to think I am going to be starving at this wedding?

[Aztecprint6]

Wedding breakfast is at 4:30pm.

Evening food will be wedding cake and some cheese.

AIBU to think I am going to have to bring along a sandwich and some late night snacks?

@giggly

Is a wedding breakfast an English thing I mean why is it called a breakfast in late afternoon, what’s that all about then?

Read the thread. Asked and answered over and over.

This thread is nothing short of astonishing. I actually can’t believe what I’m reading, where people are hurling abuse at the weddings they’ve been guests at, angrily writing that a five course meal over five hours is just not enough food for them and it’s shit and stingy, a poster demanding brides should forego the dress they want or even a photographer to provide extreme catering for their guests, and an op who is taking a whole roast chicken to a wedding with her to eat on top of the five courses.

You actually couldn’t make it up 😂

What do you propose to be adequate catering then?
Been to many weddings over the years and the ones that have always been the best are the ones with a help yourself buffet

Op I'm sure it'll be more than a piece of cheese! It sounds lovely x

where people are hurling abuse at the weddings they’ve been guests at, angrily writing that a five course meal over five hours is shit and stingy
Abuse?
Angrily?!
Are we reading different threads or are you always prone to hyperbole?!

I don’t blame the bride and groom when I’ve been left hungry. It’s always a risk if you’re a vegetarian/vegan at a wedding. I’ve had some shocking three course meals over the years. One main course was half a pepper stuffed with a couple of tablespoons of cous cous and some leafy salad that had come straight out of a bag with no dressing. I was breaking out my emergency sandwich after that.

I don't think anyone has suggested that a bride should forego anything. Spend whatever percentage of your budget you want on your dress/photographer/turtle doves or whatever, but a budget will only go so far. So if you can't afford to cater for 60 guests to be fed in the evening , don't invite 60 guests. Invite 30 guests and cater for them rather than 60, many of whom will get to the point that they're not enjoying the do because they're hungry. It's just basic guest consideration.

@RandomBasic

So you have lunch, at 1pm daily then dinner around 6,7,8.

This thing will be done by 9 so then have a takeaway on the way home.

Since when is a wedding reception done by 9pm?!

I think you’ll be OK OP, but underhand the booze tiredness and no food fear, so bring some snacks.

I understand! Not underhand..

I'd be hungry before 4.30 if I was missing lunch. I'd definitely take something to keep me going before the meal.

Why fear not eating for 3 hours. Unless you're medically compromised, you'll be fine. I'd be too busy having a lovely time to be in fear that I can't get my hands on foooood at a strict time!

I'd take a buffet in a hall or pub over all frills and no food...

I don't think you're being silly, OP, especially because you're at a destination wedding. Personally, considering the hour of the wedding breakfast, if I were planning the second meal, I would offer trays of evening sandwiches, crisps, fruit, crudite, and desserts (wedding cake and maybe assorted biscuits). Still unfussy, but a little more substantial and healthy.

@EeeICouldRipATissue
Only people who are absolutely fixated on food and yeah maybe a bit greedy, they would be the only people that’s only memories of a wedding would be food related! That poor bride and groom! Can you really not remember anything else and talk about anything else from their day? How the bride looked lovely? Nice speeches or something from people who might have since passed away? Just you having a laugh with friends and family? That kind of thing?

@PrincessNutella crudités, fruit, bread etc are all highly likely to be provided with a cheese course

@3Daddy31982
Yeah but NEWSFLASH it not all about you and what you want! And actually on a wedding day most B&Gs will go for quality over quantity. You can get your Wetherspoons pie or chips and sausage rolls any old time!

"plus calories from alcohol", peak Mumsnet. Fill up on wine, dear.

I'd take extra. Eating at 4.30 is for babies.

And you just know it'll be rubbish wedding food for Instagrammers. An asparagus stalk balanced on a leaf, that sort of thing. Food for 'presentation', not eating.

@LuckySantangelo35 can you not see that the majority of people agree that a substantial piece of food should be provided in the evening? It may be the most important day to the B&G but to the guests, who will all be extremely happy for B&G, it's an all day party / celebration and that requires decent amount of food to keep the good times rolling.

Guests will remember funny speeches, the bride looked lovely but do you also want it to be the wedding where everyone remembers it for shit food? I think most people have been to a wedding like that. People will remember the food over the flowers.

It is the B&G day, you say quality over quantity. If you can't afford the quantity then reduce guest numbers because people will remember how hungry they were over how nice the bit of cheese they had was.

I went to a wedding years ago. On paper should have been brilliant. Very generous free bar, gorgeous country house venue, excellent live band. The B&G decided to have a 'casual' vibe and had tapas. Top quality food but everyone was hungry. So despite the free bar and live band, no one was up dancing and every left by 10. There were over 100 guests. Not everyone was a horrible person! They were hungry!

Only people who are absolutely fixated on food and yeah maybe a bit greedy, they would be the only people that’s only memories of a wedding would be food related! That poor bride and groom! Can you really not remember anything else and talk about anything else from their day?

Er, I didn't say it was the only thing?!
You weren't there, it honestly was like I said.
It was a lovely day otherwise, but if there's not enough food people do remember that
(and I'm really not greedy despite my posts maybe coming across differently lol)

@anotherheadache But they are getting food in the evening! A cheese course (which we don’t know what that entails) and cake. This will come only a few hours after what is likely to be a three course wedding breakfast. Its perfectly adequate catering. And I do think people who could complain about that are greedy 🤷‍♀️

And actually on a wedding day most B&Gs will go for quality over quantity
Which usually translates as a couple of prettily arranged vegetables and maybe a slither of meat and drizzle of "jus or coulis'' - - gravy--
All looks fancy, but guests there all day and usually until midnight dancing /drinking will be hungry.
If you can't provide to cater for so many guests, invite less

Strike out fail

@EeeICouldRipATissue

And actually on a wedding day most B&Gs will go for quality over quantity Which usually translates as a couple of prettily arranged vegetables and maybe a slither of meat and drizzle of "jus or coulis'' - - gravy-- All looks fancy, but guests there all day and usually until midnight dancing /drinking will be hungry. If you can't provide to cater for so many guests, invite less

This was what my melon, tiny risotto and espresso cup of chocolate mousse wedding experience was. The main topic of after dinner conversation was how we were all still hungry.

Not really sure why people would feel affronted as being described as greedy also. It’s surely just another adjective to describe behaviour. If you behave in a kind way you might be described as kind. If you behave in an aggressive way you might be described as aggressive. If you behave in a greedy way you will be described as greedy 🤷‍♀️ It’s not a particularly pejorative term…if your behaviour fits it just own it!