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SquirrelFan · 06/03/2022 00:13

@bellac I didn't say anything about snacks! Or not being able to not fancy eating! I am talking about being a part of a family. If he wasn't hungry, he could have sat down and said I've been a bit silly, shouldn't have eaten so late so I'll only have a few chips but tell me how your day went! Instead he disappeared, leaving the OP to carry the conversation [and any "sit down, pleases" or, "ask before you take the last ones" ], and then ate his portion away from the family. I think that's grim behaviour and not very supportive.

bellac11 · 06/03/2022 00:18

'Ive been a bit silly'!!!

Literally have you heard yourself

and again you need to read the OPs post, he went off after being berated by her and her being grumpy. She says that he will eat his later, he may never have done so for all we know.

No one talks like that in our house anyway (or when they were younger), it was in for the kill with what was on the table.

Changemaname1 · 06/03/2022 00:24

@arethereanyleftatall my thoughts exactly !

Clarabe1 · 06/03/2022 00:25

Is it me or is Putins head expanding? It seems to be getting physically bigger. I wondered if he was getting fat then I thought steroids. Or is he that much of a narcissist he is injecting his face. I am wondering if something medically is affecting his brain. He has always been a bastard but this is insane behavior. Perhaps he has got Alzheimer’s. That’s a scary thought

SquirrelFan · 06/03/2022 00:26

@bellac11 We'll just have to agree to disagree--I think he was unsupportive, you think it wan't a big deal, it's neither of our business anyway and it's time for bed!
OP hope you and your DH straighten things out.

bellac11 · 06/03/2022 00:27

@Clarabe1

Is it me or is Putins head expanding? It seems to be getting physically bigger. I wondered if he was getting fat then I thought steroids. Or is he that much of a narcissist he is injecting his face. I am wondering if something medically is affecting his brain. He has always been a bastard but this is insane behavior. Perhaps he has got Alzheimer’s. That’s a scary thought

Its because he snacks between meals. He has an erratic eating pattern.

Clarabe1 · 06/03/2022 00:28

Oh balls- sorry bringing Putin up - wrong thread! Bloody phone!!!

bellac11 · 06/03/2022 00:29

[quote SquirrelFan]@bellac11 We'll just have to agree to disagree--I think he was unsupportive, you think it wan't a big deal, it's neither of our business anyway and it's time for bed!
OP hope you and your DH straighten things out.[/quote]
Agreed!

Hawkins001 · 06/03/2022 00:43

@ThatsOuchy

Am I being unreasonably picky, or can you please help me explain why I find this behaviour so annoying? I'm fully prepared to be told IABU, possibly I'm hormonal right now, I admit.

DH comes into kitchen whilst I am cooking (fish already in the oven, making batches of chips) and announces "I don't think I'll have any dinner tonight, I'm not hungry". So at first I am surprised (haha, husband never turns down food unless unwell!) so I ask did he have a big lunch whilst I was out or did he eat late? He says yes maybe I did eat late for lunch. I raised an eyebrow, 'cause this alone makes me a bit grumpy, based on my expectation that we normally stick to three meals a day and set an example to the kids that they have to come for dinner whether they like it or not. Don't have to eat if not hungry, just turn up to dinner as is expected.

I then proceeded to make only enough chips for me and the two kids and serve up for three of us. After we have sat down to eat, DH saunters into the kitchen and says "I think I will just have a bit of dinner after all". We had at this point barely sat down and it was less than twenty minutes since his last pronouncement. I came out with some "You can't just chop and change... there's not enough chips now" grumpiness, and then proceeded to carry on eating with the kids. He left us to it, but I know full well he will be back in the kitchen in half an hour eating the single leftover fish with his fingers, standing up, and this makes me sad and a bit cross. Why couldn't he just eat as much/little as he wanted, from a plate, with his family?

Was I wrong to be unaccommodating about it (YABU), and if not how would you explain that you feel this is a crappy way to behave?

He certainly was being a pickle

Italiangreyhound · 06/03/2022 00:58

Annoying behaviour from your dh.

I think it is very fair to expect family members to join for meals.

marvellousmaple · 06/03/2022 01:33

I agree about Putin's head. Apparently he has injections. Look at his old photo's . It's obvious.

grapewines · 06/03/2022 01:48

I definitely laughed more at the Putin's "erratic eating pattern" than I should have.

cuno · 06/03/2022 02:00

@Clarabe1

Is it me or is Putins head expanding? It seems to be getting physically bigger. I wondered if he was getting fat then I thought steroids. Or is he that much of a narcissist he is injecting his face. I am wondering if something medically is affecting his brain. He has always been a bastard but this is insane behavior. Perhaps he has got Alzheimer’s. That’s a scary thought

I'm not sure what thread this was meant for. But is it me or does Putin look more like Dr Phil in the face these days? Sans moustache of course.