love DH but I might just love the bedroom a teensy bit more.

MajorCarolDanvers · 09/03/2022 21:25

I don't live in a castle but me and DH have had separate rooms for a few years now. We both much prefer it.

TillyTopper · 09/03/2022 21:25

We've slept separately for 2 years - I love it! I can get up without worrying I am waking DP, he can snore to his heart's content, no grabbing the duvet, room the temperature you want it! YANBU.

toconclude · 09/03/2022 21:26

Nope. Three bedrooms spare here ( kids flew the nest years ago) and I still sleep next to his nibs each night. But everyone is different.

AbcdeforgetU · 09/03/2022 21:26

@allthegoodusernameshavegone

We have separate bedrooms, wouldn’t have it any other way, I love my bed to myself
Same here! We’ve had separate bedrooms for most of our relationship, we’ve been together 13 years.
Halllyup17 · 09/03/2022 21:26

I don't mind sleeping with just my husband because he keeps me warm, but as soon as a child gets in the middle of us I leave him with the child and I go and sleep in the child's bed. It's so much better!

Sceptre86 · 09/03/2022 21:27

Nope buy we are coming up to 8 years and even with a 6 month old the spark is still there. I'd need a hot water bottle or bed socks to keep my feet warm if dh wasn't there. I sleep better of he is close.

toconclude · 09/03/2022 21:28

And we don't disturb each other at all, even though we have to go downstairs to the bathroom for the loo

alltheapples · 09/03/2022 21:28

Whenever someone talks about kids getting into bed with them, a lot of people say it is unnatural for humans to sleep alone.

Rosebel · 09/03/2022 21:30

@BeingATwatItsABingThing

I must be unusual in that I don’t sleep as well when my DH isn’t with me.
I'm the same. DH works away sometimes and I hate having the bed to myself. Always feels cold and lonely.
Leftbutcameback · 09/03/2022 21:30

We sleep separately a lot of the time - because of different bed times, snoring, sleep talking etc

The only issue is if we need to be in a hotel room on holiday, with one bed, and I often struggle to sleep then.

Davros · 09/03/2022 21:30

Someone needs to tell my cat to stay in her own bed. She does mostly but I get a visit now and then (last night) and I don't sleep as well, much as I love her.
DH on the other hand can fuck off. He keeps very funny hours and I sleep like a log so he doesn't disturb me often. But I'd rather be alone...

gingerhills · 09/03/2022 21:31

I'm too unnerved by the news you can catch Covid twice in 6 weeks to think about the sleeping arrangements. I genuinely didn't realise this was possible. thought it gave you antibodies for at least 3 months.

pussycatunpickingcrossesagain · 09/03/2022 21:31

I'd sleep better if he wasn't breathing near me...

Loveagingernut · 09/03/2022 21:32

I am told I was a night mare sleeping partner.

Duvet on, duvet off, feet out of bed , feet in bed. Wake up regularly, tossing and turning, grinding teeth and snoring .

Much better in separate rooms 💤

MrsTimRiggins · 09/03/2022 21:32

Aw no, I love cuddling up to my husband at night… even tho he’s annoying when he snores! He’s just been away for a week and while I loved having the bed to myself while he was gone, I was very happy to have him back.

CowsAreNotGreen · 09/03/2022 21:32

@gingerhills

I'm too unnerved by the news you can catch Covid twice in 6 weeks to think about the sleeping arrangements. I genuinely didn't realise this was possible. thought it gave you antibodies for at least 3 months.
Oh good point I hadn't spotted that! I have been enjoying a bit more freedom now I've had it under the seemingly mistaken belief I won't get it again for a few months at least.
Xtraincome · 09/03/2022 21:33

It took roughly 5 years out of the 11 we've been together for me to actually like sharing with DH. However, we got a super king size bed and it was a total game changer. Also then had a duvet and a super thick textured blanket in a SK size too so we can sleep more independently.
I enjoy sharing a bed with him as we like sneaky tired morning sex the best.
Saying that though, if a health issue or shift pattern change arose I would absolutely be open to sleeping separately.

Sleep is so bloody important. Bad night's sleep can actually break down relationships. The stigma of sleeping apart needs to disappear.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 09/03/2022 21:34

I used to find it very weird that couples had separate beds, let alone rooms.
But that was when I was rather younger and still slept like a log - even when sharing my DM’s small double bed with dh. We’ve had separate rooms for a year or so now - ever since both having bad colds and waking each other up with coughing, never mind up and down to the loo.

I love being able to read at 2 or 4 am when I can’t sleep, or put the radio on. I do have a Kindle, before anyone mentions it, but even that light used to bother dh. And it no longer disturbs him if I go downstairs in the small hours, make a cup of tea and bring it back to bed.

Abracadabra12345 · 09/03/2022 21:35

@LidlMiddleLover

I’d love to do this but hubby sees it as a horrible idea wont even consider separate beds or even duvets
The same.....
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Porcupineintherough · 09/03/2022 21:38

Generally speaking, no I'd hate it. When one of us is ill however, absolutely.

MissAmbrosia · 09/03/2022 21:38

DH is away tonight. I have put the electric blanket on and will be doing warm starshapes all over the bed.

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