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Original poster

AIBU? Cancelled sleepover - one hours notice?

96 replies

UpintNorth · 25/02/2022 18:22

Just that really, usually very generous friends, have had our kids numerous times. I’ve offered to reciprocate, but their kids won’t sleep away from home. Half term, declined other invites for a much anticipated sleepover. Friends have texted to say “can we rearrange, not much time to play and we are going out mid morning tomorrow”. Kids bags both packed - both looking forward to it - both now gutted. Am hastily arranging a family film night. AIBU here to be annoyed? I checked with them at 9:30am that was still going ahead?

OP posts:
hellithurt · 25/02/2022 18:24

Yes that's a bit mean for a non emergency situation.

GnomeOrMistAndIceGuy · 25/02/2022 18:25

That's really poor!

pictish · 25/02/2022 18:25

Who is it?

Jedsnewstar · 25/02/2022 18:25

Parents have had a barny.

fleurpots · 25/02/2022 18:26

@Jedsnewstar

Parents have had a barny.
I agree with this!
MoiraNotRuby · 25/02/2022 18:26

I'd assume there was something else going on, maybe a family row and tonight's not a good night. As they are normally good friends I'd be understanding.

pictish · 25/02/2022 18:27

Oh sorry I see…friends. Well, something has come up hasn’t it? Maybe someone’s shattered and cba…maybe they’ve had a row. If this is unusual for them I’d assume it’s not suitable for them to have the kids tonight and move on from it.

luxxlisbon · 25/02/2022 18:27

Since you have said they are generous friends who frequently have their kids over and this is out of character behaviour then I would let it slide. Is it ideal? No but obviously something has happens that mean a sleepover isn’t suitable tonight and she might not want to disclose the reason.

Awrite · 25/02/2022 18:27

I'm sure your kids will get over it

Might be a reason they don't want to disclose.

Normally good friends? Let it go.

JellybabyGina87 · 25/02/2022 18:28

It's an excuse. I doubt that's the real reason. It's annoying but nothing you can do about it.

pictish · 25/02/2022 18:28

Ohh ha ha - I see others have nipped in with the same idea.
I thought ‘they’ve had a row’.

SugarAndCoffee · 25/02/2022 18:29

I agree I think something has happened they aren't wanting to divulge to you

StopFeckingFaffing · 25/02/2022 18:31

Since these are usually generous people who have previously always been pretty reliable I would give them the benefit of the doubt

I'm sure they have their reasons

Original poster
UpintNorth · 25/02/2022 18:38

Thanks all. Appreciate the advice. I suspect there are other reasons, knowing the family. Will let it go.

Thanks Mumsnetters. Thank god OH and I hadn’t booked anything !

OP posts:
ChateauxNeufDePoop · 25/02/2022 18:38

YANBU to be annoyed but if you're good friends and have been for a long time then I'd bite my lip. Hopefully a film (and snacks!) saves all.

ChateauxNeufDePoop · 25/02/2022 18:39

@UpintNorth

Thanks all. Appreciate the advice. I suspect there are other reasons, knowing the family. Will let it go.

Thanks Mumsnetters. Thank god OH and I hadn’t booked anything !

But that's a good point. If they offer in future don't be booking a hotel and event tickets in a neighbouring town!
Bluetrews25 · 25/02/2022 18:40

I'd be more interested in why their DCs will never sleep out.

But, yes, agree with others. Something Significant will have happened. Don't be cross with them.

Whitefire · 25/02/2022 18:43

You say Mum and Dad have had a row, I say the kids have been little terrors and a threat has been carried through.

FateHasRedesignedMost · 25/02/2022 18:45

Something obviously happened eg their kids suddenly don’t want the sleepover, or parents had a row, or they suddenly got weary of hosting your kids when theirs won’t go to yours to sleep. It does seem a bit of an unequal arrangement unless you reciprocate by having their kids regularly for day trips or play dates. Like using them as free babysitters so you can have a whole night to yourselves?

Maybe one of the parents decided no more sleepovers or one of their kids misbehaved and this was the punishment?

I’d let them offer in future and try to have sleepovers with families who let their kids sleep at yours too/kids who want to.

SleepingStandingUp · 25/02/2022 18:46

So you text at 9.30 and it was on and they later cancelled or they canceled at 9.30 and were meant to be having your kids from. 10.30?

OrangeSamphire · 25/02/2022 18:51

Sleepovers can often be a bit hit and miss. I would never arrange a night out if my children were going for a sleepover with anyone but family (not that they do) because the risk that the host will show off and be mean / someone will want to come home etc, is always there.

Let it go and enjoy your family film night.

1forward2back · 25/02/2022 18:53

Could be all sorts of reasons why they’ve cancelled but I know it’ll be disappointing for the kids.

MyFavouritePlace · 25/02/2022 18:57

Sounds like you don't believe them and you think they've had a better offer or made other plans. It's happened to my kids and it sucks!

labyrinthlaziness · 25/02/2022 18:58

Try to be understanding, sometimes shit happens in families. Your kids will cope.

WTF475878237NC · 25/02/2022 18:59

Good response OP. Sometimes we need to look beyond what's been said.

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